If a guy strays ...he is a casanova...

@vandana7 (64837)
India
February 18, 2013 12:36pm CST
And everybody loves him... but if a girl strays ... She is of loose morals... Is it? Cant seem to resolve this controversy...
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Feb 13
everybody loves him ...have my doubts on this one She is of loose morals ...what morals? It is her life after all and who am I to make any judgement on what she does with her life?
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
19 Feb 13
TOTALLY not fair - huh? He sows his wild oats, but she's a sl*t. Not me, so I get called other names... like those things that keep water out of Holland... not one of those either...
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
It is unfair...and we women also think that way because we are conditioned to..:( At least, we as women should understand...was watching a crime serial out here...the social worker's husband who was influential tried to rape the girl who had taken refuge in their house and then called the girl all sorts of names. The lady knew ...still she threw the girl out...why not her husband?
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@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
18 Feb 13
Men can be dogs. They think its alright. I never cheated on my ex, and never would have. Guess after all, I should have....
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Waiting for the right one can make us old. We as women are forced to take chances...because of our biological clocks, right? So at least, we as women should understand other women.
• Mexico
21 Feb 13
now you are right there.. the good ones come around just once. As we say in spanish here. Have a great day..
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
18 Feb 13
vandana7 No matter how much progress is made in male/female jugements, the women still get the most grief.. I think perhaps part of the reason may be because women can control themselves better and so they are expected to set the standard...lol this is a generality only since there are women with whom the men have to cheat...
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
I think cheating ...whether men or women...in terms of love should also be made a monetary offence..that way, neither would.
• Greece
21 Feb 13
*I do not agree with stary1 that women can control themselves better, they simply make a sensible decision to be faithful and mean it. It is men who spread the myth that women are made of sterner stuff, when it suits them. When men want their own way who sets the standard then? A good example is wages...
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I think if a man cheats he has loose morals and if a woman cheats same thing. Why is it ok for a man to cheat and not a woman? What about the woman the guy is cheating with? If she knows he is cheating why is she with him? Doesn't that mean she has bad morals? A man cheating isn't good because it's being loose and hurting the woman he is supposed to be with and if your married then it is breaking wedding vows and that's never good. So i say both men and women have bad morals and are loose if they cheat.
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
You are presuming that the woman who allows the man to cheat is aware of his marriage...lol. In most cases, they are not, and in many cases, the woman is told that the marriage is on rocks, and soon there would be a divorce...remember "Look Who is Talking". :)
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 13
I think it is unfair to evaluate the deeds of a boy and a girl from different angle. Society at large is to be blamed for such a distinction and myopia about this discrimination needed to be changed.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
21 Feb 13
Yes, society need to respect women who are divorced or separated due to cruel and mean husbands. You could even write an article on this subject and could get it published on any website.
@dawnald (84148)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Feb 13
Double standard, hypocrisy.. You should hear Dearra's rant on the subject.
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
19 Feb 13
Yes...it is and Dearra is right...even if she is a blond. :)
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
18 Feb 13
You will never be able to resolve it every. I so agree with you on this point. Men are considered Don Juans while girls who do this are considered easy or @hores. Its a double standard that will be around forever. I believe though most guys don't like loose women because they can never take them home to their moms. They just want them for one thing and one thing only. At least I know my hubby would never had stayed with me if I was easy. Plus he would never had felt right bringing me home to meet his parents.
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Lelin...people make mistakes. I'd be ok with a girl who had moved with a guy or two and then realized my son is the right one for her. It only means that my son is better than at least two other guys out there. And it would make me feel proud. Young girls and boys do err. However, doing it for fun is wrong...or doing it with ulterior motives is wrong. I know many guys are not sure of themselves. So instead of approaching that hot and sexy girl ...they approach her friend first. Dialogues go like.. your inner beauty and what nots. The object is to impress the girl and catch the attention of the actual target. And one fine day ditch the girl for the target. This is so unfair...leaving somebody heart broken is so unfair...that girl had not approached the guy in the first place. And not only does she get labeled bad she also suffers internal agony. There should be some punishment for this, isn't it? Likewise in the case of guys...the girl aims at a rich guy and then finds somebody richer and more powerful, dumps the previous one. Both are wrong...and both deserve to be treated as offences. But social condemnation is only for the girl...in either situation.
• Poland
18 Feb 13
I don't care if a girl strays or not as long as she does it in her place or somewhere private. It's her choice what to do with her life and I won't judge her. If a man strays then the case is similar but I wouldn't choose that kind of guy as my life partner. The true is that guys tend to brag a lot about that stuff and it's ok for other guys. But when a girl opens up about it she will probably be criticized the most by other girls.
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@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Yeah...I know...girls cant brag. Some girls do. But most importantly, we shouldnt be ok with cheating anymore...isn't it? Either way. It hurts. Because one of the two is truly sincere. Once the person is hurt, he or she wont trust others, and might end up like an infected person...going about cheating and hurting others. Some punishment is due for such a behavior, dont you think?
@himzey (1321)
• India
19 Feb 13
I guess I can help resolve this issue.. Just go through the link and enjoy one hell of a ride with Jim Jefferies. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFyW5h2JW6Q
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@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
19 Feb 13
It takes TWO to tango in this dance of life! SHE--loose and wanton! HE--spreading his wild oats! There is tarnish on the brush for her...and he is painted as having a colorful life! Time immemorial has ingrained this sad injustice in our thinking...and it will take time immemorial to change our attitudes. I don't think I will see it in my lifetime!
@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
I want both punished..lol I mean..not fair...perga...I am old, and i dont find my heart fluttering anytime... You put a young Ashton Kutcher...or old Bruce Willis...the reactions are the same...no weak knees, and no oh my god oh my god stuff..lol So...it happens only in certain age group. We have health then, and looks as well. And if a guy ditches a girl then, she spends a lot of those 25 odd years in distrust...and might even end up dangling to somebody out of no choice... Has it then not been an injustice to her done by the guy who promised to marry her? I have similar sentiments about girls ditching guys. Nobody should be hurt. I know for sure, guys too hurt, and they hurt as bad if not more. Given that...its only fair that this be recognized as a cognizable offence and any promise to marry be monetarily punished. That way, the hurt party at least has some consolation.
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• Canada
21 Feb 13
VAndy, it makes me sad "when people will not pick up the pieces, and move on..with life!" They have a choice, stay stuck in a groove, and "woe is me, forever," or look at the good side of the bad experience. Get out of the groove, and one step in front of the other! I am NOT defending the dalliances of the males, here...I simply am saying..just because you found a bad apple in the barrel, doesn't mean the rest are tainted. In the West, we call it "tarring with the same brush." And I am a firm believer, money doesn't pay for sins...so money mixed in, is like buying recompense.
@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Its true money does not pay for sins...but most people, including Prince Charles hesitated when they were asked hefty sum for divorce or separation, whatever. So men should be scared of saying " I will Marry you " ..this will enable the woman to take a call. When there are no promises, and still she moves ahead, she needs to accept it as risk she took. But if there are promises, because of which she took the risks, then it should be treated differently, isn't it?
• India
21 Feb 13
That's true in case of we Indian. Though we are so called Modern People. But we don't treat both men and women equally in the society. We reside in a imbalanced society, that needs many changes and reforms. In the above case both (i.e. the guy and the girl) should be classified as characterless.
@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Thank god for an Honest Indian. :)
• India
21 Feb 13
Vandy I call this ego, male egoism, many men think they are the noblest creature on this planet and all women are who-res or cheap stuff, 'things' to enjoy.. it is this mentality that is destroying us, i hate this one must honor women , it is one women who bought the men to this earth. you must have read about another incident in Hyderabad, the girl jumped from running auto and saved her life and the ba.stard says he is innocent, was drunk!!!
@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Yes...I did. And he would get away on the pretext of being drunk...because a person has to be of sane mind while committing the crime, and he was drunk so he was not in his senses..right. Talk about justice...men need to change the way they think out here, but there is a lot of resistance in letting such equality percolate.
@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
19 Feb 13
hahaha when the girl strays... she looks like a cat...hehehe this is funny I imagine cats.... and (the scene from the cats)
@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Not all girls...mavic..:)
• United States
19 Feb 13
It's like when, a guy texts a girl. The girlfriend gets all mad about it; but then can go off with guys and text however many she wants. Why? Because her reasoning would be, we're best friends, their being nice, he's not my type. It's not all one sided.
@vandana7 (64837)
• India
21 Feb 13
Sorry couldnt get you...texting is similar to what is happening out here...you know reading the discussion content...short discussion would be texting right? So merely texting would be lose morals? Even if the messages were not exactly.. clean..? I think it is guys who are shy...they test waters...they try to develop confidence by first approaching the girl who think will not refuse them instead of going directly to the girl they really like. Thereafter, they get the introduction and change their trains. The girl then is left high and dry...and thought of as somebody who is of loose morals..right? But she was not the one who was interested in this guy in the first place...it was this guy who approached her, practised and perfected his skills on her may be..before moving out. Be happy the girl who said ...the guy is not her type...is not using anybody as stepping stone..