on men who linger at women's lingerie section...
February 16, 2013 5:00pm CST
I have an issue regarding men who linger or stand too long at women's lingerie section. Yesterday I was at the department store to buy intimate apparel. I spotted a man who was just standing there looking. I do not know if he was waiting for someone or what, but that was what he was doing--just standing and looking. Since he was near the section near panties, I waited for him to transfer or go elsewhere before I asked the saleslady to show me certain pieces, but he did not move nor did he look like he was going to go anywhere. He wasn't buying anything,no, not on this section, he didn't look gay, that's for sure, so grumbled, "What's that man doing here?" and the saleslady even looked at the man. I had to request the saleslady to bring the items to an area far from that man because I didn't like choosing and looking at panties while he was there. I may sound conservative or paranoid, but what was he doing there in the first place? If you were the husband or the brother or the son of a woman or lady buying intimate apparel, would you just stand around in that section while your lady or woman company is buying something? I wanted to pierce his eyes at that moment because that man (in his 30's) was just so insensitive!
• Calcutta, India
16 Feb 13
Hello Cutie, It could be disturbing for any conservative lady when the confront situations like this that you have in the concerned garment shop. But you can't actually do much to avoid such things from happening or can ask the concerned man to move out of the scene as you can't be sure for what they were doing there. You perhaps did the right thing by asking the sales lady to get you your needful personally away from the guy and that's fine. These things do happen in shopping malls, I've seen things like this and perhaps even worse, happening at a very renowned shopping mall in our area as well. The only solution to this is that could be to hang a NO ENTRY message for men at those areas but I doubt if there are any garment shops who might follow this.
18 Feb 13
He won't know what he is doing unless he is told how it affected people around him. Since he is not a lady, then he probably has no idea that he is being a bother. He must be thinking about buying or maybe he likes looking at those things? Who knows.
18 Feb 13
Oh that would be awkward, really especially if the man was there on his own. However any man who does not have any bad intentions of being their should have felt shy staying in a lingerie section. He would probably wait outside, or walk around and just fetch his woman after she is done. Honestly I have never had an experience seeing a man in the lingerie section - ever! In all the times i have gone to buy my personal items, i have never encountered any man in there... he he
18 Feb 13
Your right, but I think he has a feeling of a paranoid attitude deep inside. He don't care what other well say as long as he enjoy what he was doing. If I were you on that moment I will go on with what I want to do if nothing happened if not moved to other section and pretend to look for another item. That kind of people will feel very much comfortable if he think there are people feel agitated of his present.