Relationships...working on PATIENCE

@dlkuku (1936)
United States
February 11, 2013 11:13pm CST
I admit, I am a terribly impatient person. My boyfriend is a wonderful man, he is sweet and loving and giving. He treats me very well, but he has one thing that drives me batty. He is chronically late ALL THE TIME. If we are invited somewhere, I have to tell him it starts an hour before it really does, we laugh about this, but still...he will still be running late and we will barely get there in time. So I have been working on patience, and it's HARD. I love him to pieces and I need to accept this is the way he is, everything else is so good between us, I don't want his lateness and my impatience to ruin things. I have to sit on my hands so I don't text him or call him.
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@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
12 Feb 13
We are the opposite. My husband is the one who is always on time, if not half an hour to 15 minutes early than the agreed meet up. I, on the other hand, then to be running late. But to give me some credit, I will always arrive just in the nick of time, always on the dot. I hate that because I have to hurry and when I arrive I obviously look disheveled. Good thing my husband is very supportive and somehow he is rubbing off on me. Now I am barely late. But sometimes I have my moments of weakness that I succumb to running late again.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
13 Feb 13
Maybe that's why they say opposites attract. Well, he knows it bugs me, so maybe he will work on it while I work on patience. :)
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
12 Feb 13
Personally I think it's rude to be late, Always being late is a very bad habit and it's seldom appreciated (although it might be different in some cultures). If people in my country will Always be late they are not welcome anymore. I wonder if your bf was Always late from the very first start or did it start at a certain point? Perhaps because he had to wait for you time after time (5 min. can feel like ours to a man esp. if they have to watch till you are finished). Or did he find out at a certain point it's boring or useless to be in time? And last but least it became a habit and no matter how angry or upset you get in the end you don't seem to care at all.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
12 Feb 13
Actually I am never ever late. And he has been like this for years according to his mother.
• India
12 Feb 13
you are really lucky and as you says your bf has many good points. nobody is complete in this worls. we are mix of good and bad habits. so try to remember and thing about his good behave more than his bad habit. then aoutomatic that bad habit will disappear.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
12 Feb 13
I am lucky, he is a good man and I just have to accept this.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
I admire your patience. But I think that your boyfriend should also learn how to respect the time that you are expected to be in an event, right? Would you be always that patient if you are going to have a very romantic date and he comes an hour late at the restaurant? I don't think so. He might just see a fire-breathing dragon all glam up!
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
12 Feb 13
lol you are right
• United States
12 Feb 13
I don't have that problem my man goes every where early. the other day I was working out and he called to make me get ready for my appointment. I said I have 30 minutes left. he said get dressed I want to get you there early. I go there to sit in the waiting area till the doctor got off lunch.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
12 Feb 13
I just hate wating on someone lol