Should facebook be used as your personal diary?.. NOT!!!.

@dloveli (4369)
United States
February 23, 2013 6:20am CST
I am on facebook, as Im sure some of you are. I like facebook because I have been able to reconnect with old friends. Keep up with the latest, and at the same time listen to a little gossip. Or so I thought. I like to know what my friends are up to but really? An hourly update. Im sitting here bored. An hour later eating lunch. An hour later wow people really get on my nerves anybody agree? like if you agree. COME ON! if its not this type its the other talking about their man/womwn. Ex. I dont know why Im with him. ALways cheating on me. He just walked out on me and now my son is crying his head off. These arent actual posts but they are almost head on for what some post. SO yesterday I posted a comment. Something to the effect of: Listen fb friends we must remember that facebook is a social media sight. But it doesnt mean that we should post our personal thoughts or feelings. You never know who may be reading this. Im just suggesting that you keep your intimate thoughts and feeling for the special confidants in your life... Am I wrong? I have posted that I was so angry I could spit! I just dont get why people want to post such personal things. I literally had an argument with my daughter because she documents every inch of her life. She just woke up. She's eating breakfast. WHO CARES! Its ok to share that you're going to lunch with old friends. Or that a family member is sick could you pray for them. But talking crap about someone or putting your personal intimate business out there is a breeding ground for trouble. What do you think. Should you document your every thought, feeling, and emotional moment on facebook or other social media sites?
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@Wendi81 (603)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 13
Of course not. I am not telling what i am doing and what i done in my daily life in facebook or the others, cos i think my facebook friends don't want to know what i am doing, so i don't want to type what i am doing
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@Wendi81 (603)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 13
Why you think if i am an interesting person? People like me is a bore people
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
Girl please the only thing boring is the people that criticize you. Send me your facebook name privately. I would love to be bored by you.lol I highly doubt either of us will be bored. Hope to hear from you. D
@anuraa32 (2452)
• India
23 Feb 13
It actually depends. Yes if you are putting up every detail of your life and letting your status update visible to general public, obviously in today's world it is extremely dangerous, with all the frauds, scams, abuse on women etc. No one except a close circle of friends and family has the right to know every small detail of your life. In that case if you just put up some sort of privacy settings, like certain things can be viewed by only your friends. Even your friends' friends cannot see those updates, photos and activities. You can also choose which of your friends can see all this too. When you secure yourself then yes but still every personal detail on the net can be dangerous even with all the security checks in place.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
23 Feb 13
I can agree with that. Im not saying that venting when you're upset. Shouting for joy when excited or happy. Im saying that women look ridiculous when they're swearing at each other. Threatening to hit one another. I just think we should think about it before we post. I think its safe to say you and I will never have this problem. LOL. Happy MyLotting
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@anuraa32 (2452)
• India
23 Feb 13
I agree with you. We should really think twice when and before we post. People in the virtual world who dont know us for a long time or in the real world, make an image of us based on the posts we make. One should keep that in mind. Yes people like us will not have this problem.
@aqirock (857)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 13
well FB a great platform to make drama most of user they will keep update their status with nopnsense thing like writing a diary if can even want to go to toilet they want wrote it
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
The sad part is you're absolutely, right. I love to know what others do during their day. Who knows may give me an idea for an outing with my friends or family. I definately dont need to know when you or you man do it and how you do it. Your bowel movements are the least of my worries. Happy MyLotting dml
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
24 Feb 13
I agree with you they don't need to know every aspect of your life on Face book. Tho there are people that like to post everything they think feel and do and i think this is silly. On twitter iv'e heard that people don't update every hour but every few seconds or minutes because you can there. Now i'm thinking when people say things like i just woke up and had breakfast then an hr later they say cleaning house i agree with you love who cares. Now if they are getting a divorce or breaking up with a b/fg/f then i can understand you posting about it for moral support from friends but every detail about it no. I did post about a surgery i was having last April to see if something on me was cancerous and to ask for prayers from friends and family but other than that i rarely post anything about my life on facebook and i don't do my space or twitter at all.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
Absolutely Red! Im not saying that we shouldnt post issues that we may need support or comfort for. We definately should post things of that hature. Im talking about the girl who posts every hour. One minute she's in love committed and then hour later its over. Or when they post, Ive been drinking all day now time to make dinner. Its 11 pm. She has kids. Then they wonder why people dog them. I post things daily. I read posts of others constantly. Our posts are enjoyable, funny, Helpful. If I leave off a post with a knot im my stomach, I dont think thats a good thing for facebook. Wish I had more fb friehds like you. If you ever need a knew friend, Look me up. Denise Landry. glad to be friends with my MyLot friends. dml
@celticeagle (120486)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Feb 13
I am on Facebook and I do see where some on my friend's list use this forum to get attention (I think) by putting something obsurd, stupid, idiotic or just down right dumb in their status. Maybe they really need some advice or input and have no one available to them in real time to do this with. I think if they really bother you that much you should delete them. It isn't as if they are going to stop. ANd, no, they don't know who is going to read their ravings. Like I heard of one instance where a member had played hooky from work the previous day. They go on FB and start rehashing the previous night of debochery and partying. It just happened that this person's boss was on their list and they didn't last long at their jobs. Maybe some people are lonely too.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
You know Celtic, I never even thought about that they could be using it to get attention. Good or Bad to some people doesnt matter as long as its attention. Thanks for pointing that out. dml
@sporwal (92)
• India
23 Feb 13
FB is not a personal diary but a social media. and i agree with you totally. i too feel annoyed about such posts and all. i don not understand that why people want everyone to know what they are doing every single minute. and documenting your personal life makes it a hell. in fact i do have friends who even post the bills of their parties, shopping or anything they do . and i don't get it whats the need to show off .....nobody cares how much you spend or what you eat or buy. let it be upto yourself only.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
Thanks for agreeing with me. Some of it is ridiculous and the rest is just uncalled for. Ill never understand why people do this. dml.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 13
In facebook I rarely make a status, I usually give comments on others. Whether from my friends or fans page that I have given a like. I don't like to give comment to a very personal status.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
I bet you never have facebook drama. More people should be like you. thanks again. dml
@dpk262006 (56563)
• Delhi, India
23 Feb 13
Hi! I am in complete agreement with you that each and every personal details should not be posted on FB. You never know how and when your personal details could be misused by others. I do not post this kind of updates - am eating breakfast or am at the shopping mall or am at the Fashion show. You are right, no one has the time to see my updates and what am doing at any particular moment. I am not a celebrity.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
24 Feb 13
Thanks D, I love to hear what you're up to. I just dont think we need to know that you're drinking all day with your kids in the room. First off, I makes a person look unfit. Secondly, they wonder why they have so many personal issues. If you put it out there someone is going to run with it. Ive learned this personally. You dont know everyone that sees your posts. Some people find certain things unthinkable. You get what you deserve. My only regret is not have my myLot friends as my facebook friends. I go to you guys for all types of advice. LOL Happy MyLotting my friend. dml
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
hi there!=) i have seen a lot of people do that as well... i mean they sure love the site and they have been really confident about telling everything about their life and what they do on a regular basis. The truth is, with these people, when i get tired of seeing them everyday on the newsfeeds with no "valuable" updates i just remove them from my list and hide it from my view.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
23 Feb 13
Im with you CHI! there's not much else we can do. Dont get me wrong. Im nosy! I like gossip to a point. Im talking about the chic who's cover picture is of her and her three kids and posts a comment like: been drinking since noon. Getting ready to smoke up some weed. WOW! really? Where are your kids? They may not even be there. YOu may be on vacation. It may be a party. Unfortunately we dont have luxury of knowing this info. So some fill in the blanks. We dont know who's seeing this. What if my page is left open on my computer and my friend Nor
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I do have some people that I'm friends with on facebook that do these kinds of things and I have to say that it is something that drives me nuts. I personally rarely share status updates unless there is something that is major going on in my life or sharing the scrapbook pages that I've created. I won't share everything about my life on facebook because I know that facebook is not private and I don't want everyone in the world to know everything about my business. I really don't think that anyone should be that way.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
I know exactly how you feel!! There are a lot of Facebook friends that I unsubscribed with because they kept on posting every single thing that is happening to them the whole day. Some also post 360 degrees of pictures of themselves and over a hundred more of their faces! So I thought "that's it!" unsubscribed myself so that I don't get to see their posts every second! hehehee.. Now I am happier. Yeah, people do tend to make Facebook their diary. Seems like there are far too many people who lacks attention these days and because of the so-called Freedom of expression, they take things for granted and then accuse us of meddling with their personal affairs while it was them who told the world about it in the first place. Sheez!
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• South Korea
23 Feb 13
I agree with you dloveli,, I have fb account but use it only when I post some pictures but not use it a diary,,,, sometimes my friends and I would talk about it sometimes and disagreed about some people who post what they do every single hour.... In my case I just post some pictures, and some inspirational quotes, or some funny videos,, and some important information... but , well, we can't control those because it's their freedom,,, thought it may sound annoying sometimes especially those people who brag about their enemies...h aha!! They use facebook as the stress reliever which I think it shouldn't be...coz it's very personal and it reflects on one's personality...
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@AmbiePam (50263)
• United States
26 Feb 13
I kind of think there should be an age requirement for Facebook. But you know, that probably wouldn't work either. I mean teenagers should be allowed on Facebook, you just wish they'd show some common sense. And adults should do the same. I am baffled why someone would tell the whole world they are at the movie theater getting ready to watch a 2 hour movie, and their child is being watched by their grandparents at the grandparent's home. Um, dude, you just pretty much told everyone it's a great time to rob you. Especially considering everyone can your first name, last name, and city and state you live in. That's not a hypothetical. Someone I know did that, and when he did I thought good grief.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
25 Feb 13
i agree that facebook is not a platform to be a diary. it's there to keep in touch, update yourself on main events in your life, not become a book to your life. í have seen some who do that among my friends as well, but as i don't go to fb often, i ignore them and just do what i want to do. i do tell my close friends and family not to do that though as maybe they might do it unintentionally, like replying to a picture and then talking about private things. i definitely don't want that as it's visible to everyone around the world.