Are you good at keeping your mouth shut?

United States
March 2, 2013 12:35am CST
Sometimes others can say or do something that makes us want to respond. But we know that really it will not do anything beneficial and may only aggravate the situation. Have you ever been in a situation like that and just decided not to make any comments. I'm working on this and I think I'm doing better at it. I start to think to myself to just be quiet, and don't say anything at all.
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@anuraa32 (2453)
• India
3 Mar 13
I was really bad at it. I am not much better now, but till a few months back, I would just blast aloud my opinions. This got me into trouble once or twice. But now I realize the consequences of doing so. But still there are times when I just blab my mouth off. It can be irritating to control oneself to the extent that you dont give a single word of opinion.
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• United States
7 Mar 13
Yeah it is really difficult. I continue to work on it though. Since I know that it is best to do things this way. I hope in time I will be good at it and it will not take so much effort to control my words.
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@anuraa32 (2453)
• India
9 Mar 13
It is so very difficult. I have been trying to control myself for the last year but still have got myself into a spot once in a while.
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@dpk262006 (54031)
• Delhi, India
2 Mar 13
Hi! During unpleasant situations I recall a famous quote in my mind - "Till we say something, words are our slave, once we have said something, we are slaves of our words". I know if I get carried away by my emotions I may something nasty to the other fellow which could worsen the situation, therefore I try my best to keep my mouth shut.
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• United States
10 Mar 13
That is such a true quote. I really do believe what you are saying. We do have to be cautious and think about our thoughts.
@dpk262006 (54031)
• Delhi, India
14 Mar 13
Even if we remember the quote, sometimes we fail.
@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
2 Mar 13
yes, I am good at it. I don't like confrontation so I just keep quiet most of the time. Try to be as patient as I can. if after full and 100% encouragement and the person still pessimistic I get tired and keep quiet... thinking (I can just do so much for you.. that's all I can say) If I am offended, i will just keep quiet but when I speak... that's it... no turning back.
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• United States
10 Mar 13
Yeah I agree with you that I don't like confrontation either. I think that it only makes my day bad so I would rather avoid it too. Some times when we notice that others continually offend us then we may need to speak our mind.
• Thailand
11 Mar 13
i don't know if this attitude is right. I am not sure if it is healthy too. but I just don't like to speak when I am in the height of my emotions I might say something that I am going to regret.
• United States
3 Mar 13
There are a lot of times I think I should have been quiet, but feel better speaking my part. There are some situations where I do keep quiet, usually for a greater benefit.
• United States
11 Mar 13
Yeah we have to evaluate the situation. When we do this it gives us time to think about what could be the outcome of the things that we are thinking about saying. Sometimes it may be a good thing to speak up and others time it is best to just let things go.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
Yes, I am very good in keeping my mouth shut. I am not a nagger type of person. I do not want an argument to get worse. I stay calm when pressure comes in a conversation. I give way always because I do not want the two of us to freak out.
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• United States
11 Mar 13
Yeah I'm the same way. I find it frustrating to keep arguing and so I do my best to avoid it. Sometimes it is best to just be the bigger person and decide not to argue anymore. Even when we may know that we are in the right.
@Keynote (399)
• India
3 Mar 13
hello Dominique i am not at all good at this as if i have seen and heard something i find myself respond to that in discussion or in life also.i have seen that i can manage to not to write or speak externally but internally it is just impossible for me to not to analysis and respond things.Mind seems always in a on mode.Not to react even internally after seeing and hearing something is like next to impossible.
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• United States
11 Mar 13
Yeah I understand what you mean about thinking internally about different things. Yes when we hear or see something we often have our own thoughts about it. Our brain does start forming it's own conclusions.
@imsippy (47)
• India
3 Mar 13
if i would keep my mouth shut then my friend will not laugh,,,,,,
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• United States
11 Mar 13
Yeah it's good for us to evaluate the situation and see what would be the best thing to do. When we've given ourselves time to think about what has happened and what will happen we are more likely to respond in the best way. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Qudraxis (22)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 13
yes, i normally think twice before i speak because speaking without thinking is a sin
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• United States
7 Mar 13
Yes it is good for us to take the time to think carefully about what we are going to say. This can give us the needed time to evaluate whether or not what we say could offend the other person. And we want to keep the relationship in tact as well.
@checkmail (2042)
• India
3 Mar 13
Silence - This is image for silence
Hello Dominique this is checkmail and you are almost right we should keep our mouth shut when we fell the situation might get out of control.Me many times used to argue with few peoples on certain issues and had to take some anger from them.Instead now am only listening unless am having some solution to such situations.This type of things only damage relationships and nothing good.
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• United States
7 Mar 13
Yes I agree with you. It is best for us to just listen and take in what the person is saying. We can just politely acknowledge what they have said even if we do not agree. This way we don't damage the relationship.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
3 Mar 13
I am to a certain point.. if someone makes me mad over something. Ill blow up to them. But most the time I keep it bottle up inside me.
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• United States
7 Mar 13
Yeah it is hard not to explode when a person upsets us especially when it seems to keep happening. It also is hard to keep it bottled up because we need to be able to let our stress out so that it doesn't cause problems for us as far as our own sanity.
@nijolechu (1845)
• Canada
2 Mar 13
Yes, I do find myself in those kinds of situations sometimes. Whether the situation is with another family member or a close friend. I just don't want to make things with the person any more worse than they would have to be. Like my parents alway tell me when I was younger, sometimes if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.
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• United States
7 Mar 13
Yes that is a very good saying. I often times have to remind myself of that. Like not to say anything but to just let it go. It is hard especially when we feel that someone has continued to do us wrong or say harmful things to us. It is a work in progress and I'm continuely trying to do better.
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
sometimes i tend to respond to the person. but of course it depends on the issue he or she was raising. it happened to me one time. this friend of mine commented on how i dress. she really sounded like a bully so i fought back. saying to her things like it's no one's business and laugh at her sarcastically. i was proud of myself.
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• United States
11 Mar 13
I agree with you. It does depend on the situation. Sometimes we may feel the need to speak up and get our point across when things continue to happen to us more then once. In these cases then it would be in our best interest to speak up and be tactful at the same time.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
I try to really not to meddle on things that I should not be worrying about. Of course, I do not want people to think that I am nosy about everything. But if being nosy is something that would save a person'e life, then I should be proud of it.
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@tipay26 (874)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
It's hard on my part to just sit in a corner and just keep my mouth shut specially if I know I am right.Yes, there are times that I can control myself not to react but there are times that my mood isn't synchronized with my mouth so yeah I explode ahahahah and when I explode there's no stopping on my part I will say whatever I want to say just to make a person realize he or she has done something wrong.I am not the quiet type to just sit back and just watch what was happening.It's not that I am a blabber mouth but I try to make it a point that when I open my mouth to speak my mind I have the needed reason for doing so.
• United States
10 Mar 13
Yeah I'm sure that there has been a time or two when we all have let our emotions get the best of us. And when we know we are right or that someone has done us wrong we feel the need to express that. I'm doing better about this though. I'm continually working to improve.
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
anyone if provoked will react in some way.but it depends on who the person is. if the person's presence or absence wont make a difference in my life, i don't bother. if that person is a close friend or what not, i should say something at least. it really depends, i say you need to assess the situation, think if talking will solve anything or better to keep your mouth shut. it's your take.
• United States
10 Mar 13
I agree it does depend on the person. Some people are really outspoken about how they think and feel. It is good for us to take the time to think about what is happening and to evaluate it. When we take that time we can respond tactfully.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
2 Mar 13
This is interesting but sometimes i'm talkie to my friend.But i can also be quiet person while i don't want to talk.My friends told me that it's really not good and we need to tell the situation whether speak too much.I'm also working on that.
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• United States
10 Mar 13
Glad to hear that you are working on this. It is good for us to improve ourselves in the areas that we need to see improvement. I enjoy working to improve myself as well. It is a great thing to have a humble attitude to do better.
• India
2 Mar 13
Im not very good in keeping my mouth shut! there are a lot of situation in which telling my part of the situation made the whole thing worse! i wil only speak my part if Im not wrong but even if i speak people will accuse me just for speaking i just dont know why. and h0ow much ever i try i just cant keep my mouth shut If Im innocent! aah fate!
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• United States
9 Mar 13
Yeah I understand what you mean. I'm sure that we have all felt similar. Sometimes we just speak our mind and it creates problems for us and perhaps others. It's good for us to take time to think about things before we say them this way we stay out of trouble.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 13
Yes and no. Yes if it comes to what people tell me and if that is private to them. I don't feel the need to gossip or tell around. No if it comes to being straight, saying my opinion and what is on my mind. If it comes to that I am an open book.
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@Pegasus72 (1904)
7 Apr 13
I think there are sometimes where you need to just walk away but sometimes it is harder then it seems.