My current relationship with facebook

@Aja103654 (5658)
Philippines
February 9, 2013 8:05am CST
I find it hard to log in on facebook. Not because of technical problems but because I am hesitant to visit the site. The things I like about facebook is that I can chat easily with people there, even people who I barely know. But most of the time, I just grimace at what people are saying there. I can only sense how they want attention so much and make unfunny jokes just to be noticed. And not to mention, the drama kings, drama queens, the emo monologues... it's not something I like to see so I tend to avoid facebook. Also, there are many things that I don't like seeing on facebook... it reminds me many people are interested in something I am not, and it makes me feel different... and left out. ... What is your relationship with facebook?
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@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Feb 13
My account always open because it is link to my browser. Even I didn't open the window still I can receive notification in my rockmelt browser. I am not a fan of facebook like the time I spend here in myLot. What I do in facebook is just to connect only my friends from all over the world
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
I hate that facebook emails always spam my emails. Don't you get annoyed with them?
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Feb 13
I didn't get spam emails because I created an email intended for social media used only like facebook, myspace, linkedin and other socialize sites. I made an email intended for myLot alone and also for my payment processor.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Do you use yahoo or gmail? I've been using yahoo for many years and still I am too lazy to categorize mails. I tried before but it didn't seem to work. So instead, I created 3 accounts.
@allknowing (69368)
• India
9 Feb 13
Many I feel, including me have the same thing to say about FB . I am sick too and I have retained my page just so that I can go occasionally have a look at genuine posts. But you are so right. I hate when people show off and even cook up things about them, as though their life is just nothing but a bed of roses. I hate hypocrites.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
If there are many people sick of it, why are there still many participating in these activities online? It's hard to bare sometimes. I just recently couples expressing their feelings in public there and all this talk about being strong and all drama, the guy was my friend but I can't help but scan through their comments with distaste. I scanned it not because I want to but because I was looking out for that friend of mine, lol.
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@allknowing (69368)
• India
10 Feb 13
I too was an addict when I just became a member. I posted photos of family of the good old days, posted pictures of my house,garden, pets and what have you. Searched for lost friends and family till I found them. There were so many who got back commenting, liking, etc. This activity slowly got reduced to sometimes no one commenting. That is the time I thought enough is enough and now I hardly go there. Even those who you say are active there will soon realise what you and I have, Aja.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
It is addicting yes, especially the games haha! the games are designed to make you always want to come back to tend to your game after a few hours or days. It keeps people hooked. Last night I logged on to FB to check my messages, and then I chatted with some friends. By the time I finished it was already 12 am. We easily lose track of time when using facebook. Facebook is not bad, just as long as it is used for the okay purposes I hope they will realize too and start doing something more productive with their lives.
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
9 Feb 13
I dont like Facebook. I've been trying to delete my Facebook a long time ago, especially during that time where in i was scrolling on my newsfeed and then i see a lot of pictures of people who are more successful than i am and have been able to pull their $hit together. Unlike me I'm a mess. But then i saw this old classmate of mine who got really fat and then this really weird goth gir who wrote really bad poetry and so i decided to keep my Facebook. I dont open it as much though. Why waste time on Facebook if i could mylot and meet more awesome people on here who are open to sharing their experiences with me. Maybe i will finally delete my Facebook when i get really really successful too and I've finished bragging to them. Or maybe when I'm ready to become a better person already, which kind of looks like thats only going o happen in a long long time away from now.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
hahaha, that sounded really petty just now frai. But no worries, it's quite a normal feeling we mess-ups get when we see facebook. Facebook has so many people who brag about their sh-t. Not everyone does that, but there are many still. I like people who post family stuff there, children, animals, good things that ought to be shared. not the drama, the love quarrels and the corny love exchanges between couples. Haha, it's your choice. Let's show those people that we are not failures!
• Penrith, Australia
16 Feb 13
That's right. Facebook. Is fakebook. I've heard about them changing privacy settings again. Ugh they are so annoying, I'm having thoughts on deleting it completely but my pictures are there and i have to get it first.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Haha, I really don't understand the settings and all. Ever since facebook kept changing I have become more confused of its system. I liked the older version better. Timelines are annoying, in my opinion. woah, you have to hurry and get those pictures. Lucky me don't have to do a thing since I don't have pictures there anyway.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
9 Feb 13
In olden days I was using facebook to spend some time.But after some days I realized that Facebook social network is killing our time.Now I sign in some time and give a like or comment of my friend's photos..Now I use facebook for all these type of things..Thank you
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Some take longer to realize that they are wasting their time there. We need to be more thoughtful with our time and how to use facebook wisely and moderately. It is fun but it's not good to be around facebook all the time.
• Penrith, Australia
16 Feb 13
thats right, why waste your time on Facebook if you can vp one here and earn for the things you type without dumbing yourself even just a bit,
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Agreed, frai! In mylot I don't feel dumb at all. The way people express themselves here reflects the wisdom they have. In facebook, people are really lazy typing long sentences. Small talk is boring, y'know. I also get annoyed when some random guy on facebook suddenly chats with me and when I ask them why, they say I am cute that is why, talk about shallow.
• United States
9 Feb 13
There's always going to be something on Facebook I don't want to see. I've learned over time how to use my settings to hide most of it though. Some people I had to hide from the newsfeed and it never shows up anymore. If I want to see something, I'll go to their wall but I know I run the risk of seeing something I don't want to. It sounds to me like you're intimidated by the site. Don't do that. Log in, interact with whoever knows you and don't worry about feeling left out on stuff. I'm left out on bunch of stuff. That doesn't bother me. We all have things and actions that we do that will always have people being left out constantly. It's not intentional most of the time, I'm sure. As for feeling different, we all ARE different. Why do you want to be the same as someone else, just to get along? It's not necessary. Being different is what makes us all unique either online or in the real world.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Maybe I was intimidated or I just find being on facebook pointless. Besides, I find being in other websites such as mylot more fun. Woah, I really need to learn to adjust my settings on facebook.... nah, too lazy. haha! Yes, thanks wild. I will keep your words in mind, Back then, i was ashamed of my weirdness and people pick on me because of that. I realized that I should not be ashamed at all and I don't need to pretend anymore. I will show my real self and don't care about what other people think. My mom taught me differently. She said I should keep up and be more mature. To me, acting mature is... boring.
• Penrith, Australia
17 Feb 13
Its weird how Facebook does give us an unjustified way of not liking people because of the posts they make. Unfortunately, Facebook has given us this reflex to want to tell everyone the good news and collect all those likes like we're some crazed up mammal preparing and storing fat for winter. It is unhealthy and to be honest, it has to stop.
• United States
20 Feb 13
Aja, to me it's not pointless. It's the only way I keep in touch with a lot of friends and family. I live away from them and the distance is big. Nurse, I'm not sure what you mean by saying an unjustified way.
@yugocean (8839)
• India
9 Feb 13
My relation with facebook is social media connection and sharing important message with others. I too don't like people sharing nonsense for getting noticed or publicity. You don't need to shy away from facebook to keep distance from those type of people, just keep connected with good people. It is same like you connect here with othersm, and ignore nonsense type of discussions or comments.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Thanks yugo. Haha, I have thought of the same solution. I could always evade the awful stuff there if I needed to be there. But there are many other reasons why I don't like being there, like the posts there makes me feel left out, so I don't want to be reminded of that. However, I realized this is rather cowardly of me to shy away from it, so I have to overcome this and join in the fun with people I care for who are there.
@yugocean (8839)
• India
10 Feb 13
We all like those who like us, we are near to those who are near to us. If people sharing nonsense stuff posted by their nears and dears, then it would be dazzy, still completely out of mind as they don't make others to understand what is the truth. Some people share paid stuff that we can call tasks like available in microworkers style of websites, you can still ignore such things. Keep near with those who are near to you.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
I will, thanks! Ah, some couples are lovey dovey on facebook, it's kind of disgusting for me. I only accept it when those people are married and stuff. But merely lovers showing affection and seeming to be flaunting it on facebook, it's... yuck. Then next thing you know, this couple breaks up and then each have their new 'babes' later on and repeat the same process.
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
10 Feb 13
Hi Aja! I visit facebook to see the pictures of my dear friends/relatives and updates, if any. I love to upload some nice pictures on my profile page so that others could also enjoy those pictures. I do not like playing any games over there, as it seems wastage of time to me.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
You are one of the good facebook users, yes. Some young people are too childish though and do silly stuff on there. Haha, games are a total waste of time. It took me a moment to realize that after playing those games where my plants and fruits always go bad. hahah!
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 13
Hi! Thanks for your kind words. :-) I agree games are waste of time on FB. One more advantage of using FB is - you get updates about your friends' bithdays, you could wish them through FB.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Yes, but most of the time I just ignore the birthdays. LOL, I'm so mean. That's because I am not really close to those people. If I do know them well enough I greet them.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Well, I can understand how you feel. And I do feel the same way, too sometimes. It gets tiring to see one of your friends posting the designer bags he buys for his wife that costs $3000 each, all his travels and even his credit card limit! But that is just how people are. Anyway, I am not there just to see him or other people who might be similar to him. I am mostly there to communicate with my close friends whom I barely see.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
Oh my, that kind of person is so obnoxious flaunting expensive stuff like that. We don't need to know how much the item is.. unless someone asks for that information. They make other people feel bad to make themselves feel good or are they just ignorant like that? That kind of fb people is one of the many I don't like.
• Penrith, Australia
17 Feb 13
Oh my goodness! Those people are so annoying. And its affecting people who aren't even the ones involved in the humblebragging. I have that too, i slowly hate people on Facebook and its making me feel bad about them and myself as well. What i dont like about it too is that it tends to be controlling of people that most people consider Facebook as a part of their daily lives. A part of routine one cannot live without.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Is there such a thing as humblebragging?? People with strong minds can't be chained to facebook for long or forever. That's what I believe.
• Canada
9 Feb 13
The only reason I Have Facebook is to stay in touch with my friends that are far away. But I dont log in too much due to all those people who create problems and drama with their rumors. Sometimes, people are so disapointing with their post, they are (most of the time) pointless. The sad thing about that is young teens forget that those posts and silly pictures of them can have a bad influence in their future
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Those kids are really short sighted. I have heard that employers these days will scan your facebook as a way to know more about your back ground. It is important to stay behaved anywhere and especially in a very public website such as facebook.
• Penrith, Australia
17 Feb 13
If there is one thing we learn about Facebook, that the pictures mpeople post are very superficial. There is a reason as to why are parents pictures taken in their youth are flattering. And that is because in five years they have only up to 20 photos and from those, only the flattering ones survive up to middle age. Our generation has over 900 photos floating around when were all drunk and wasted and it not impossible to have some unfortunate candids getting out on the net,
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
There are many people who ruined their image on facebook. There was news about some graduating students girls who drank booze and wore inappropriate clothes, then posted their ridiculous photos on facebook. When the school saw it, they refused to let those girls graduate. how stupid, really. They should have behaved or at least, waited till they actually graduated.
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
10 Feb 13
Pretty much I stay away from facebook for the same reasons. Its like people are all about the attention and they find that on facebook and all the drama that people put up on there. It really is getting annoying. That's why I try to stay away from facebook, just to get away from the drama and what people post on there. I don't know, mylot is something that has been keeping me away from facebook. I spend more time on mylot then I do on facebook.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
Yeah, the attention seekers there are obnoxious. But they have their uses too.
• Penrith, Australia
17 Feb 13
That's right! Mylot has kept me away from Facebook too lol. I told my friend I'm deleting Facebook and she was like, "haha! You'll never last 2 weeks" but then i doubt that now since i have mylot lol
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Oh, how I'd love to bet with your friend. because I've lasted months without fb. eheh, that's good frai. Mylot is your home now.
@theselan (74)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 13
Actually i am you two years back because i did the same thing as you did, chatting with the others and i feel that i can easily be closed to everyone and that is how i got a girlfriend form Facebook. No matter how you chat and with whom you chat, there must be limit. Once you cross the limit, problem will be finding you. Social network is easy for us to be famous for bad thing, so watch out.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Yes, that is an advantage of facebook and any other social website. It must be controlled, the chat, it can take hours sometimes You would not notice the time and next thing you know, it's already past midnight.
• Penrith, Australia
17 Feb 13
That is typical. So many people have made Facebook part of their everyday lives. Like its obligation to open it. I hate it that the interface demands so much of my visual energy. The notifications seem to be alerting me so much about the most mundane things. These things i dont really care about like Events I won’t go to, notes I won’t read, spam-y wall posts promising impossible deals and they are usually from people who have very little influence in my life. I hate that Facebook has moved into my bedroom, uninvited, rearranged my furniture, and decided who else is allowed to come and go. Practically, it has almost controlled my life. (Maybe it did, but i dont want to admit it.)
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
I know how you feel frai. It's worse when we are active there and we get to see those mundane unimportant posts all the time.
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
10 Feb 13
I don't really like using facebook and at this point I rarely even log in anymore. I don't really post anything on there and I rarely talk to anyone on there. Most of the people that I do talk to on there I have there phone number so I can really talk to them whenever I want without the use of facebook. I haven't logged on there in a while. The only thing I like to do with facebook is post new lyrics that I've been thinking of. Even that though is kind of weird because I get comments and likes from people i don't even know. Also when I go to go through my news feed it's just kind of weird because I see a bunch of information that people post about their lives and I don't even know them. It's like hearing people's personal conversations on accident and overall I just find it pretty weird.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
hahaha, I feel you, jam! It's kind of awkward when people you barely know or don't know at all suddenly interacts with you online. On mylot, that is expected but on facebook, it's more about social cliques and sadly, also showing off for some people. It can be a good thing to expand and get to know people. However, it is most appreciated if they took notice of us in person and not just online.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
I am one of those who are very addict in Face book. I love Facebook because , there I can chat easily with long distance friends and relatives. Even if I am far with them, I can still feel our bonding before. I felt as if I am not away with them. What I hate about Facebook is that sometimes due to mis posting or misuse of it, some are already fighting because of comments etc. and I feel bad about it. Sometimes, I read some profane words in there that it should not be.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
I can't blame for being addicted to bonding with your friends. That is a good reason to be addicted. Yes, it's true that sometimes there are awful things going on in the comment sections. The drama, the anger, it's embarrassing sometimes, annoying in my opinion, though often I find them silly and they make me laugh. The dumb profanities proved how immature those people are.
9 Feb 13
Facebook -I have a mixed relation.I don't spend much time there after coming here in mylot . i just open my account for my notifications and messages and see what's new in these and then again i logout.Its like i have lost intetest in it but i still want to open my account.Earlier at some time I was so addicted to facebook tjat i don't want to loose a single minute without but now iam controlled.Still i consider a good interesting site.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
It can be interesting. It depends maybe on the feeds? Haha, we all need a break from fb, we can always go back there when we need to do something there. Is it that I don't care much about other people's lives that makes me a recluse? I wonder. I don't need people shoving to me how great their lives are or how sad they are about their problems, it's so annoying.
@Suzieqmom (2763)
• United States
9 Feb 13
I generally have a "good relationship" with facebook, but I grow tired of it from time to time and then give myself some space...LOL! I like the updates from people I know (and care about) as well as the updates from the town, the police department, and such. It is also a good way to get a message to large groups of people quickly. But there is definitely too much drama--usually, for me, in the form of those posts that ask you to support such and such or "like" this page or else it means you don't care about this person/thing/animal/cause. I also can live without some people's need to post their political or religious views every five seconds. Luckily most of my friends are beyond the dating scene so i don't have to deal too much with that kind of drama...although I get to read about the "success" stories of everyone's kids. Do you know that every child in the town I live in is a genius, will cure cancer, is the best (insert sport here) player ever?! That gets old very quickly too...
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
There are good things and bad things on facebook. I appreciate the good things. But forcing people to like, join and stuff like that, the unnecessary drama? People show their vulnerability so much there, they seem to use it as a diary now where everyone can see their pain. It's dumb really and uncool. If they want to do that, do that in chat, people can't see that and it stays private, but posting it where everyone can see it is something a person who wants to be noticed would do. Hahha, people are proud. I guess being proud of kids is better than letting everyone know how heart broken you are and how much of a jerk your partner was. They break up then get back together, Wishy washy.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Feb 13
I feel that there are a lot of people that do not now bother with face book, as it is getting rather boring and there are the same old people on there that only go on there to get a reaction off people, also that there are people that go on there to start up trouble with other people. I feel that there will always be people that are hooked to face book and have to go on there lots of times a day, as they do not want to miss out on all the things that other people are up to.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Those are very bad and unproductive activities to do on facebook. There are better ways to have fun on facebook, but in the end they resort to these petty ways to entertain themselves. It makes them look bad. I wonder if they realize that?
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Oh yeah, this is what has happened to the social networking site. it used to be really different. i mean people weren't like that before... and i guess with facebook you can know your friends and how they are in reality. as you have said there are the emos, there are those who likes to joke, those who loves to share just about everything about their life with no reservations, there are also those who only wants attention, right?
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Those kind of users are dominant in the site. Of course there are some interesting things there, but some are not. They just want attention from friends so they can kill time chatting, commenting and so on. The comments are not even that entertaining for me. It's just so shallow. I know someone who is a classmate of mine, who likes to post things on FB then asks people through chat to like it and even commands them to comment a specific sentence that she made herself. It's so... I don't know.
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
9 Feb 13
I like face book for playing games and keeping in touch with my close friends and family. I do not like some of the same things yous aid you didn't like, but i just ignore those kind s of posts and people who put bad things on facebook. In fact i have my facebook set up to where only friends can view my profile and i wont see posts from people not on my friends list. If i do se something on facebook i don't like i either block the person sending it or i report them. But for ow face book is good and i like it.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I guess I need to manage my facebook more. haha. And to be honest, it makes me feel a lot lot left out when people share their accomplishments there. It's not good for my ego, that's the truth. Also, I like the games there, but had to give up playing because I need to use my time for other things that I would make me feel more accomplished in real life. Games there are very time consuming. It's sad that I had to leave my pet, my crops and my plants.
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
9 Feb 13
I would like to avoid facebook more, from almost the same reasons, but it's like a magnet sometimes. All those lame things that are posted, all that anger on things that doesn't matter, the changes that happen, people who break up and than are together again. I could never think before facebook that I will know someday so much about people that I barely knew. It's scary, also interesting how society it's craving know for control. I just can't understand the point in "check-in" yourself when you are somewhere. Why would somebody want to make his location public? The political debates are also interesting to observe. How what people say differs so much from a day to another due to political interests. They insult, curse, slander each other so passionately. They unfriend and block each other. My relationship with facebook... I feel the pulse of he world there, but I would certainly not give too many personal information there.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
For some facebook is like a magnet. For me, it repels me. Even though I have good reason to be online, to find jobs and connections, I still am hesitant. That's right. There's no point letting everyone know where you are. Maybe they want to leave a memento or something? makes them so easy to stalk. Good thing I don't see those political arguments, they are always messy. Also it's annoying that people dramatize their break ups but then gets together. And it's also more annoying that people are actually giving them attention, taking sides and comforting them. Pulse of the world, eh? LOL! It's best to keep our own personal affairs to ourselves or just among friends in person, not online where it is all documented.
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@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
16 Feb 13
As far as I'm concerned, there is nothing for me at Facebook. I don't like "chatting" and like you, I think a lot of people on there are attention seeking morons and even members of my own family make me feel embarrassed with how they carry on. Like you too, I feel as though I don't fit in (even though I don't approve or want to fit in) and the majority of FB members are just plain weird.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
It makes me laugh when someone posts something personal and then nobody even likes it or comments on it. It's obvious they want attention. They have these dramatic and corny quotes on their wall too, especially those couples on fb who are active there. It's so ridiculous for me. They deserved to be ignored. If they want attention, they find it personally or find a friend who cares, not announce to everyone in public. I think the people I see on FB are typical people. Luckily I have not come across weird ones... yet.
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@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
16 Feb 13
I think about 90% of FB devotees are weird, it's the degree of weirdness that varies. Maybe you and I have different definitions of "weird" Aja.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
Or maybe I was not around FB too much that's why I don't see these weird people. What did these weird people do on FB that made you think they are weird? Ah, I don't know. I have always considered myself weirdo. If I see weirdos I get along with them sometimes.
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