I told my self....

@ifa225 (11098)
Indonesia
February 28, 2013 6:23am CST
I deserve to be happy All this time I feel so pity with my own life everything goes under my expectations my kids couldn't get their best score at school I can't travel around the world since my hubby doesn't support me I can't start a new business since I don't have enough capital I am jealous with my friends since they are succes in their life I am grieving but maybe I should change my point of view
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12 responses
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
I read somewhere that for us to live a happy life, we must not expect too much in life. We must be happy with the things that we have or can have. If we want to do things, we need to focus on how to achieve such goal. Slowly then we'll realize that we are near that point.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 13
ehmm does it mean I have to prepare step by step to reach all of my dreams? I had planned it...maybe time can only answer whether it would be come true or stay a dream
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
Yes, we need to focus and be firm with the things that we want to happen in our life. I agree with you too that only time can answer and show us whether we'll be able to reach those goals.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 13
right now I can only pray I am too focus till I can't wait for reaching the goal well maybe I just have to be patience
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
Don't be sorry for yourself, change your point of view. Always look at the bright side of life. Be positive and always pray to God.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 13
Hi Joana I leave it rest to God since I don't know any effort anymore I had put all that I can do to make it and sometimes I feel so down to see my efforts don't give me the result that I expected
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 13
Hi Kiki there is a cheap way to travel around the world some uses bycicle only and some with backpacker community I think we can make it as ong we try to make it
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
24 Mar 13
Yes sometimes we do have to change our view point and to do the best we can with our circumstances. That is not always easy but at times it is necessary in order for us to be happy with our life and not compare our life to others. I hope that you are doing better.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
30 Mar 13
Try my best to change it even sometimes my mind come back to think the preview point of view again and again I write some words that make me keep up in my view now
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
Guess what? I would also feel exactly how you feel. But I figured that it is not always possible to have all the things that you want. So, we might as well enjoy what we have and be contented. But atleast keep the faith that someday we might be able to make our lives better so that we can make a difference in our lives.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 13
Hi Jenny and I am glad I am not the only one..lol Some proverb that I read supportvus to be a better person tomorrow than we are today But most of time. .Day by day I am only a looser Maybe it is just not the time for me to get all what I want
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
2 Mar 13
We deserve a better life but the thing is that we need to really work hard to prove that.Anyway,to be a nice person can be good for that.Don't be jealous,using the time to better yourself and you'll see a new you.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 13
Hi Jrick I have heard that to be a success we don't only need hardwork but also worksmart I hope I can be like that so success will come faster
2 Mar 13
There is a saying :the point of your view will decide your fate.Don't worry about your kinds, they are still young , should enjoy youth. And you can take a short trip first,which will not spend a lot of time and money,your hubby will agree with you.for job, you can accumulate your related experience,that will do better for you future company.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 13
Hi Vero, I hope my kids can have their own success by learning from others today Now maybe I should be patience to see they will grow as a beauty butterfly everybody need process I agree with you..they still kids
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
1 Mar 13
I think you should. Focus on what you are able too. It's not important if your children get the best score, important is they will grow up as adults with self confidence, happy and knowing everybody has a talent! As long as you only focus on how succesfull your friends are (are they really that succesfull??? And if so.. what is, according to you succes? One day business is over, their place will be taken over by someone else and nobody is needing them or asking for them anymore.. ever asked yourself who they are for real if their succes is "over"? Will it count in the end if their life is (nearly) over? If you really want to travel around the world you can make that come true as well. It's normal to work for it/towards it yourself. Not to make others do that for you! If you can't work/safe to to your goal it's not that important to you at all. You can blame your hubby for it but I don't think that's fair. You will be happy from the moment on you decide to be happy and build your own life and go for your own goals!
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 13
Hi Wake Up your words are really toughtful I have never questioned my self about that You make me rethink again that the world is turning maybe it is time that they are in the top of the world there will be the time they will be in the bottom of the world
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Feb 13
Hi Ifa The biggest problems start when we start looking and comparing ourselves with the better off others. Yes, I feel the same way as you when I look on my successful friends, my wife, and many others. But that is just killing myself. I have learned to realize that if I have to live happily, Ihave to look at those people who are suffering more, who are more bigger failures than me and trust me, finding such people is quite easy... only we need to look around, shed our vision that we are the biggest failures... I wont say that you need to change your point of view but you should start to look at things with a different perspective
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 13
Hi Sid yeah..when I compare my self with other I feel so suck with who I am ehmm.. I wonder what is the different in changing my point of view to different perspective ?
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
Hi friend !! Yes all of us deserved to be happy ! To do this is to change our line of thoughts . Happiness comes from with in , therefore the very first thing that we need to change is our heart . Sometimes we are not happy because our heart is full of hatred , pain , resentment , revenge , regret ,envy . That is why it is hard for us to connect with others , to accept others and rather lived alone and angry . We need to throw all of this from our heart , so we can have the chance now to be happy , to loved others and to appreciate what we have. No need not to be envious and insecure because what you have is more than enough !
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 13
Hi angel your words such an angel I realized that What I have already enough so there is no reason for me to b unhappy I try to lower my expectations so I won't feel disappointed
@Raine38 (8909)
• United States
28 Feb 13
Yes, you deserve to be happy. It's okay to feel down whenever things don't go the way we want them to be despite our hardwork. But we also have to realize that these feelings have an expiry date as well. After that we must move on and move forward to better ourselves and work for the things that we've been wanting for so long. It is not easy, I know, but as long as we do this in a very honest way and we do not hurt people along the way then there should be no reason for us not to succeed.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 13
Some people get success easily and some need time and hardwork maybe I just should wait till the time is right I believe that therecwill be the time I will sucees
@blackrusty (3532)
• Mexico
28 Feb 13
I do also thing you should lower your standards just a little bit try to work on goals that you know you can complete and help your kids get the grades up never count your self out all good things will happen just give yourself time
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 13
wow.. you type without dot and comas I wonder how you said your respond anyway, thanks a lot for your advice gotta try it
@Pegasus72 (1904)
7 Apr 13
You need to take another look and be thankful for the things you do have.