How can a person steal and then be so stupid?

@dorannmwin (36609)
United States
February 15, 2013 4:44pm CST
Last Friday we had something really horrific happen to our family. We had just gotten our tax money back on Thursday and then on Friday morning, my husband realized that our debit card was not in his coat pocket. It had been stolen and the criminals ended up getting over 1400 dollars out of our checking account. Thankfully the bank is going to be restoring that money for us. On Sunday, Tom calls me to tell me that the person that he suspected of stealing the debit card was sending him text messages saying that the money that he'd taken was payment for a deal gone bad on the van that we were selling last year. In other words, it was retaliation because of the fact that we had the man arrested for stealing the van last year. On Monday, he starts sending Tom text messages saying that he was sorry and that he would get the money back to Tom. He said that he didn't want to do it but his girlfriend encouraged him to do it and then left him after she'd gotten the money. This leads me to thinking. . .I know that there are a lot of people in the world that are criminally minded and there is nothing that you can do about that. However, would you ever be the person that would commit a crime and then confess that you'd done it to the victim of the crime? Keep in mind, this was some kind of theft and it was on the felony level.
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@much2say (25654)
• United States
16 Feb 13
OY! That is kind of idiotic to confess like that . . . didn't he just incriminate himself with proof via text (if you guys press charges)? Sounds like maybe he figured he was going to get caught, and now he's putting on a sob story for forgiveness. It doesn't matter who encouraged him to do it - HE ultimately made the choice to do it. If it were me and I intentionally committed a crime, I sure wouldn't confess (unless it were to save my butt somehow) . . . maybe he thought his butt would be saved!!
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• United States
16 Feb 13
Maybe that is why he confessed to save his butt. Now he might have had a heart and feelings and felt bad for what he did, but if that's the case why did he do it and then blame it on his girlfriend as to why he did it. I think he just confessed to save his butt i do agree with you on that much2say.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
Maybe he thought that it was something that was going to save his butt, but instead it is something that is going to make it much easier for the county attorney to convict him of the crime(s) that he has committed. What an idiot.
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@MsTickle (24726)
• Australia
22 Feb 13
Stupid maybe for getting involved with the girl. I think he is basically honest and easily swayed by the bad company he keeps. He must have felt really bad if he had to confess. Sure he stole but I take my hat off to him for coming good in the end.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
22 Feb 13
I really don't think that the girl can be blamed entirely for the decisions that he had made. But I do think that she is somewhat to blame because I really do believe that people that are much younger than you yourself are can be just as bad an influence on someone as a person that is much older than you are.
@Cutie18f (9566)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
WTF! I agree with you. That friend of yours is just plain stupid. NOw you can file charges against him.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
21 Feb 13
And that is exactly what we are doing. I'm not a mean person, in fact I'm probably one of the most giving people that you will ever meet, but I certainly wouldn't ever steal from another person, especially if the person that I stole from was someone that would literally give me the shirt off of their back.
@bounce58 (17555)
• Canada
18 Feb 13
Oh how stupid! Was that his way of deflecting the blame, by saying that his girlfriend was the one who encouraged him to do this? If that's true, then he deserve jail time as well for not being able to stand up to his girlfriend and saying that doing this was a crime.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I ultimately think that the person or persons that end up spending time in jail will be based on the video surveillance from the places where the card was actually used. If he was the one using the card, then he will be guilty on all counts. However, if she used it as well, then I think they can prosecute her as well.
@trisha27 (3506)
• United States
18 Feb 13
Wow that was crazy that he confessed to you that he was the one that stole your money and also that he was the same person that stole your van. Stupid criminal. I would never be caught in this situation so I would never have to confess to anything.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I could never be caught in that kind of a situation because I would never be the kind of person that would ever be able to steal from another person. If I was a criminal, though, I really don't think that I would be the kind of person that would confess to committing a crime.
@jillhill (37358)
• United States
16 Feb 13
Remorse...maybe the guilt was driving him crazy....I know you can't keep people from doing things like this. I have never heard of someone fessing up though.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I know that there are a lot of times that guilt will be something that will make a person confess to a crime that they've committed, but most of those cases are when another person has been physically harmed.
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• India
16 Feb 13
One can get stupid after stealing just to make others feel that he/she hasnt done the stealing. This is the only thing i can get out of it. Otherwise it takes a wise not a stupid to have the courage and plan to steal
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I could never be a person that would steal from another person, therefore I wouldn't even have to think about whether or not I would ever admit to doing something like that.
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@ShyBear88 (16742)
• United States
16 Feb 13
I would do that but it sounds like a good way to make someone feel bad for you by saying someone else made me do it. Because they told me so.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
But if your girlfriend or boyfriend was to tell you to jump off of a bridge, would that be something that you would do? I know that I certainly would not do something like that if someone told me to do it.
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• Philippines
16 Feb 13
i do not like the fact that he blamed his girlfriend for his wrong doing, he did what he did , he should be responsible for it
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I agree with you. I think that we should always be responsible for our own actions and never blame them on someone else.
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@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
16 Feb 13
It doesn't lighten his crime, and he just made his girlfriend looked so bad. Maybe he thought that by putting the blame of his girlfriend, your husband will not have a negative impression of him. On the flipside, be thankful that his conscience is still in good working order. Most of us would be like him, so it is better not to commit any crime. If the law doesn't get to those like him, their own conscience will. You should be thankful. Imagine if he is so hard-core crime-minded that he don't even bat an eyelid over what he did. That would be frightening because he could retaliate physically rather than via monetary means.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
The thought of being retaliated against physically is something that really does bother me. However, I just don't think that it is ever something that is acceptable to do when you were the one that did something wrong in the first place.
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@KrauseHome (28390)
• United States
16 Feb 13
Personally, if this was from the person who stole the Van in the first place, how did his debit card also disappear from the same person? And then to have them text and admit the guilt, etc. I would be changing all my Debit Cards, etc. just to be on the safe side. And seriously, if it was the Girl friend... turn her in. This is not just a small matter, and cannot believe someone would actually believe him, and not challenge the authorities with this info.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
We actually had both his name and the name of his girlfriend included on the police report. As for how he ended up in contact with my husband again, Tom is a hard-headed person and though I told him that he should never talk to the man again after that had happened with the van, he wouldn't listen to me.
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@redredrose (1107)
• United States
16 Feb 13
I do not steal. Nor have i ever stolen from someone. I am not that kind of person, but if i did steal i would not tell anyone i did it. How foolish of the guy to confess when it's just going to get him in more trouble. Why would he listen to that woman he was with anyway. That is also stupid of him.I would never steal for myself nor for anyone else. So if someone told me to steal i'd be like no way. I am very sorry this happened to you and i'm glad you are getting the money back. Just thought that if this woman left him after getting the money then she didn't love him just what money she could get from him and that's not a relationship. The whole thing with this guy is stupid. again sorry for your loss but glad you are getting it back. Hope this never happens to you again. Have a great day.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I certainly hope that it is something that never happens to us again either. Seriously though, I would never be the person that would steal from anyone but if I was ever faced with that kind of a situation, there would be no way that I would admit to it, instead, I would have to make the court prove that it was something that I had done.
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@Raine38 (8655)
• United States
15 Feb 13
Maybe that's why he stole from you guys, because if he's any smart he wouldn't resort to stealing in the first place. And I can't believe that he would let his girlfriend encouraged me to do something as asinine as this, where are his balls? Geesh, really some people. At least the money will be returned to your account.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
While I can't say that I know firsthand that this man has some balls, I definitely do have to say that he was whipped. There had to be something that was going on because this girl is a girl that was unquestionably young enough to have been his daughter.
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• Poland
15 Feb 13
My friend knew a guy who called the police and told them that he left a bomb in the shop. Not only that but he was stupid enough to introduce himself to the police so they caught him immediately. And he thought I was such a wonderful joke... Unfortunately for him the police thought differently. My friend knows some really crazy people.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
Your friend really does know some crazy people because though they might think of something like this as being a joke, it really is a serious matter and it is something that requires a lot of man power to make sure that it is just a hoax and not a serious situation.
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@Trensue (3707)
• United States
15 Feb 13
I am not sure who was "criminally minded". What it the girlfriend or the guy that did it? Is he hoping that no one will press charges if he confesses and returns the money. I think in times of desperation lots of odd things happen. This may be one of those times. I would hope I would never commit a crime, but I hope if I did I would confess and do the right thing.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I really don't think that I could think about what I would actually do if I was in that situation because I would never be the person that would steal from another person. I would, instead, be the kind of person that would ask my friends and family for help if there was something that was happening in my life that really left me struggling.
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@dawnald (84072)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Feb 13
How did they do that without his PIN code? I suppose it got put through like a credit card? I know that happens sometimes when I use my debit card. Probably ought not to be allowed. But anyway, (bad Dawn) if I ever actually was going to commit an act like that, heck no I would not just confess. Maybe he figured he was going to get caught anyway, or he was actually really remorseful.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I would never steal from someone because I was brought up with much better morals than that and I also don't think that my conscious would allow me to do something like that even if I didn't have the morals that I have. However, if I was able to do something like that, I would not confess because the confession could be something that would later be used against me.
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• United States
15 Feb 13
I would never be put in this kind of situation because I don't steal from people. I hope your money is refunded soon. that man was crazy to confess knowing he is going to likely go to prison and how stupid to give the money to a foolish woman.
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I don't steal from people either, my parents definitely brought me up with much better morals than that. I also have to say that I certainly do hope that this man does have to spend some time in jail because of what he has done to our family.
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@lelin1123 (15647)
• Puerto Rico
15 Feb 13
OMG how crazy. So sorry that this happened to you guys. To be robbed is horrible feeling. First of all I wouldn't commit a crime but less say for argument sake I was a criminal and I stole some money from you. NO I would not confess to the crime. His girlfriend put him up to it and of course she took the money. Females are sometimes the worse criminals out there. I just can't believe how stupid he was to confess to it. What happens now if he returns the money to you? You have to give it back to the bank right? I would love to know how he got the card in the first place?
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
19 Feb 13
Tom seems to think that because of the fact that he had the debit card in his jacket that it might have fallen out of his jacket when he'd gone outside and that they picked it up off the grass or sidewalk when he came back inside. That said, I do agree with you that there are times that females can be more skilled criminals than males can.
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• Marikina, Philippines
12 Apr 13
He feels guilty. He knows what is right and wrong. He has a conscious. A conscious to tell him what is good and bad. The way I see it is because of what happen to him, I mean all the bad situation happen to him [let us say a bad karma for which his girlfriend left him and got all the money], well, he realized that he committed a sin o he realized that he committed a mistake which in the first place he should not done it. He knows what he is doing I guess. It is better to be honest and tell sorry for what he had done than keep it to himself and feels guilty until the end of time. I think that would not be good because God is watching him every action he does in every day in his life.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
16 Apr 13
You are right, even if we are able to keep a secret about something terrible that we've done in our lives, we are never able to keep it secret from everyone because God indeed does see everything that we do in our lives.