divorce in the philippines!

@cttolledo (4107)
Philippines
February 25, 2013 5:19pm CST
Hi mylotters! Do you agree with this? It is atated in our constitution that "Marriage is a permanent union between a man and a woman..." hence divorce is not allowed to our country. Personally I am against it, man have the tendency not take marriage seriously because they can use this law as easy way out. what is your opinion guys?
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18 responses
@magtibaygom (4865)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
That's why we should be careful in finding and choosing who to marry with. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity, opportunity to find someone you will partner with in life. It's not a game like Dart where you just hope you hit the right one. You must careful choose among the best.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Awesome magtibaygom! But sometimes, it couldn't guarantee of having a strong and long lasting marriage..actually I also ask myself from time to time if what really the secret of long lasting marriage.. I know everybody will give their opinion or will define it based on their experiences, but honestly no fixed or definite definition when it comes to relationship... Thank you for your wonderful response!
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
That is the ideal but in many cases these does not happen. Many when they fall in love they get blinded and is not able to see anything bad from their partners.
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
There is no divorce here but there is an annulment. There are so many cases of separation here. Annulment are for those who have money. That topic is talking every now and then. Good partnership is most important than marriage. I am against in divorce.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
From where are you art?
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
I guess if they can just lower the fees of getting an annulment I think we don't need Divorce anymore since they are just similar ways to end a marriage. There are just subtle differences which laymen cannot distinguish between the two. I guess many supporters of Divorce wants this since there are many cases of marriages that is not suited for the couple and they want a way out of it. Like those in domestic violence and other psychological problems that may affect marriage. But annulment covers that already, the only problem is that the cost of getting one is just too high that most cannot afford to.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
25 Feb 13
thats sad.. so no one can ever divorce there? Even if a marriage goes bad? Seems kinda unfair to me.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Yes no divorce here but we have legal separation.. this separation of a husband and a wife from bed and board only but not totally free to get married again.. But there some humors that our country will adopt divorce soon but absolutely with the long process of deliberation and approval of the people.
• Mexico
26 Feb 13
wow, thats what makes mylot so great. We learn something new and interesting here every single day.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
We have also annulment of marriage.. this time you can marry again ,but it is along process and with intervention of the court.
@usemyname (640)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
Divorce should be allowed in this country. Many people, especially women, are suffering within the confines of marriage. They are physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally assaulted by their spouse. Don't you think it's only right that we give these people an alternative/choice?
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
Yes, but that because we are more focused on protecting the women from violence or abuse but we should also see the other effects of it when it comes to children..
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
You do have a point, cttolledo. Ok let's say the mother decided to stay and ignore all the pain that she have to go through with her marriage. But, don't you think the child would also be affected if he/she sees her mother suffering while living together with his father?
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
26 Feb 13
i am in favor. yes it is stated in our constitution but still a lot of people are seeking annulment from their marriages and most of them succeeds.therefore they arejust violating our contitution.how come there is an annulment if amarriage is bonded for ever.i think it is time for our country to have divorce so that those people who are separated from their husbands and wife can startup their lives once more without having problems just because they are once married.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Hi Johondur! Thanks for sharing your opinion. Annulment is allowed by philippine law, so no violation here.
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
27 Feb 13
But the way i see it.annulment voids a marriage which should be deemed as permanent status.i short,it it divorce in disguise.
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
I hope you won't take this against me but I am a hundred percent in favor of divorce as an alternative to the more expensive annulment. My marriage did not work out no matter how hard we tried for it to survive. Ours was a mutual separation though not a legal one. Both of us are not allowed to marry and pursue another life because we can't afford the expense of annulment. My spouse already has 2 children with his common-law wife however, they can't get legalize the union since I am still alive. On my side, I have found a partner who is single but the same issue looms in this relationship. There are a considerable number of situations similar to mine where the only option if divorce. While I agree that marriage should be permanent, if love and respect is lost do I have to suffer the situation? Think of all those women who have endured domestic violence, doesn't society owe them another chance to lead a better and happier life? This is just an opinion, no offense meant.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Hi yahnee! Thank you for your response.. It is okey to me.. Everyone of us has the right to express different ideas/ opinion. That is your opinion and I respect that. Any discussion will be worthless if what we only have is one side of story/ or one side ideas.
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
I made the mistake once of posting in a discussion about children scavenging food in garbage cans. Looks like my opinion was contrary to what she wanted to hear and I received a lot of flak for it. It made me afraid to post comments. That is why I tend to make it known that I mean no offense. Thanks for understanding.
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Feb 13
The whole world see our country as a laughing stack as we are the only country on earth with no divorce. The civilization already left us. if a woman is being a abused by her husband and almost murdered by her husband, you dont want her to divorce him. If a man found out his wife is cheating on him with multiple men, you dont want him to divorce her? If a husband now lives with his mistress and the woman founds a new partner, you dont want them to divorce? I think we should have divorce but there must be conditions before it gets approved. If the couple is already separated for years and if the couple is in an abusive relationship.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
For me, that's maybe because of our culture and we cannot change culture easily as long as majority of the people are practicing it. If the main concern here is to keep safe the abused women, then we have legal separation and annulment.. legal separation - if you want a temporary separation and annulment - for permanent separation... I think they should make annulment affordable.
@romzee (938)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
We need divorce law here in the Philippines. Legal separation and Annulment is an expensive and a long tedious process that's why only rich people can afford them. If ever they can't marry again here, they go abroad and married in foreign land. How about poor people that can't afford them? Can't poor people given a second chance to have a happy life?
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
We have the same views about it. And being in a country which is mostly Catholic, I do feel that it would affect their way of living in a Christian way. I do feel however, that if couples find it impossible to stay with the marriage to be given another chance. And if they could no longer resolve their issues, annulment would be enough BUT, this should also not be abused. The legal impediments should be reviewed all over again.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Yes I agree with you jenny. I think annulment is enough. I don't get it why some people keep on pushing this divorce.. If they are talking about safety of the abused woman, then we have legal separation and annulment,instead of amending all laws about marriage and introduce divorce I think they should make some amendments on how to make annulment affordable to all and that would enough..
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Making the annulment process/fee too affordable can be abused too. They should just need to make some revisions with the amendments and let those people who come from the poor be able to file the case without having to pay that much PROVIDED that the reasons are really justified.
• United States
26 Feb 13
No divorce in the Philippines. Its an easy way out or scapegoat. Philippines is still considered conservative country though most Filipinos are already open minded. Since they practice annulment in the Philippines lets keep it that way. Its a long process to go through and very expensive too. Don't make it easy for anyone who does not want to take full responsibility of their marriage. Nobodys perfect and they should take it into consideration before getting married. You will never know that person very well until you start living with them. If divorce will be approved in the Philippines, then you will see a lot of couples that files divorce for some stupid reason (he snores, shes lazy, he doesn't cook) you name it.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Hi pinkster! We have the same point of view... It will lessen the real essense of marriage if anybody can easily break it.
@choconut (298)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
I'm an anti-divorce!! because i believe in the sacredness of marriage but thinking about it, if a man or a woman commits adultery its best not to join them anymore. Even in the Bible, the man was able to divorce his wife if the wife commits adultery. Maybe it can be a case to case basis.. I don't know. I'm a firm believer of the sacredness of marriage, but I'm also from a family of divorced parents so I don't know sorry... =(
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Hi choconut! Actually this topic has 2 sides of ideas.. thanks for sharing yours..
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Well being in a conservative country like ours I guess this will have to go through hard times before this can be passed as a law here in our country. RH took several years before it became a law I think the more for this bill to be passed that fast. I can see some pros and cons about this. But I would let my mind open on this issue at the moment since I have not heard the exact bill about this one.
@cttolledo (4107)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
I like that also.. because nothing is permanent in this world except " CHANGE ".
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
i actually don't agree w/ divorce God commanded us that once we marry we should not divorce. its a sin to the Lord. I know there are some situation out there, like domestic violence, or infidelity, however we should give people chance to change. maybe if these married couple are well informed how God honors marriage then I assume infidelity like sort will be avoided. so no need for divorce.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
I am not 100% agreeing on the thought of divorce in the Philippines, but a part of me would want this in place, that being... I know that this is a controversial issue and that this might actually even cause more marriages broken - but really? there are marriages broken, only not documented. I'd say that this is so because there are nothing in the law that would help its citizen formalize everything. My parents, for one haave been separated for years now but they are not legally separated, nor annulled. They have tried but it costs too much so they just lived separately now. I am all for divorce, but probably when it is modified according to the needs of this country, and not a law that is copied from other countries that most are not even applicable to us.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
i'm pro-divorce. if they cannot allow divorce, at least lower the prerequisites for annulment.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Hi ! I agree with this ! What is the use of staying together when the family is in trouble always ! When fight are like a basic need , it is there in breakfast , lunch and dinner. No peace in the family. What is the used of staying together when both are no longer happy to each other. I can remember one lawyer said if both are no longer happy then it time to go , children is not the reason of staying . You both stay because love and trust was there but when its gone ..then all should go also. Divorce is a another way of giving life a chance .
@youless (90304)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Feb 13
I know that it is not allowed to divorce in Philippines. There is a similar solution in your country but I don't think it is a divorce. Of course everybody wants to have a long-lasting marriage. However, sometimes the reality is not as well as we expected. The marriage can go to end and it will be suffering for both sides since they can't divorce. If they can divorce, perhaps they can find another suitable one for themselves in the future. And it will be good for them. It is better than having a suffering and forever fake marriage.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
I am not against divorce. In fact, I go for it. If divorce is allowed in the Philippines, then it would be advantageous to those couples who are just living together without the benefit of marriage since either one of them is still married. The only thing that is not good is that most couples in the Philippines who are already separated belong to the lower bracket of society and most of them could not afford as we know hiring legal counsel is so expensive plus there are other fees and expenses that may be incurred.
@averygirl72 (16670)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
I'm being practical. Well, leaving your responsibility and divorcing anyone anytime you want will ruin families of course. I feel divorce has it's good use too but I don't want families to just split and couples split easily. But the point is if you really love each other, divorce is useless and it's like you strive to keep each other and the family you started to be strong until the end. Now, if you feel like your relationship starts driving you crazy then why not? you can divorce.