What inspire a Man or a Woman to go with forbidden LOVE AFFAIRS ?

Philippines
February 18, 2013 7:35am CST
I observed nowadays more and more people are living in a forbidden Love Affairs. It's seems they are not contented of one man or a woman and usually it becomes the number one caused of Divorce if not Legal separations. As a result more and more unwanted children are living with no parent assistant except for another group of unwanted children uniting themselves to survive on whatever means they think possible.
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15 responses
• Indonesia
18 Feb 13
when two people involve in forbidden love, they don't realize about the responsibility and what will happen in the future. may be both is immature people who think the risk later, and enjoy live now. children is only victim, but they should deserve for better live and affection from their parent. in other side, we can judge those who go with forbidden love affairs. sometimes love and feeling is complicated things!
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Yeah it is right sometimes your desired for lust is overwhelming that no one can stop you in doing. In you mind is only to satisfy your immature feelings and feel satisfied of what your doing for the moments.
• Indonesia
24 Feb 13
well, it's always been not easy to control emotion when your mind is not in the right place and lust is overwhelming
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
I have noticed that, too. It seemed that people have really just chose to do whatever they want over what is right. People have lacked faith. They no longer want to wait for the changes that they want. Instead of trying to make a marriage work, their best solution is to find another one.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
I don't know the right answer but would I be right, if what I think is that maybe, the relationship is more challenging and people always want challenge and I hope any of my lotters will not fall on the same trap in the future.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Well, that could probably be true, too. Coz there are people who want to have the "thrill" of being in such relationships. Not really wanting to keep it permanent. But just wanting to be with other people.
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• Philippines
6 Mar 13
I don't care if somebody will have another with another but the most important is she knew where she stand and never forget her obligation to her family for excitement may come and go but family is always there to be with you just in case you can't resist the temptations just go on but always bear in mind your obligation to yourself and family for future sake.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
Can we say that being in a forbidden relationship is an inspiration? If you would ask me, I would probably say that some people just don't have their sense of pride, no grounded values and are easily played with by their lack of judgment. Many would allow themselves to be the third party because they probably don't think they deserve someone better, or that they were made to believe that they would become the only person in that person's life. If I am to be brutally honest, then let me say that sometimes there are men and women who are in this kind of relationship because it's their only way out. That they need someone who can support their needs financially.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Yes it is true I observed that also and as far as I can understand they lack sense of responsibilities.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
they do not have sense of responsibility, and they do not bother to even think about their actions, sometimes people would always choose what "feels right" for the physical aspect of things, instead of going the route of living their lives with no complications.
@mythociate (14978)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
18 Feb 13
Where are you seeing this happen---in Lord of the Flies (a novel--I think--they made into a movie)? That is "fiction." As for 'forbidden Love Affairs'---it's just man's beast-nature!
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
It is true but we must be realistic if you are married you must be faithful to your husband/ wife the moment you entered into another relationship while in the wedlock of marriage then you are in a forbidden love affair. In our locality and in workplace many are in that relationship they have already families wife and children of their own but yet maintain another family in addition to what they already have So I was then touch seeing their family suffering so I wonder of what made them inspire of raising another family.
@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
18 Feb 13
I don't think someone should be inspired to be in a forbidden affair. But maybe the mere fact that it is forbidden, it makes them feel excited and the thrill of being in this situation propels them to try it. It is wrong, and no amount of justification will make it right especially if there are lots of people who gets hurt along the way.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
We always taught that nobody did give an inspiration to anybody to engage in a forbidden love but why some people are engaged not only one, two or three. If she/ he was not inspired ? why he/she is keep doing it ? was he/she insane at the time of a forbidden relationship ?
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
There is no such "forbidden Love" ... there is no love there after all... it is ll pure selfishness! If a Man loves a woman or a woman loves a man... they will definitely think a million times before they enter each other's lives; before they let their feelings known they should done a thorough reflection if those people will not be harm or if they will not bring out the best in them. Loving Someone is being responsible and committed... without it... its just a pure lust and selfishness... Loving is bringing the best in someone's life not a monster or a home wrecker. How can we say we love someone by destroying their lives and family specially their children's lives. have a great day!
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
That's true so you must have to hardened yourself to any temptations. By so doing you must have to set a goal in life that no one can break till the time you achieve your goal. Let us say aim to travel, if want to travel you need much money, much money meaning good work, good work meaning good personality for a higher pay any obstacle in pushing to you goal is of none sense and is of no bearing for you including temptations.
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
Sometimes one partner tolerates that kind of behaviour. In other cases it's just boredom, bored of the same routine and possibly each partner has changed. They may not be able to provide what they promised with their vows and so they start looking somewhere else. It's a sign of cowardice to get into a forbidden love affair.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Going beyond your horizon is a challenge for others, If you love seeing good figures sometimes you forget where you are, till then your desire to see what is behind that beautiful figure and suddenly if there will be a meeting of mind then a relationship pops up.
@blackrusty (3532)
• Mexico
18 Feb 13
people have forgot the morals that we have been taught in church long ago and they have no self worth of there own or the will power to keep the love between the one that they have married it is sad that people find it a way to cheat and in the end all we do is hurt our selfs and the ones we love thank you for the share
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Yes but I sometimes think that the caused was too much desire for pleasure forgetting respect for oneself and I don't think so the bible has too much to do with this for if you will examine how many wives Abraham acquired, King David, Jacob. I think we must give priorities respect to ourselves. The fruit of being honest.
@1hopefulman (25988)
• Canada
19 Feb 13
If someone has an affair then I view such a person as weak in character. Definitely not an ideal person. I hope they realize all the hurt they are causing and change their ways.
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• India
18 Feb 13
Hi friend, love is a natural thing and any one can fall with any person, but we must try our maximum to avoid forbidden or illegal love affairs, as we know this kind of love is not a good thing. We must think about our kids future and avoid giving birth to such kind of kids without any support. If you love a person and wish to live with her/him, you must understand them completely and win over their heart as well as consider them as your life partner forever without any separation
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@hushgal (57)
• Kenya
1 Mar 13
Happy to see such a sensitive discussion started by a gentleman. I had a friend loose her beautiful marriage to the husband's mistress and it was so unbelievable. The marital world has turned ugly and particularly that people are no longer in 'holy matrimony' but in 'come-we-stay' relationships. In my country, the latter has become fashionable and this in my opinion is what is giving room for forbidden love affairs. First, the couple living together is not joined in church hence no vows and second, most men are in 'trial and error' commitments. Its such a messy life considering that the couple even sire children. I think men are the major culprits of the illicit affairs - married men approach us women and no matter how hard we ward them off they keep on nagging us until we give in. These men claim they love us just like they do their wives. For married women who involve themselves in forbidden love affairs could be out of loneliness and financial constraints thus the men provide companionship and financial support. Honestly, when i look at this issue deeper i do not get answers as to who should be blamed; but i think if the society embraced God, then our morals could be near perfect to include marriages for forever.
• India
1 Mar 13
I think it is because of not accepting responsibility, people of old time were more responsibile and loyal to their family and respect relationship. but nowadays, things has been changed. It is because they have no faith, no fear, when a person has no faith to God so of course is not afraid of what and how wrong he or she does! in my idea, if we could spend some time daily to remember God, to pray, to think why we are in this world, to think just for a second that if we will not be alive in the next moment? then maybe we could not do wrongs and sins in our life. It is all because we forget God, the source of love!
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
This was the topic in our church last Sunday. The reason behind that could be lack of commitment, contentment and covenant to their partner/relationship. Having a lot of "immoral" films/stories on televisions and cinemas nowadays led to curiosity of some and so they engaged in such immoral acts. Improper use of social networking sites also contribute to "blossoming" immorality. I am not a saint, I am also a sinner but I am against forbidden love affair.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
I think because human are vulnerable and very much attached with their emotions. They do not realize first what will be the outcome of their desire to be with that committed man or woman. They just enjoy and push through their feelings just to fulfill their needs and wants without thinking for it effects to them and to other people connected with that relationship.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
19 Feb 13
There's a lot of reasons but the common one is about financial on women's side and for men, perhaps their nature. For them it's fun, no responsible for each other yet enjoying each other's body. This why unwanted children became unwanted because these 2 people were not thinking about their responsibilty.