Being replaced is the worst kind of any break up! :(

Philippines
March 3, 2013 7:11am CST
Yes, indeed! Having experienced this kind of scenario really was painful and heartbreaking... Honestly, my ex-lover replaced me with the friend whom I go to whenever we're having problems. That was just crazy right? Them having all that affair right under my nose was really unforgivable... I wanted to blame myself for being away and letting things end this way, but the fact of loyalty, trust and truth prevails. I believe that I was betrayed by my lover and my friend; my trust for the both of them was stained; and the fact that if ever they are really in-love with each other, they shouldn't have used me as a cover in the first place... I feel used! :( Now, I can't blame myself if I'm sort of bitter to them. What they did to me needs time - to heal all the wounds, to mend the broken-heart, to forgive the wrong doings. Sooner or later, it will come - just not now! :|
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15 responses
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
It’s so hurt. Especially it’s done by your friend who you turn to have a discussion of your problems with your boyfriend. That’s like being stabbed from the back by the trusted person, your good friend. It’s worse than being hurt by a stranger. I know that feeling. Of course you can’t help but being bitter to them. But I suggest you to let the time heal and don’t let this experience is getting in your way to have a better future relationship. You deserve the better. And if you want to forgive them, just forgive them but still don’t condone their action, since they have broken your trust,
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
Just let it go. Everyone experiences betrayal of some sort. This, I can say, is very painful. Two people you trust and believe to be true to you have betrayed you. But look on the bright side, at least you know their true colors now and you don't have to bother yourself with them anymore. You don't need to blame anyone. Like that will ever change things.
@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
no, do not blame yourself. it was their decision and you do not have anything to do about it. you are the victim there and it is too much when you are blaming yourself for what had happened. give reconciliation to yourself by thanking them because at time, you already discovered they both are not worthy of your trust and love. so it is okay, forgiven them even how hard it is for you to do but it is the only way to free yourself from pain. move on because you deserve someone else. and above all pray to God for a better man to come into your life. everyone is destined with anybody, just bear that in mind. be cheerful and God bless.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I'm sorry to hear what had happened to you. And to think that your ex lover had replaced you non other but your friend. It's really unacceptable, imagine the friend whom you trust will be the one who'll stab you behind your back. Just move on my friend, I know you can find another man much more better that your ex lover.
• Jacksonville, Florida
4 Mar 13
Being wronged in that way definitely does hurt but your better without them as I am sure you already know! I am at least glad you now know how they both are. They obviously did not care about you or this would not have happened! I'm sorry. I truly hope you find someone better who treats you with the respect you deserve. There are others out there who will treat you right, it just takes time to find them!
• Quezon, Philippines
4 Mar 13
Having your brokern heart is definitely not the end of the world, so go out there and make the most of it. Ask God for the strength and peace of mind. God knows everything that could be better for us.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Yes, this takes time to heal. But for now, I think you can distance yourself from them. That way they will know that they have made a mistake, and will surely think about what they are doing. What if it went the other way around for them. There is such a thing as karma you know.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
4 Mar 13
That is painful. You lost two, a lover and a friend. If I were in your situation I would be very unhappy. Since trust has been broken it might take me some time to trust people. Though this situation is sad, you have to go on live your life. Look at the other side of what happened. Reflect why it happened. It is a good thing it didn't happen when you are already married -- be thankful. There will be some one that will definitely make you happy forever. Guard your heart.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I can understand how you feel. And it would really take time and courage for your to completely get over it. It is never simple to just be numb knowing that the two closest people you have have betrayed you. Let's just hope for a better person to come along and focus all our love and attention to that person.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
It was better he replaced you now, than after say 5-6 years of marrage. Better to see his true colors.
@markIT (134)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
I'm sorry to hear that nhailojaye. Yes it's true, that kind of situation is really painful because the person you trust more, you didn't expect will be the reason to break the happiness you have. Healing and moving on will really takes time, and only time can tell if you're ready again for trusting again, and when that time come, you will just smile and say, "Thanks for what had happened, I learned something and I am happy because it taught me to be careful again."
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I can understand your pain. I think if she is a good friend, she would have at least told you that she is going out with your ex and she should have considered your feelings at least. I mean as her friend, I am sure that you must have shared some stuff with her whenever you have some problems with your ex. And now, after having her listen to you, she's going out with him. That is just so wrong. But don't beat yourself too harsh, you are not the one in the wrong here. And even if you are not away all the time, if a person wants to cheat or hurt you, then your presence will not stop it. There are lots of couple who are not together most of the time because of work or any other circumstances but they remain loyal and true. It's not about the distance, it's about how the person values you and respects you. Just try to get back to your normal self. I know it is not easy but they have proven themselves unworthy of you.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 13
You are a wise person, although to my opinion there is no need to forget or forgive. Since there is a good reason why we remember what is done wrong to us. So we learn from it, behave different next time and learn from it. You are right your lover and friend betrayed you. I don't know if they already started together right under your nose but for sure is your ex friend knows now how to handle your friend, what the bottle necks might be, since you trusted her and told her about how and what.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
3 Mar 13
Let it go don't waste any more of your energy on them. Once you find that you cannot trust people it's best to look at them in the past. Go on with your life and consider the lessons learned by this experience. In your next relationship you may find that it works best if you pay more attention to it. Life is such rush and choosing how to spend your time is important to all relationships. Blessings
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
I know what do you feel really it hurts being replaced and to think that who is the one behind you. A friend where you always with and shared everything in her about your love life now in a place where you were before. Try to forget about them, not now but maybe someday and think they are just nothing. Pretend you don't know them even you are about to die. She is not a good friend though she know about your relationship with him. But try to forgive them, and forget all about the past. I know that one day you will meet much better person than him and better friend than her. Have patient and be kind God knows the best and He prepared the best for you. Don't worry time will heal. Try to move on.. You can do it.