Right or Wrong?

Sri Lanka
February 8, 2013 5:03pm CST
Im a cab service driver.(4 months ago) Cab owners wife is trying to have xxx with me. She is beautiful and xxxy. But i don't like have xxx with her. Because I respect my Boss. That women always try to do that when her husband is not at home. That is the reason i leave that job. Yesterday she came to my home and she said to my mother that she loves me soo much, and She wanna marry me. She is 9 years older than me. She says im not come to meet her tomorrow, she comes to our home. This is a biiiiiig problem. Help me FRIENDZZZZZZ.... plz help meeeeeeeee
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16 responses
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
16 Feb 13
Morally and legally you both are wrong but manly you are wrong. You left your job to aviod her but still if she is coming after you. Then give her what she wants but be clear that you won't marry her. Adultry in our country india is a crime but l don't know whether its crime in your country or not. Enjoy her as you are lucky to have such sexy woman crazy about you, but be specific that you wont marry her.
• Sri Lanka
17 Feb 13
I said it... "i cant marry you but i can sleep with you", Then she said "it's ok we'll meet tomorrow"...... im gonna meet her tomorrow....
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
17 Feb 13
jagjit273 I am curious..don't you think it is wrong to sleep with a woman who is married to another?? Ifnot, why not?? I know many do this but usually they know it's wrong......I am wondering if there are those who truly feel it's ok as long as both parties agree..
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
17 Feb 13
First of all correction, MANLY HE IS NOT WRONG, MANLY HE IS RIGHT. Now starly, read my answer again carefully. If you say something to woman, they complain, but, if you don't say to her, then they complain more. So its the timing which one has to make. If she is coming after him. Then he must give her hard time on his condition and enjoy her to full.
• United States
8 Feb 13
Call your ex boss and tell him what his wife is doing behind his back. then go get your job back and make you some money.
@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Feb 13
Right, sometimes it helps just to tell the truth. Tell the boss about the swinging wife in a way that it would not hurt so much to avoid confrontation. Remember the case of Joseph who was seduced by the Pharaoh's wife, he ended in prison when the spurned lady turned the table and made it appear that the man tried to rape her. Its like "Hell hat no fury of a woman spurned," so he should be very careful.
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Feb 13
That is what I am actually afraid for him that if this guy refuse this lady then it will turn to a point that this man is the suspect of the crime.
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
If i tell him, i can't go to that job again. And the other thing is if he want the divorce after it?
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
9 Feb 13
STAND UP! BE A MAN! Tell her to stay away from you! You have morals! You know right from wrong! STAY AWAY FROM HER! You will regret it for the REST OF YOUR LIFE if you do not! Tell her you are dedicated to your future wife! Leave her alone!
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
I can tell her "stay away from me, i have a girlfriend, i hate you, i will tell your husband. etc" But im afraid if she kill herself?
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
9 Feb 13
I didn't say be a jerk. You don't have to say "I HATE YOU!". Of course not! But you also have to make it plain and direct and to the point! "I will not sleep with you!" Then end! Game over! Finished! Because you don't she'll keep trying. The longer she keeps trying, the higher the chance her husband will find out. When your boss finds out his wife is trying to sleep with you... even if you did not.... you are going to be in trouble. Rumors will start. People will talk about you behind your back. It's going to get nasty, and you will regret it. You MUST finish this. Done, once and for all. I am NOT going to sleep with you! You are not my wife! I am not your husband! We're not doing this! And if she kills herself... that's her deal. Are you going to ruin your life over what someone else does? Bad plan. You need to look toward your future wife, not some crazy whored woman.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
Then just go talk to her and you are not interested in her. At least she will know how you truly feel and hopefully she will respect your decision. Also explain to her that she has a husband, they were married because they were in love before, and not throw away their marriage. Or better yet, find a good girl for your own, at least she will know exactly that your not interested in her. Don't let her play you man.
• Sri Lanka
2 Mar 13
I told her..... but it not works...........
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
That is the real man , able to stand in the verge of temptation ! Hats off for you ! The decision to leave the job is very right else your she will be dragging you to the mud. Just stay away from her but when she comes in your home with your mom you tell her frankly that she is married and she must not betray husband and you have nothing for her. Tell her your moral standard and cut all connection from her. God blessed you !
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
Thank you. I think i should tell the whole story to her husband. What do you think about that?
• India
9 Feb 13
Wel come to mylot. Thanks for sharing. Well she might not be a normal woman or may be her hubby is unable to satisfy her, you should meet her husband and tell him every thing in details.
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
Yes im gonna tell the whole story to her husband. Thank you for the respond.
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
What? How could she ever marry you when she is already married. Is she crazy? And how could she ever seduce you and even go to your house without even thinking of her reputation? She must be a woman of low-morale. Now your are telling us help me. How could we help you. You alone can help yourself. Tell the woman you are not interested with her. Send her away and tell her you will report the matter to her husband if she will not stop. Whenever she approaches you run away from her. Flee fornication that is the best solution.
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
Yeah i know, but i cant run away........ I'm gonna tell the whole story to her husband, but im afraid if he want the divorce?
• Canada
9 Feb 13
This is wrong, and good for you for resisting when she is an attractive woman. I agree that maybe you should tell your former boss, but you need to be careful how you tell it. Perhaps just hint that his wife seems lonely and maybe she needs something to keep her busy while he is at work? Maybe he will take the hint that there is some way you know that his wife is lonely and bored! After all, you do not want to be accused of having an affair!
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
If she bored about her husband, then there are so many guys out there. Why she wants me? i cant understand....
@Metatronik (5923)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Feb 13
What she is doing is an adultery already to think that she is already married. I could imagine that she is a nymph where all she likes is just having the deed. I think she wants to do it on you because you are just young, and obviously she is not happy with her husband or she find it out not exciting on his body. Good thing you are man enough to refuse her wants because not all men are like that and they thought that refusing to that beautiful woman is losing an opportunity whereas this is about respect and decency. If you are going to tell that to your former boss I hope he will understand it and he wouldn't get mad to you because his wife likes you and even claiming that she loves you. Too bad that is kind of woman that I can't respect and seems that she can't be that serious on her life.
• Sri Lanka
9 Feb 13
Boss is soooo cruel on his wife. If i tell him, he will kill her.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
17 Feb 13
ErangaEP Wow I usually think of men with this behavior not so much women...I know some women do this, but I still thik WAY more men..am I wrong?? If I were you I would tell the wife she needs to be faithful to her husband and she needs to leave you alone and if she doesn't you will tell her husband...I would try to get the job back if it was a job you liked and made good money. If it's possible to find a better job I would do that so you could stay away from the woman...
@else22 (4319)
• India
16 Feb 13
I appreciate you for not obliging her.It would amount to being disloyalty to your boss who is in the dark about what his wife does behind his back.Such liaisons don't pay.Instead,they may make you land in serious troubles.It seems the woman is either a nympho or dissatisfied with her husband.Whatever be the case,you did the right thing.I would not be surprised if she has other bed partners also.
• Ireland
11 Feb 13
Firstly, don't do it anything with her, sooooooo wrong on so many levels. Also if she is bothering you that much the cut off all contact with her if possible, just distance yourself as much as you can.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Well, you have all the rights to decide on what to do with that lady. Since you know her status, I think you'd better to leave her and not give in to her request. Talk to her that the relationship that she wants is not a good thing...
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Wow...what a girl! I think you are such a very nice man...you don't want to ruin a relationship...just continue being that way...soon enough, that woman will realized what she is doing is definitely wrong and that if her husband will found it out, she will be in big trouble and I think you will also. So I think you have to stay away from her and never tell it on her.
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
9 Feb 13
Have you told this lady that you have no interest in you and that she should leave you alone. If you have then you should talk to her husband next and let him know what is going on that his wife is making advances at you and that you are not interested. Hopefully he can get his wife to stop and just go from there.
• India
9 Feb 13
looking at her approach looks like she is dangerous,cunning,not careful,unreliable etc; she can't be a good wife,good mother etc; if she finds a better person she will leave u again. better get rid of her....this is just an estimation as told by u, but can't guess unless we know her from near