How would you feel? Is it normal to still be scared and fear?

Canada
March 1, 2013 10:41am CST
My friend and i were at a local hockey game the other night.....Is it not known that at a hockey game you cheer and hollar and urge your team on to try and win the game? We were seated fairly high in the arena.......Behind us was an elderly man and his wife with a few others......The elderly man starts voicing and being arrogent to my friend asking do you hollar at home like that? We were like this is a hockey game that is what you do here to cheer on your team and that is all we are doing....The elderly man was seated right behind me and it seemed anytime i cheered on the team he would deliberatly bump my seat with his foot and say comments like you think they can hear you???? Anyways by the second intermission we had enough of them being rude and talking about us etc that we took it to the officials (security) and they said that they would watch our section.....Nothing prepared me for what happened next.... It was nearing the end of the game and the one set of ppl said well we have had enough hollaring for one night that we are leaving my friend commented the truth if you don't wanna hear the hollaring then stay home and listen to the game on the radio....And i also said to the elderly man behind me to stop kicking my seat plz....He got hostile and angry.....I could not believe he threatened to hit me....My friend said go for it hit her and he said i will i will hit her and i wish i had a glass of water to shove and poor down the both of your throats and don't you ever sit in this section again .........I'm still afraid and nervous how would you feel.....The look on this mans face was that he really wanted to hurt me.....I flash back to it and this is the second day now.....
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8 responses
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 13
Good lord, isn't there a cage that they can put the nutcases in?
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
Those were my thoughts exactly!
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
Exactly.....Why go to a hockey game if you want quiet that is what a game is all about is to cheer your team on for a hopeful win.....
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
True that! If he wants quiet he should have stayed home and listened to it on the radio in a whisper!
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@timetravel (1428)
• United States
1 Mar 13
I probably would have called security over to where I was, or asked them to come back to my seat and deal with those people. That old man had no right to keep "bumping" the back of your seat. You paid for your seats and were there to cheer on your team or favorites. I like in the U.S. and don't know much about hockey here or in Canada. But I know about sports and going to a ball game and it's the same thing. There must be security there - as you went to them, obviously - but I would have gone back and told them this is far more serious and warrants more than "keeping an eye" on things. Sit where you want, cheer as loud as you want. If this happens again, just bring in someone with authority to deal with those people. You don't want to end up in jail for hitting an elderly person at a game. He actually sounds dangerous to me. I would have said he was making a threat on my life. And he was prepared to carry it out.
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• Canada
1 Mar 13
I did call security up there where i was and they know that i was threatened i don't know what came of it if he has been banned from attending further games or not......I plan on going again but i still am scared....
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• United States
2 Mar 13
Take a deep breath - and go! If you see this person just avoid him - unless you have standard box seats? I would stick with trying to sit in seats where there are plenty of screaming fans...lol. If this guy or anyone else ever does something like that again - or starts to - pick up your cell phone and say real loud "I'm calling security (or police)! This man is assaulting me!". If you have a cell phone with video on it, start taking videos of what he is doing. Ten to one that'll stop him!
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
Those are all great ideas and i thanks your for that....yes i do have a cell phone gonna keep it more handy incase this ever happens again.....
• Canada
8 Mar 13
I am SO sorry to hear that happened to you! What a jerk ... What ever happened to everyone just getting along? If the guy wanted some piece and quiet, he should have stayed home and listened to the game on the radio! It will probably bother you for a bit, but like everything else it will get better in time! Time heals all wounds as they say!
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
So true so true.....when i think about it i still have fear and i haven't been to a hockey game since.....I hope to get over the fear enough to attend a game again as i love watching hockey games......huggsss thanks hun i appreciate it.....
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
Your more than welcome! I know how much you love hockey, and my advice is to go, have a blast, and try not to think about it. Never give someone else the satisfaction of ruining something for you!
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@AmbiePam (49883)
• United States
3 Mar 13
Did the security people hear any of that?
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
I don't know if they heard anything but they did see what was going on....The minute after he threatened me one of the security sat right beside them......Then we were called down and i told them what happened i was talking loud enough that i'm sure others might of heard me i don't know what security did as they asked us to go so they could deal with it....
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
Don't be bothered with that person anymore. I don't think you'd ever cross paths again. And even if you did, and he did something bad against you, you can always report him to the police.
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
Oh i sure hope never to cross paths with that man ever again......And yes i will consider the police instead of security....
@lampar (7597)
• United States
1 Mar 13
Yes, it is normal to feel scare and fear especially when confronting an angry man with threatening words. May be getting yourself prepare and get ready to counter the threat coming your way is a better way for the sake of your own safety than feeling scare, just don't let the fear overtake you and decide to act passively or do nothing to protect your own self, that will be the last thing you want to do.
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• Canada
8 Mar 13
So true that can be harmful and dangerous to let fear take over for sure i will keep that in mind thanks.....
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
1 Mar 13
It's personal if a person is still scared but I do think you should find a way to give it a place/handle it or ask for help. Since staying scared will make life way more difficult.
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• Canada
1 Mar 13
I do know that fear and being scared will make my life more difficult but it's a matter of being able to get over the situation that happened to me...
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• United States
1 Mar 13
It is okay for you to feel like that. If I were in this situation, I would fight back. If someone hits you, then hit back. If someone yells at you , yell back. I understand how you feel and you have a right too. I was once in that situation. I was terrified because the person was so much bigger then me and I didn't know what to do. Of course I was little back then and now I have a rebel attitude that automatically fights back. But my point is don't let yourself be too afraid, it happened in the past. Go back to the arena, if that what you really want to do. If the same things happens, be prepared, and don't be afraid.
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• Canada
1 Mar 13
Thanks for that i really would like to go back to the hockey game and i am very fearful i flash back to his look and face....But i plan to stare fear in the face and not let it ruin me enjoying any future games....
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