Divide and rule they did...
February 10, 2013 2:34am CST
At times I got played, and at times it was dad... The skill was almost genetically coded in them... So here was my dad's friend's elder daughter...Varsha. So the first time she arrived at my place with her brother and sister in law and nephew who had retinoblastosis. And so she...who had never ever spared a thought for me in almost 20 years of her marriage...suddenly found her heart pitying me...and said she will look after me...excuse me...I didnt ask...and I was seething inside...this girl had not looked after her in-laws...her father in law was wearing her husband's discarded pants, and they were short of monies but this girl had to take her husband's permission to send even 1000 bucks (about 20 dollars as of date) to them out of 25000 or so of her husband salary, while she could spend almost 2000 per month on dolls ...yes...dolls for her adopted daughter. She must think I am retarded to even consider her as my caregiver. And so I called her aside again and told her...I have already made alternate arrangements and I wont be needing her services ...had to get it off my chest...couldnt stand the thought of being forced to put up with her. And she reacted...it will be my mother in law who will decide she said..meaning dad's friend's wife...and in view of the little obligation in the past and the grave sins of that family that I knew not, at that point of time...I held back..the sentence...who is she...it is my earning ...I get to decide. And then...when I learnt of the truth a few months down the lane...and I called this Varsha not to come to my house ever again.....she immediately started to say her mother in law is not a good lady, and that she too suffered at the hands of that family, and that her husband was not a good man. So I asked her to divorce him. Yeah...I did exactly that..because that is what they wanted my mother to do to create a vacancy for their girl. But the girl was cleverly silent on that..she didnt want to divorce...after all, her husband has a government job, and money matters a lot to women who dont want to work..she started telling me her husband was having affair. So I told her, what the family did to my mother...she said why are you remembering the past...hell that past is my mother ...my mother is important to me, more important to me than a woman who didnt have one phone call to spare for me in twenty years and is now forcing her way into my live...literally bulldozing me...I want to come to your place, I am coming to your place..you are upset..sure..and you are the cause cant you get it?..when you are not wanted in my life, time you disappeared. All this because she liked my place. Have you met any greedy person like that in your life who would be willing to play on both side of the court just to get some monies?
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10 Feb 13
there are indeed people who want to play on both sides. the issue of money sounds too familiar. almost every case of family dispute or argument, they involve money matters. hey, you've got all the rights to your hard-earned money. decide where you want it spent, and not others interfering on your decision.
10 Feb 13
It does sound familiar to me the whole story. Good you told her your opinion and not to come to your house anymore either. Let her think/do as she likes but not interfere in your life or set rules for you how to live and how to spend your money. BTW I find it a very cheap reply to say: why do you start about the past.. only people who know they lose the discussion, can't get grip/hold on you and your life start with these kind of remarks. Same like: you are just jealous. Past does count, it teached us lessons we should remember.
10 Feb 13
Dear Vandy, I am sorry that you had to experience the UGLY side of greed, have had to segregate and do battle with family members (as those are the ones we think we can trust/believe most) BUT it has awarded you the strength and ability to set boundaries...and I feel that is a good thing. You have laid down parameters, not to be crossed, and hopefully will NOT have to deal with these issues, which I feel are strictly your business, EVER again! YOU GO, Girl!
10 Feb 13
Perga...greed when shown openly seems very very ugly. Especially when the other person knows that I have realized it...and still tries so desperately ...sickening. Thanks for the support perga...lots of friends here...who stood by me. I know it is only my side of the story...but to the best of my knowledge and belief, I have told the truth. Bad friends, bad relatives. :( Found good friends at this late stage of my life...so am thankful to god for it all. And perga..people who are greedy for small amounts...I wonder how they would be for larger sums..lol
10 Feb 13
Truly, Vandy...your's is the only side of the story that I want to LISTEN to....I get this horrible picture of an ugly vampire, in my mind, trying to suck the last of your life blood out of you. NOT to be! YOU stand strong for YOU and your dearly departed Mother, and I know in my heart, she is so very proud that you have NOT let these cannibals break you. She has handed you what strength she had left...and you know in your heart, you must banish these persons...and keep your environment FREE of this leacherism. I will keep you in my prayers, Vandy!