When my FATHER disowned my sister!
By Firefly
@cttolledo (5460)
Legaspi, Philippines
February 20, 2013 1:32am CST
I remember those days when my father disowned my sister when she got pregnant at age 17 while in 2nd year in college.
My father is very strict in terms of falling in love or having a boyfriend at early age, he has this policy imposed to us that is " NO boyfriend while studying policy", I understand my father because just like other parents he wanted us to finish our studies before entering into a relationship.
My father had a very hard life during childhood, he said that he must do farming first to finance his studies. Maybe that is one of the factors why he wanted us to strive hard in life.
He decided to leave us and work away from us to earn much higher income to sustain our needs. He took for granted loneliness and worked hard to support our dreams that's why he was so hurt when my sister violated his policy, he felt offended and very disappointed ,I still imagine how my dad cried upon noticed of my sister's situation, he didn't even talked to the parents of my sister's boyfriend when they came in to our house to settle everything about my sister and her boyfriend.
My dad just leave one message to my sister.. that if my sister leaves her boyfriend he will accept and forgive my sister, but if she choose her boyfriend she will never accepted to the family.
That moment was the worst moment to our family. My mom that time cannot do anything but to cry.
My sister then decided to be with her boyfriend and then they got married when she reached 18.
Our life goes on.. my mom never stop visiting my sister, supports her all the way, help her to finish studies. My mom never failed to show her concern to my sister although my dad prevented us from visiting our sister.
In this incident, One thing that I realized that a grandchild has something that grandparents cannot resists.Because my father started to open his heart to my sister when he saw his very first cute grandchild..and that grandchild really soften my father's heart.
While we are in the hospital room of my dad after his kidney operation,my niece came into the room alone and stepped on my dad's bed and kissed my dad. In reply, my dad with a smile asked my niece with this memorable question " Where is your mom?" In that moment everyone of us in the room cried, after 7 years of disowning my sister , my dad finally asked where is my sister.
From that moment, everything goes well ... everybody is happy.
Does anyone here has the same story?
5 responses
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
20 Feb 13
That is such a touching story of reunion and forgiveness. I do understand how your dad feels because he only wants what's best for you and your siblings. And we have to admit, that your sister indeed disappointed him greatly. Sometimes, this has to happen so your sister will grow and learn the responsibilities of being a parent at a very early age, something that is both a curse and a blessing at the same time. Your niece is a blessing. Her coming might not be in the right time, but it is about time for a reconciliation. I am happy that your family is once again happy.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Feb 13
In fairness with my sister, although my dad disowned her, she never failed to try to reach out , support my dad and never continue to do her responsibility to my dad. Maybe my dad saw the effort of my sister to got his forgiveness.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Feb 13
I mean. my sister continued to do her responsibility to my dad.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I am not taking the side of your father here, but the way I see it, I think we all owe a lot to our fathers especially if they have been nothing but good providers to us. And your sister's responsibility to your father doesn't even begin to pay back all the things that your father has done for her (I am assuming that your dad has been nothing but a very good father and provider). I am not saying that we should count and compute and tally all the things that our parents have done for us, it is our own choice and our own values, our conscience that will dictate us to do what is right. Your dad must have felt betrayed, and even though he disowned your sister by his own words, a parent can never really stop being one to his kids. He is just hurt, and probably he also blamed himself and it has been nagging him where he went wrong.
As for your sister, the only thing that she can "repay" back your dad is to make sure to give her child a good family, to bring her up to the best of her abilities. She has matured a lot and grew to be a beautiful, responsible woman. She can still make your father proud. Your father of course will forgive your sister, after all, there's another of her that loves him now. Who can ever refuse a little angel like that? 
@taki_takaishi (1279)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
T_T
I'm sorry, I was touched with your story.. It never happened in my life or someone I know but your story is so "awww.."
I wish you and your family a very good years to come.. :)
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Feb 13
Thanks to your response!
My family now is awesome.. Everyone is happy.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Hi CTToledo!
Well, that is kind of a sad story but the good thing is that it has a happy ending. I actually ran away with my boyfriend, who is my husband now, when I was 19. I was asked by my mother to come back home but I did not. I chose to be with my husband. It's a bit more complicated since my parents are separated so it will be a lot of stories if I will try to fit in what everyone has to say about what happened since I also have second moms and dads since my aunts and uncles helped in raising me. Yep, I had a complicated youth. Now, fast forward to the conclusion, I was accepted by my mother when I was four months pregnant and my husband lost his job. We had nowhere else to go but parents will always be parents. She accepted us with open arms and she love her grandson so much. We lived with her for years and we just moved out recently to live on our own since I already graduated from college and I was able to find a good job here in Manila. We left the province but we still communicate constantly and we visit each other on special occasions.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
20 Feb 13
I think that is the sweetest thing I've read. I am so happy for your family that after years of hardship they have come together again. Blessings come to those who wait! Sometimes the path we choose isn't that of our parents, but in the end family is family and should be supportive of each other.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
21 Feb 13
Yeah. We've learned a lot from this family incident. First, my dad learned how to forgive and learned to accept his children weaknesses, Second, my mom became more stronger while doing his job as a wife and as mom at the same time and third, me and my sisters learned the consequences of early marriage & early pregnancy.
Thanks for the response.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well this is such an emotional story and i can understand why your father did this but i think your sister should have behaved matured at that time, she should not have gone that far of being pregnant. I think since now every thing is resolved i feel very happy for your family. your niece really changed the whole scenario, she has come as an angel for your family.
What say?
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Feb 13
Actually yes, she's like our angel, when she was born everything goes well slowly.
My sister knew and understand why father disowned her, she knew what she did is not right that is why she work hard hard to finish her studies despite of her struggle of having a baby at early age just to show it to our dad that she will continue our dad's dreams for her to have great life.
My sister now is licensed civil engineer and currently doing excellent to his chosen job. And my niece " our angel " is about to finish her nursing course this march.
Thanks for your response!
