After watching a french film, called Amour, made me miss my grandparents.
February 28, 2013 10:08am CST
This film is about a couple in their 80´s. It reminded me so much of how my grandparents were in their latter years. Like in the film, my grandma, had attacks of stroke and my grandpa tried taking care of her. He was way older than her but his wife went to the grave first. It is funny how my folks were. If one gets sick then the other becomes stronger. They just kept exchanging places. My old man had a major surgery in his brain in the 80's when he was in his late 50´s I think and doctors thought he would live for only around 15 years more but he died at the age of 89. My granny is 8 years younger so she was really very physically active since I got to know her in her 60s. She just doesn't stop moving, that kind of a person. Her husband was more of the thinking one, apt for a retired school teacher. I never understood that he had to be less active due to his health history. He seemed so fragile, always getting sick or having health problems all the time but somehow the grandchildren didn't feel its effect so much. He had a very loud authoritative voice and striking eyes. Also my grandma seemed to be the invincible one. Never did I see her having to go the hospital.She was always hands on in taking care of him. We never felt that we had to do anything. She didn't need our amateurish help. When she finaly had some stroke attacks herself, everyone in the family got surprised when the old man started to become more active and physical.My grandma never recovered. She got worse. In her last months, I could see how tired my grandpa was already. As soon as she was commatosed, he told us to just let our grandma go. We all felt his exhaustion. I witnessed a very good partnership from them. The years that I were with them is enough for me to say that they are one of the best lovers I have seen. I miss them.
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28 Feb 13
That is the love many of us are looking for. They cherished each other till the very end. I know my grandparents are single and I never knew my grandfather either. one or both already passed on. I am glad to read good posts like this here. It reminds me of what I want in my future.
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your situation very well and i know the film has depicted this theme very beautifully. I know after watching this movie u must have got reminiscent of your grandparents and it is the bond and relationship between the grandparents and their grandchildren that is undefinable and cannot be put into words. What say?
28 Feb 13
Yeah, I missed them coz I practically grew up in their care. They were not the affectionate grandparents to their grandchildren but very protective, I could feel then.They were too protective though. I only feel them becoming demonstrative when I was sick especially with my grand dad. My grandma was of course softer and motherly. Whenever, we left for vacation back to our parents, she would come with us to the bus station to give us extra money. My grandpa always gave us the exact amount for the bus fare and food. She would just not say anything and quickly followed us. We always expected that and she never failed in doing so. But more than anything else, I just admired how they were able to stand by each other for years, 67 long years of marriage. I am almost in tears while writing this now.:)