I told my self....
February 28, 2013 6:23am CST
I deserve to be happy All this time I feel so pity with my own life everything goes under my expectations my kids couldn't get their best score at school I can't travel around the world since my hubby doesn't support me I can't start a new business since I don't have enough capital I am jealous with my friends since they are succes in their life I am grieving but maybe I should change my point of view
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28 Feb 13
I read somewhere that for us to live a happy life, we must not expect too much in life. We must be happy with the things that we have or can have. If we want to do things, we need to focus on how to achieve such goal. Slowly then we'll realize that we are near that point.
• United States
24 Mar 13
Yes sometimes we do have to change our view point and to do the best we can with our circumstances. That is not always easy but at times it is necessary in order for us to be happy with our life and not compare our life to others. I hope that you are doing better.
3 Mar 13
Guess what? I would also feel exactly how you feel. But I figured that it is not always possible to have all the things that you want. So, we might as well enjoy what we have and be contented. But atleast keep the faith that someday we might be able to make our lives better so that we can make a difference in our lives.
2 Mar 13
There is a saying :the point of your view will decide your fate.Don't worry about your kinds, they are still young , should enjoy youth. And you can take a short trip first,which will not spend a lot of time and money,your hubby will agree with you.for job, you can accumulate your related experience,that will do better for you future company.
1 Mar 13
I think you should. Focus on what you are able too. It's not important if your children get the best score, important is they will grow up as adults with self confidence, happy and knowing everybody has a talent! As long as you only focus on how succesfull your friends are (are they really that succesfull??? And if so.. what is, according to you succes? One day business is over, their place will be taken over by someone else and nobody is needing them or asking for them anymore.. ever asked yourself who they are for real if their succes is "over"? Will it count in the end if their life is (nearly) over? If you really want to travel around the world you can make that come true as well. It's normal to work for it/towards it yourself. Not to make others do that for you! If you can't work/safe to to your goal it's not that important to you at all. You can blame your hubby for it but I don't think that's fair. You will be happy from the moment on you decide to be happy and build your own life and go for your own goals!
5 Mar 13
Hi Wake Up your words are really toughtful I have never questioned my self about that You make me rethink again that the world is turning maybe it is time that they are in the top of the world there will be the time they will be in the bottom of the world
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Feb 13
Hi Ifa The biggest problems start when we start looking and comparing ourselves with the better off others. Yes, I feel the same way as you when I look on my successful friends, my wife, and many others. But that is just killing myself. I have learned to realize that if I have to live happily, Ihave to look at those people who are suffering more, who are more bigger failures than me and trust me, finding such people is quite easy... only we need to look around, shed our vision that we are the biggest failures... I wont say that you need to change your point of view but you should start to look at things with a different perspective
28 Feb 13
Hi friend !! Yes all of us deserved to be happy ! To do this is to change our line of thoughts . Happiness comes from with in , therefore the very first thing that we need to change is our heart . Sometimes we are not happy because our heart is full of hatred , pain , resentment , revenge , regret ,envy . That is why it is hard for us to connect with others , to accept others and rather lived alone and angry . We need to throw all of this from our heart , so we can have the chance now to be happy , to loved others and to appreciate what we have. No need not to be envious and insecure because what you have is more than enough !
• United States
28 Feb 13
Yes, you deserve to be happy. It's okay to feel down whenever things don't go the way we want them to be despite our hardwork. But we also have to realize that these feelings have an expiry date as well. After that we must move on and move forward to better ourselves and work for the things that we've been wanting for so long. It is not easy, I know, but as long as we do this in a very honest way and we do not hurt people along the way then there should be no reason for us not to succeed.