Do you feel your relationship with your realtives is getting isolated ?

@rocketsky (1013)
China
February 21, 2013 9:08pm CST
recently ,I have read an article from the people's newspaper which was written by one of the famous jounalist who has been working in the press for more than 17 years. According to his point of view, he thought that people today are getting more and more isolated away from their relatives,especially for people who have their own jobs.During the day,they would be so happy to communicate with their collegues,but when they get back home they dont like to talk too much with their relatives.They could be so successful with their career,but they quite often treat their family members with the unacceptable attitude and mind. People would also like to share everything in their life through their micro blog and other kind of online communicational tools such as the social websites and ICQ,skype or,ETC.why does this kind of things happen in the modern world ?the answer is quite puzzled.
11 responses
• India
23 Feb 13
I do not agree if it is for all family, as my relatives are so close and friendly together. I mean children and parents relationship is so warm and close to share everything, we are so close to our parents and even my mom is old enough but still is my best friend , I see realtives now are more far, as many reasons, like jealousy, proud, making diffrence , being in competition with, money, life statues, all of this effect us to be far from them, and even this busy time is not giving enough time to be close with anyone there, andd another reason is gap of age and thinking that is major problem for many families. so for that children are more likely with their friends and update in society while some parents are so classic and not updated according their time.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Feb 13
Oh, yes. I certainly do believe this. It used to be that there were generational households. Meaning there were parents, kids and grandparents all in one home. Now there are just the parents and kids. And people communicate only what they are comfortable sharing on Facebook or these micro blogs you speak of. It is the new technological age. We need to go back to the 30's and 40's.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
22 Feb 13
Yes the journalist's observation is fully correct. Humans becoming isolated. Now their company is TV or Computer. They are not interested on social contact. Human qualities are gradually fading away. It is the curse of so called modern attitude of life.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Feb 13
This is how I see it. With the relatives, we feel that anything and everything they can put their noses into and that annoys us. While with friends, we just get to tell them selective info and they are not mindful of everything that is going on with your life. Friends is equal to fun. While relatives is equal to annoyance for meddling.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
22 Feb 13
i think this is true as i am from the united states born and raised and moved to mexico late last year
• India
22 Feb 13
Relatives and family are two different sets of people. While getting isolated from relatives is understandable, same can't be said about family. We have become self-centered and obsessed with our lives. My career, my job, my money, my life, this is the way we talk these days. It's hard to find time for family, leave aside relatives. It's only on occasions and festivals that I get to meet my cousins, yes the ones with whom I enjoyed a wonderful childhood. But it's not the same anymore.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
22 Feb 13
In some ways I can relate to that articles except I dont live with my relatives . Most my family I see them once a year are not at all . I am close to my brother and my parents and that will never change but for the rest of my family not so much and I am ok with that . Some people can be closer to you even if they dont share your blood .
@offlimits (596)
• Philippines
22 Feb 13
I'm not that close with my relatives to begin with, but yes I agree to that perspective as well. Personal contact with loved ones are getting more and more limited because of distance, lack of time, or simply neglecting the opportunity to do so. Virtual means are now more preferred than having real conversations because it's less complicated and energy-saving (physical) as well. I guess everybody's been busy living their own lives nowadays...
• Philippines
22 Feb 13
Hi... I guess I know some of the reasons... I've been there... I guess it will not be a puzzled for me anymore. Others they try to be Isolated because they were corrupted by their own arrogance... as if they already own the whole world because they are making some money now for themselves... Others are so shy to open up their lives to their own family (I know some)for personal reasons that was not able to settled, Others get tired to connect themselves because they were over and over again being rejected by their own relatives... Others are being too much consumed by work, promotions, personal gained and thought that their families will be there forever when n fact life is very unpredictable. others are too much consumed in earning more money because they are so worried about their families' welfare... specially those who have experienced extreme poverty in the past that they seldom have time to be connected to their families and relatives. And I? I am too tired to prove myself that I am not a loser... and I am so tired the way they look and think of me... but I am trying not to Isolate myself from them... I make sure that I spend sometime and then go home... Though there are a lot of reasons why somebody isolate themselves specially when they have money to support their own lives and new friends to cling with... but there is only one thing that cause all of its Isolation and the same thing that can really unite them and that is LOVE... genuine LOVE. With love... there will not be a time that anyone of us would want to be isolated or apart from our family... because there will be definitely a home, support and respect and warm comfort at the end of a tiring day. Have a great day God bless.
@Chico1793 (135)
• United States
22 Feb 13
I can relate to his point of view. My relatives were like that to our family for a very long time until we hit rock bottom and asked if we can stay at their house while we get back on our feet. They welcomed us and things were getting a little better in a relationship between all of us. That was until a few months later, we are still here and a bit of tension has grown badly. We were better off not living there. We understand though their house isn't for more people than them. We are literally crowded there. One bathroom, 12 people, 2 rooms, it is ridiculous. I can't take it anymore. I dislike the way my parents are treated here and so are we but we tolerate it to stay it is hard finding a new place. Our relationship was way better when we didn't live there. Now it's unbearable. Hopefully we move soon.
22 Feb 13
I can relate to that, I'm not really close to some of my relatives and not that sociable enough that I most of the time I don't attend some occasions maybe because they always prefer talkative ones, well... true people are more and more in isolation maybe that's the reason why film now a days are more morbid as ever and things makes possible too much over thinking of being alone