this high school guy who was my classmate is quite distractive

@missjahn (4578)
Philippines
February 18, 2013 7:01am CST
i encountered lots of suitors in my life (take note - suitors (means plural )). well, since the day we departed from school in secondary, we never saw each other, no more. just until now but just on facebook. well, this what it happened, he used to court me in chat and told me that he had a crush on me and blah blah blah. i believed with him because i sensed that before but were too young to consider why he did not be able to confide his feelings towards me. he was scared of me and such. and then, he told me that we are already matured, and he wanted me to answer if i like or even love him now. as in that very moment of our conversation, he wanted me to admit that i also like him. well, he is likeable plus the factor that he is a stable guy already and such and such and such. but i can answer him that fast because i need to balance things, my feelings of course and the compromises i will about to face when i say yes to him. he was so impulsive and aggressive. i just do not know what he will going to do after saying yes to him. that is why i answered, let us hang up this one and let the time work for it if we are compatible for each other or not, i mean, i need his friendship first. but he said no, if i will say no, he will not bother me anymore --- so it means, he will not talk to me anymore. well, i proved that because this was his second time of attempt to court me. and guess what, he did not talked to me no more in chat. he avoided me. where is the justice. i should not be worried at the first place but knowing the reason why he did that is quite distracting. yohoo! ever had an experience like mine or can you relate with my story? i guess i just need few months for him to talk with me again or better not anymore (sigh)
2 responses
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
18 Feb 13
Well, even if I am on the subject of romantic relationships, I'm not very experienced (I would say nothing!), but in principle I find that just before you get together, you two need to precisely get to know each other thoroughly and see if it really you can be together. Today, just as engaged and maybe tomorrow as husband and wife. I regret the fact that this guy would want to go straight to the point (like say just yes or no), he hides away in chat, as if he'd already discarded. I'd take a bit of time, I think you be able in the future to renew its contact with that person. Best wishes!
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
oh yes, it is really hard to make decision my friend pertaining to that matter because i hate to get things all wrong at the end. i do not know why he can't spare me a time to think things over for that matter if will commit with him. gosh, he is really hard to deal with and leaving me no options at all. i do not know what chances are at stake. i just thought of unfriending him and getting his name in my friends list for he is a torture for my part. am i guilty? oh i guess not
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
18 Feb 13
I don't have that much suitors, so I never experienced the same thing. I bet you felt a bit bad because you offered what you can only give and yet he didn't take it. Somehow it's for the best, because maybe he can't handle being friends with you. A least he didn't try to hide his agenda with you and he was honest and straight. You could at least give him that, right?
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
yes, this young was really quiet straightforward of his feelings towards me without hesitation. but what i do not understand is that why not give me a chance to think things over and that why he wanted me to say yes or no instantly. he is being more than aggressive person. i just cannot read him for that. i do not say yes because i do not know what may come in the near future and i will be compromised. i did not say no neither, it was because i do not want to loose our friendship. where should i stand for he was not giving me any choices to choose upon. whew! i can say that i had a hard time talking with him because his decision is as hard as rock. so now, we're not talking no more even he is online. i tried to approach him but received no reply from him and alas, he was gone in a second. so that is why i did not bother him anymore for it is no use. i do not know until when i should wait for him to say hi to me, i guess much better if not at all when the same thing will gonna happened again. so thanks raine