Is Like now obsolete?

@Hatley (164507)
Garden Grove, California
February 22, 2013 8:51am CST
somehow lately there are so many discussions on disliking this and that, disliking these kinds of people and those kinds of people, disliking the republican party, or the democratic party, or a number of other issues.So has the word like become obsolete, are we so down on everything we cannot see the good in people or in anything? To me this has become really depressing lately Your take fellow mylotters? Has like become obsolete?
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@sjvg1976 (18411)
• Delhi, India
22 Feb 13
Hello Hatley, I always believe that all of us have different way of thinking. Someone may think a thing to be good which we may not but that's because we all have different way to sense things and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I normally has a habit of extracting a good thing from the bad thing too that's the reason I enjoy my life.We must respect other's opinion too though they may be wrong.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi sjvg of course but I am just saying how come we all cannot see a bit of the good things around us. The sun is shining, the birds are singing the grass is green there are marshmallow clouds against the blue sky so why not enjoy for awhile. I know there are all sorts of things that are wrong and all of us hve problems but drowning ourselves in our problems will not solve them but only make us depressed and stressed out. Even our doctors tell us s miling and laughter are good for our health.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
23 Feb 13
Hatley aunty: How are you? Aunty, Aunty -- I forgot your name/id yesterday -- For ten minutes I could not remember your id/name. then i searched the friends list in H and I got it. That is human mind. If we do not frequently see people or communicate--we forget things/people. But in the matter of negative feelings/ideas only we remember them even though we do not see people. I give a link on perception--relating to this. "If you think you can , you can; if you think you cannot, you cannot.". Aunty- nice to talk to you again. I am taking classes in college and am husy in preparing for them. best wishes
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
23 Feb 13
Aunty-- I forgot to add that I like your this discussion. nice aunty.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi ravi five years ago I broke my shoulder so badly I had to have a shoulder joint replacement and that meant 20 days in a rehab hospital., I got to really admire this therapist that would not let me give up on myself,. I had a balance problem and he made me keep walking learning how to use a quad cane. I would want to give up and he would say to me" You can always do more than you think you can" so I walked to the point he suggested and he was right there then with the wheelchair.so little by little I got so I could walk all around n the whole floor I was on so then I was ready to go home. then two years ago I had a bad fall and twisted my knee. He was still there and he again kept encouraging me so I really did well with the walker and I could d again go home .I have since used that a lot in my life here and its served me pretty well too.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Hi Hatley, guess what my lesson is this week? Coping skills and how some people are positive and some negative. I won't use those terms, but I do admit I can get negative when I am stressed out, but I would like to see myself as more positive. Even on FB, where I added a "dislike" button, I have only used it twice,(for good reasons, abuse of an animal or child), but mostly I "like things" I also like mylot and my friends, even when we don't agree..
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi carm coping skills sounds great and should be easy to learn and get good grades on. I also get negative like when I see my dismal earnings. I made myself positive this noon by seeing the sun shining and hearing the birds singing. and actually feel a quiet happiness. The sky is really a deep blue with s mall puffy white clouds and some contrails from some way up there airplane. There are just a few little puffs of clouds like marshmallows. Speaking of marshmallows I picked up a package last night when i was out shopping and because at the time I did not know it I was running high blood sugar I had a time just shopping then getting my walker out of my friends car I dumped two of my bags off the walker and she helped me to get it all picked up. I had everything but the package of marshmallows when I got home.,. lol So I finally checked my blood sugar and it was 200 darn. I ate a whole baked potato at dinner when I should have cut it in half as it was ginormous., I did know better. I kept wondering why I was shaky and out of breath . i do promise myself to do much better as too high blood sugar is just not good for me.
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• United States
24 Feb 13
Gotta watch those marshmallows, they are packed with bad sugar, so in a way I am glad you didn't have them, but I hope you also didn't pay for them? I know sometimes my husband will leave stuff at the store and he calls them up right away. That way next time he is in town, he can pick up what he forgot.
@bunnybon7 (37169)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Feb 13
take a look at facebook. that should make you feel better. people always complain because theres no dislike on there. seriously i know what you mean. just makeing a joke . dont get upset at me. ok? lol
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi bunnybon oh thats right its all like which too could get sort of boring lol No I am never mad at you at all.I just realized this mornibng that although I have plenty of health problems I was just quietly happy for no good reason except the sun is shining , the grass is riz, and I know where all the littl birdies is to quote an old saying. the birds were really singing this morning and some where a couple of pear trees are in bloom and their scent is so sweet its lovely to smell. Unlike the usual ripe odor from the Vietnamese grocery' dumpsters.
@GardenGerty (101788)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Hatley I have friends who talk about what they like, and start discussions about them, but they seem to be poll type discussions, and I try not to answer them and you know why. For instance, one who asks what we like to do or eat on a rainy day. . . fraid it will get deleted. I hope I do not come across as negative. Maybe we are just tired of winter here in the US and of the uncertainty of our political situation. I am fortunate to know plenty of positive people as well as negative, and I like them all.
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• United States
22 Feb 13
Hi Auntie Hatley! I have to admit that I haven't thought much about this, but come to think of it...we, as a whole kind of are rather negative. For instance...I don't like Obama's politics. However I think he is a great man with a beautiful family. I try to see the good things about people. I don't care for politics at all. Why? Because it separates people. Religion does the same thing. It seems I that people of one group like their ideas but hate those of some other group. We, being human, seem to like and dislike with a passion.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi PointlessQuestions you have such a way with words I love to read your responses. Yes I have mixed feelings about Obama too. I stay clear of politics as I just get bruised and hurt when I responded to just one discussion. They sure know how to flame and not get deleted too. lol Politics does separate people. My childhood best friend now for 86 years just dumped me because I dared to be a democrat. sad and it hurt too.And religion I dared to say anything and she got mad at me.I hated that as I really had loved her from childhood on. She still does send me lots of articles but no more personal letters about our home town and our lives at all.,I miss that and I did try to send my own letters in hope she would respond the same way but she refuses to. But today I am quietly happy for no good reason other than the sun is shining and the birds are singing/
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• United States
22 Feb 13
I know what you mean. When I don't agree on certain issues at home there is a heated young lashing coming to me. I'm so sorry you lost your friend. She should agree to disagree and live you back. I will always be your friend Auntie. You have become a precious part of my life. I'm hanging on to you as part of my family.
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• United States
22 Feb 13
Edit: love you back...not live. This virtual keyboard has a mind of its own.
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@Bluedoll (17054)
• Canada
22 Feb 13
You are dis ing people for using dislike but I can understand why. I like that speak your mind. We could suggest they change their topic to the DISLIKES topic section Maybe, we could encourage people to write I am grateful sentences. I know that does wonders for people as well as makes the reading more encouraging. I am grateful I am alive. I am grateful God loves me. I am grateful I’ve have time to be here. I am grateful someone loves me. I am grateful I am appreciated. I am grateful I can think life is not so bad at least today. The list goes on...
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi bluedoll I made a discussion like t hat awhile back and got scolded so much by people who are in real trouble with financial' problems and health problems that I had to cringe to write my comments back. They seemed to forget that I too had had my own share of troubles and the reason I am here in a retirement center is because we were made homeless four years ago when my son lost his job.We were evicted and had no place to live. So I ededd up here.So I have had m own share of hurt and pain and sorrow.B t I am grateful I am alive, I am feeling well, I have a great son and a wonderful best friend, I am safe here, I am loved. and yes life is oka as the sun is shinning and the sky is blue and the birds are singing.
@Bluedoll (17054)
• Canada
23 Feb 13
I know what you meant in the original post uptop. If we always focus on the dislikes it is like focusing on the pain and it only makes it worse but if we can work around the dislikes and find what we like it is much better though I understand too that sometime we all have to get it figured out or tell someone about what is bugging us. I agree it is better to be thankful for what we do have then to feel lousy about what is wrong with our life.
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• United States
27 Feb 13
Yes Bluedoll. Focusing on the negative all the time just breeds discontent.
@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I don't think the world has become obsolete. I think the world has gotten selfish. Really selfish. It also seems to be much more greedy then it has in the past. I still believe that people do see the good in others as well as holding onto the hope that things will be better in the future.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 13
rtia yes a lot of people have become greedy and selfish They also get grumpy and post about the kinds of people they hate. It got me down as I like to think about things I like instead as I have enough of my own troubles and do not want to dwell on them all the time.I know some people do see the good in others and do post about it so I must search for more positive views on things.
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@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
1 Mar 13
I think the ones that do post somewhat negative stuff here are doing it to get that stuff off their chests. I sometimes write about my evil ex and what she did. But I try to be as neutral as possible on any of my sites.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hi inertika I sometimes post some rants and they are also negative byut thats okay too as thats what mylots herr for to let us express ourselves.,
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
I have noticed these too. So many bitter and sad people in the world. Never satisfied about anything. That is their problem not ours. A personality like that is hard to live with. Living with themselves would be torture, wouldn't it? And there are things that we dislike about. I too have made many discussions like this, but it doesn't mean we don't have to like anything. There are many things to like. People should also talk about positive things and not just negative things. Negativity spreads quite easily and it can upset many people.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi aja I have to try to keep positive as I have diabetes and if I'let stress really get to me it can raise my blood glucose level dangerously high.So I do try to be positive and at times I miss 'my best coach my hubbie who left me in 1 991 bound for heaven of course as he was a good kind loving man. He was a cockeyed optimist who never felt negative about anything. A ha py person to live with and I was a foil so that when some things had to be seen too I reminded him that even positive thinkers will run into real problemd and have t o solve them.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
Having diabetes is very difficult, it is difficult to manage, you have to be careful with your diet and level of activity. Do you take maintenance medications consistently? It's great to have an optimist friend or partner, they keep us motivated. I am a little envious of people who can always think positively, it's hard to do when we are in difficult situations.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
You can always cheer yourself up or turn to friends and family for support. That's good. Haha, my father should be like you. he doesn't exercise at all because he states that he gets cramps afterwards and they are very painful, that's what he said.
@kprofgames (3103)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Hatley you have a wonderful point there. I've been in and out the last few days and where there are places I'm stopping and responding it gets heavy in here sometimes. I don't think it's obsolete. I think people use here as a venting point where they can get anonymous answer to help them cope. It would be much harder for a person to vent this in real life without causing further friction because whom they would be venting too is in their immediate circle. It does wear on a person but when I look and think of it the way I've just explained it helps not be so over cumbersome.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi Kprofgames yes its a great place to vent and I also was venting as that discussion for a moment depressed me and stress is something I try to avoid because I have diabetes and stress shoots up ones blood sugar as bad as a gallon of ice cream would. but I realize the person had the same rights as I do to vent his displeasure with some types of people.But I also have the right to say sometimes its good to look out see the sun shining and the sky all blue and some birds singing and feel happy from that. Sure it does not stop my problems or solve them but wailing and bemoaning do not solve then either.In fact when I am feeling happy I am more able to figure out how to solve the problems I have which are making two doctors visits , having blood work done, and having the dread colonoscopy as it first makes you spend hours in the bathroom then the actual procedure is painless. My real problem is procrastination so anyone here have any theories as how to lick it? I will start with the blood work and then go from there.One big problem is each trip now will cost me round trip seven dollars and thirty cents a raise from five dollars and forty cents. Now I will have to do that for blood work, for two doctors visits then the colonoscopy and the return to the doctor for results of the damned colonscopy too. but my health demands it so I will have to to do it.
• United States
23 Feb 13
Is it's great to look around us and see something happy instead of negativity. And thank you for that now actually. It is a great reminder to look at something more positive or to see the beauty in something. Like now looking outside at this snowstorm that hit us last night. A lot of people have complained today about it but all I see is a Normal Rockwell picture in it all.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi when I read this it reminded me of way back I must have been fitee or so and we lived on a farm in South Dakota. We had had some really heavy snow storms that buried our orchard. I remember standing on top o the snow drifts ang realizing that the trees were probably at least twelve feet tall so we had some huge drifts and I laughed as I stood on top;of apple trees and plum trees buried beneath all that snow. It really was a beautiful scene., Also it was a very hard winter too. Nature is beautiful b t she can be pretty harsh too. lol
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
22 Feb 13
I feel the same way but I notice that people choose to either focus on the negative side of things or the positive. I try my best to talk about what I do like or what is going right when it seems so much is going wrong. What you focus on does affect your mood and your outlook on life. I try to turn other peoples conversations around when they are talking negative because it tends to bring me down.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi lumenmom I do get down when I read some discussions about how we dislike people who do this or do that, as if there is nothing left in the world but negative people doing negative things. Okay so thats the real world but really is it? There are so many good peoople out there doing wonderful things to help us all and we never talk about them., The doctors who work to keep you well, the nurses who give of themselves every day, the paramedics who rush to save lives these are good uplifting people.Moms who give of themselves every day for all their gaily and do it willingly with love and joy. I have health problems and money problems too but I don't choose to dwell on them.I looked out my window and saw the sun shining the sky that wnderful deep blue and the Vietnamese workers thronging into the store t o start their workday and I feel a quiet joy.
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
23 Feb 13
You are so right, there is a whole lot of beauty and good things in this life and I like to focus on those things. Nature itself offers so much beauty and splendor and just like you said there are many people doing wonderful things all the time. I have this conversation with my husband all the time because he is good at finding and discussing all the evil in this world and it makes me that much more determined to point out the good. We really are so much more blessed than we realize.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 13
thatgs it as even when my son and I were evicted because he losthis job and we got behind on the re nt and were homeless and for one week we had to stay in the Salvation Army's Hospitality House my son still saw beauty all around us and he keep me from going to pieces completely. He got me in here at Gold Crest Retirement Center and I pay for it with my social security and SSI checks.He is now working full time and has a one bedroom section 8 apartment which only costs him 400 dollars a month as opposed to the going rate of one thousand dollars a month.We did srvive
@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 13
People nowadays tent to react negatively towards others, I think. It still depends on where you are. In my country, especially in the country side, more people still like talking about good thngs about other people.
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• United States
22 Feb 13
Its how we are treated and learn to treat otehrs. In cities others tend to be in a rush so I think it effects a lot of things including relationships with other human beings.
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@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 13
Your surroundings also influence how you behave. If one lives in area where most people like shouting, one will grow to have such bad attitude, right?
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi yanzalong and echoforever well I live here in Gold crest and I guess maybe the atmosphere here is on the whole pretty peaceful and most people here do try to help each other so there is some respect for self and others.So its quiet and peaceful so maybe that does rub off on me too.As I do not react negatively towards most people here in Gold Crest and certainly not to my many friends here in Mylot either. Most things talked about here are positive things
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
22 Feb 13
It is a general tendency of people to find out lacking of others. No doubt it is a bad side of character. It is always good to overlook others fault.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi bhanusb yes I guess it really is and somehow maybe it makes the person feel superior knowing he or she does not share that lack. Somehow this morning reading discussions about how the poster does not like people who do this or that really did depress me, then I looked out the window and the sun is shining and people are going about their work and smiling and laughing and I felt a quiet joy surge over me. Okay I have plenty of my own problems but dwelling on them all day does not solve them and frowning and being gloomy makes me depressed.So I began to wonder how come nobody writes about how they like something anymore. So here I am saying I like bubble gum, rainbows. kittens and puppies, laughter and babies and sunshine and smiling and being happy for no good reason just because.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
23 Feb 13
Hi Hatley if we can open the windows of our mind every thing will become beautiful to us.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 13
hi bhansb oh thats so true as we need to see all the beauty God gave us and its all around us too. the laughter of children and the trust in their eyes. the birds singing and flowers blooming and lovers walking harm in arm. beauty is there if we will reach out and see it.
@blackrusty (3530)
• Mexico
22 Feb 13
you will never see me write any thing of this type of nature as i was told to respect and not hate
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Feb 13
hi blackrustyh Good for you. I too try to keep myself cheerful'as nobody else but my self can really make me happy.I also have plenty of problems but dwelling on them does not solve them. And to keep my self really healthy I try to be more positive. I know there are many wrongs in our world and I wish I could change them all but I cannot. But I can be a friend to those around me, and give a smile here and there and maybe cheer someone up for awhile. I have my dislikes too but does airing them really help anyone or solve anything? I really do not think so.
• Mexico
23 Feb 13
we all wish we could change the world and we can together but it will all take time till then baby steps
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 13
hi bl ack rusty yhes in small baby steps we can do some things to make tjhe world better.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
20 Mar 13
I dont think it has. i like a lot of things! I think the ability to express displeasure has been taken advantage of lately. People see the bad alot easier than they see the good. But media doesnt help see the good very often!
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hi saundryl yes the media usually gives ujs all the murderss and stuff likke that lol,I think maybe we go in sp urts here with rants and with happy ones and thats really okay too.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
25 Mar 13
I think youre right.
• United States
22 Feb 13
I think that people just want to be ornery and dislike everything. Ornery was the first word that came to mind; basically, it seems that they just want to be difficult. I don't understand why no one can like anything nowadays-or are they practicing to become members of Congress?
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi scorpiobabes You of all people if you wished could complain like crazy ut I have never seen you do much of that.Ornery is a great word and makes me think of my dad as he spent so much time being bitter and leery of people's intentions, he did not trust any one and I alw ys vowed I would never let myself get bitter when old as it sours a person's mind and spirit.OH love that last sentence hh ha members of congress good one.As I havew diabetes I now do try to keep as free from stress as I can as it can shoot my blood sugar way up too high,[
• United States
23 Feb 13
I inherited a sense of optimism from my dad. I DO complain, but in private because no one wants to hear me! My ex doesn't know how to be happy; sadly, I think he learned it at his mom's knee. And while I was with him, I found myself the same way! Now we've been apart nearly ten years, and while I've had some rough times, I've realized that they were MY doing, not anyone else's. I think that's a lot of people's problem-they are quick to blame everyone else, but don't take responsibility for their own actions. I'm trying to reduce my stress too-it's terrible for my MS. I was going to try yoga,and maybe meditation. I hear those are great stress-busters.
@celticeagle (119241)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Feb 13
I have become negative over the last few years. With my stress issues I usually go to the very worst scenario possible and have to work myself back mentally. I think that we are more negative because we don't feel at peace. So much unrest. Mass murders, the war in Iraq, and the questionable ethics of the government, possible killing cells in the country,etc.. All these things add up to a negative thought process in alot of people. It's not just on here.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi CelticEagle I realize that a whole lot of things are not going well in our world and it has left many of us with negative feelings. But I have also been through the tough times when our world turned upside down and we had no place to call home,my son out of work and all I had was a small social Security check. However we got me in here at Gold Crest and finally my son is now working full time so for us things are much better though they did not turn just as we would have liked. Now I am just saying I have to keep fairly cheerful as otherwise stress will shoot up my blood sugar to dangerous levels much worse than eating something sweet.My son told me a job now is a job so he too it although he just makes half of what he made before as a computer programmer . He is doing electronic repair for fifteen dollars an hour but as he said its work and its a paycheck. So he too is now being positive as its a hell of a lot better than being homeless on the street being shoved from one shelter to another as you can only stay in a shelter for a week.
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@celticeagle (119241)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Feb 13
That's great that he is working full time now. Stress is no fun. I live with it daily. I wish I was stronger. Fifteen dollars an hour is nothing to sneeze at. I was happy when I finally got a job at nine dollars another and it took me three years to bring that up to eleven. That is a woman with nothing but a highschool educatiion. I was homeless for afew days once and that was enough for me. My daughter was with me and it was VERY stressful. You have been through a lot. Keep your sunny side up!
@much2say (40060)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Hi Hatley! Well, I'll admit it - sometimes it's just easier to focus on the negative . . . there's more to say when we need to moan and groan and complain about things (at least for me, ha ha). I think we all do it at some point, don't we? That's just what makes us human - can't be happy happy joy joy all the time - we'd just be kidding ourselves. It wouldn't mean that I'm a negative person . . . but a discussion or comment might be negative though. But sure, it might get real annoying when someone is constantly being a downer - that's not good. Then again, I realize that online personality could be different from real life personality. In any case, it's always nicer to see the more positive sides of everyone. I "like" Hatley!
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• United States
22 Feb 13
I've seen it as a trend more recently. I think that is just what it is, a trend. It is easier to focus on negative things this is true. i don't know why but its the way most of us as humans are.
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Feb 13
hi much2say and echo yes I have been there and done that as i am just as human as anyone else. but four years ago our life turned up side down and we felt like we had been struck by a run away train. my son was laid off, I hssd retired so was not getting anything bu t social security and we got behind on the rent., we were evicted and made homeless. I am not going to even try to explain all we went through For one thing it will make me cry and I do not do that any more. So now I have to think of m diabetes and keep happy and think positive as stress raises my blood sugar dangerously high.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
22 Feb 13
Hi sweet Hatley. No one can or will see any good in any other person in todays life. It is easier to dislike things and people than to like them. We need to get our morals straight to try and change as we were a few years ago. Good luck for us on that though.
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@GardenGerty (101788)
• United States
22 Feb 13
I think this is true, disliking is easier and requires less thought, more just an urge or impulse.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
23 Feb 13
Hi sweetie. I would say impulse. It is by now so into us to just dislike something or someone without giving them or it the benefit of a doubt. Such a bad trait in the human race.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 13
Hi mrs. HAtley maybe people these days are getting more stress so that is why they feel more dislike than like when we get stres, people tend to see something from the negative side maybe we all need to cool my mind and stop thinking about working and earning
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@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hi ikfa I am surew lot of ys are dong that now days as the economy is pretty bad now days in the US. Myh state California is second in the nation with highest nmbers of unemployed now.