It seems that no one wants MY advice!

Hi scorp! You know, you gave me advice and I took it. I appreciated it. A lot. You're my friend. You always showed me that. Not everybody knows how to deal with good advice when they get it. I don't understand that. I've gotten advice in the past from well meaning friends. I understood why they gave the advice they did. It just wasn't the right thing for me. But I didn't get upset with them. I'm sorry you've had that kind of experience. Because, having received advice from you myself, I know you were genuinely trying to help. And I suspect it was very good advice, too. I would give anything to have a friend like you near me. Someone I could visit and talk to. Someone that would help me and that I could help out, too. Even if it was only by talking with each other. But I guess you just never know about some people. I thought it was a sign when I got a notification of this post. I don't get many notifications these days, haven't in a while. So it was kind of strange that I would get one for this particular discussion, seeing as how I've been a recipient of your advice. And was very grateful for it. I'm tempted to say maybe you should be more choosy about who you give advice to but when you're under the impression that someone is your good friend it's kind of hard to imagine that they would take that kind of attitude. I don't really know what to say about it. But I know if I ever need advice on any number of things I could ask you. I admire you a lot.

Are you sure the person you gave the advice to responded angrily? Or was it forcefully in the eye of what you responded with? And if this person is a friend why would you take a negative stance on what they said? You put forth an effort on their behalf and they responded back. What more can you do or they do? It seems like you are overly sensitive. I feel the same way. I don't like many people anymore either. They take such strange stances on things. And responding to your reply honestly is not acting like a child. But being overly sensitive might be something to work on. I used to be that way and even would double think things and really get hurt feelings. Now I just take their reply as that-- their reply. ANd they have a right to it. Doesn't have to be totally taken to heart.

I have seen and experienced this one many times, and it makes you wonder. I have seen it in real life, here from time to time, and especially on Facebook. Too many times you see people asking for advice on something, and when you offer them advice that is not what they are expecting than they get mad, and feel offended. It is often interesting, and you wonder why they ask in the first place if they cannot accept something someone might have suggested?

There is a saying that you can ask for advice but you do not have two take it. Of course if we give advice we enjoy the flattery of people telling us that it is just what they want to hear. But I suppose that sometimes our advice doesn't fit their problem. However, there is no need for people to get angry. Sometimes advice conflicts directly with what they would like to do. But hearts ruling heads can lead to disaster!

Stupid. If she asked for advice, she should at least listen to it respectfully. She doesn't have to agree with it, she doesn't have to follow it, but she has no cause getting angry just because she doesn't like it. It would be different if it was unsolicited.

You know I have found that some people say they want our advice but really they just want people to agree with them at all times. Then if you don't agree with them they get really annoyed. My advice would be, don't give them advice anymore if they get angry with your true thoughts or feelings...

Perfect solution, if they ask for advice, smile sweetly and say "What do you think you should do?" most people, when they ask for advice really just want you to tell them what they have already made up their mind to be the right approach. I can understand why you are angry, and it is very frustrating, I agree.

Just ignore her. Maybe she's so confused now. Let her fight with her own battles. She shouldn't be angry at you because you're just giving your advice. She asked for it so she should respect your thoughts. You were just concerned about her. Maybe she'll realize her mistake. Relax. Forget about what happened.

As you also said I don't like unsolicited advise too and rather I really hate it because most people who are giving unsolicited advises are the ones who don't really analyze the real situation, not a good listener, arrogant to the extent that they just want to feel good about themselves, most of the time they are not sincere hence they just want to project who they are. First of all how did you really respond when you gave advise? Because sometimes what makes others angry is the way, and approach on how you were able to deliver your advises. Sometimes I find strange when others are giving advise it can be unsolicited or being asked but the way it has projected is different like blaming them because it is their fault, the tone of your voice can be also included, and at times they find disrespectful. For the topic itself that you have posted which is NO ONE WANTS my advise as I understand it seems that there are other people aside from your friend who doesn't like your advise at all. Just analyze the situation and try to feel if you are really credible enough.

I have been is situations like this a couple of times already. It truly is sad if our efforts to help is not really appreciated. It even hurts somehow if the things that we say makes them angry of worse if they just ignore it. I think that people who does this has social issues. It is healthy if we express our emotions that is why people have conversations about problems. It is just rude if the things we share to make them feel better becomes unrecognized by them. The thing that I do to avoid this is I do not really give out advises. I just share my opinion of the things that I would do if I was in the situation and I let them decide if they would agree on it or not.

If she's a good friend, she will soon realize that you are just doing what she requested you to do: advise her on something. She can always take your advice or not. It is not after all, a must-do. Maybe you hit a nerve with what you told her. And even though that doesn't warrant her to unleash her frustrations on you, just give her time to calm down and sort things out. Her life may be a mess right now and she needs all the support that she can get. Give her some time, and see what her next move is. When she has finally decided to approach you, you can always ask her why she felt like that, and you can even explain to her what you really meant. Who knows, maybe she can give you something to learn about giving advices. And by the way, I approve your resolution, of not giving unsolicited advices. Some people just don't need it, and instead of helping them, it just might make them feel worse.

please don't act like children here...thats my advice to both of you

dont be angry.. maybe she's just wanted some opinions from others also and comparing which can help her a lot. :)