Comfort Zone?

United States
March 3, 2013 12:04pm CST
Lately I've been in a sort of .. zone where I guess I feel comfortable to an extent, but, I'm not exactly happy. When I get into this kind of place then its hard for me to break out of it. I don't know why because its nothing spectacular or even exciting. Its pretty monotonous to be honest. Every day I allow myself to be like this, the more hard it is to break out. Have you ever felt like this too?
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@cmania (207)
• Portugal
3 Mar 13
"Confort Zone" even if looks and it´s monotonous ... we live if everyday it looks like you know what will happen tomorow ! It´s hard to get out of it because maybe we don´t wanna and we odn´t know how to get out ? It´s monotonous so it doens´t have nothing bad or good. Do you hav e anything in mind to do ? Somehting that you don´t do everyday? maybe you need some cold water in your face :3 i can do that if you are scared :3 hihi ^_^ learn to cook ! aahhah ^.^ go play tennis or badminton ?
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• United States
3 Mar 13
I like badmitton, no rackets though. Cold water in the face would wake me up that's for sure. I think I'm doing better so far today! Thank Cat
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@cmania (207)
• Portugal
3 Mar 13
todya is cold water tomorow will be apple tart straight in cute echo face *U* the other days will be surprise. good you´re better 1
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• United States
3 Mar 13
apple tart in the face? Can't I eat it?
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@Bluedoll (15914)
• Canada
3 Mar 13
Sure it is safe and protected. It is better than doing something that is going to turn your life upside down or cost you plenty. Do you ever ask the question, how will this affect me ten years from now? If it means nothing then it really doesn't matter but somethings can really affect you. So if we get into our comfort zone at the very least we will not mess up our life. On the other hand, I know what monotonous means and long for that goal that risk taking venture that will bring something fantastic. Yep, there now.
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• United States
3 Mar 13
True some things can mess up your life. Other things can make them better. I'm in the middle where nothing changes. So, positive action would be a good thing if I can think, of what.
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@Bluedoll (15914)
• Canada
3 Mar 13
Winter were I am at is doing the same thing to me right now. When it melts, I'm going places, oh no, I see more of it! ...and then there is the m-o-n-e-y! I need to find adventure or wonderful joy in perhaps very simple things.
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• United States
3 Mar 13
Yep there's snow here and I barely get out now, I want it to melt quickly. You're in the same place as I in tha tregard.
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@MoonGypsy (4616)
• United States
3 Mar 13
yes, i am really in a comfortable place right now. my therapist notice it, but i don't feel bad about it. if i wanted to do something about it, i would. i am obviously doing what i want to do right now. it's not hurting you, right?
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• United States
3 Mar 13
Nope its not hurting me, just not helping me either. So if I want to imporve in something a change must be had,
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@MoonGypsy (4616)
• United States
4 Mar 13
what is it that you want to do? is it that you can't find out what that is? i know that can be really hard. now, that i don't work i am just trying to maintain.
• United States
4 Mar 13
I don't know what to do in a typical day except be online. I would be lost if I suddenly couldn't do that....
@WakeUpKitty (8717)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 13
If you feel comfortable then what is the problem? I think you should look upon it in a different way and ask yourself: why do I go there? Why do I need it so badly? Do I harm anyone else with it? If not, if you need it do what is right for you, sooner or later it might change if the need is there.
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• United States
3 Mar 13
The problem is I supopse I become bored with monotonous activity. Its good that I'm comfortable and I'd rather be that, than, being uncomfortable, in pain, etc.
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@Bluedoll (15914)
• Canada
3 Mar 13
I believe in that Kitty.
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@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
i felt this way too but it was an another story. i made a discussion before about comfort zone like yours. and i stated that it is my room. but when i get stressful because of my school activities, my room is so distressing for me. i do not like to make my assignments in this area of the house. i do not like to stay in my room when i am studying my lesson plans and such things alike. it is because i do not know what happened why i am so downed when i am doing with my assignments and projects during that time. and the other reason is i felt so very sleepy that instead i need to burn my eyebrows, i would like to sleep in my bed. so that is why i am struggling with the place i so called my comfort zone. i understand why it so happened like that. it is because i really hate what i am doing, i mean, i am too anxious with my practice teaching and it sent me shivers to my bone. the ambiance was just being affected with my mood. i guess, it is just some psychological problem that i need to manage. i really tried to cope with it all. but i am fine now. and you i guess, you need another place to relax and enjoy. routinary activities would bore us. that is why you need to go to a place where you can inhale fresh air. chill buddy and thanks for sharing this to us. :)
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• United States
6 Mar 13
I see, you have a place in your home you like to spend time. though you grow tired of it, that's common. I've just had this mental problem lately of laziness and also indifference. I am doing better the last few days.
@ET28LV (1895)
• Latvia
3 Mar 13
This is happening to me too time to time, but I always try to do something what makes me happy. I really enjoy the long walks around parks, or just go and take some photos of nature and listen some mediation/relaxing music. You should try different activities starting from sport to cooking maybe. Just try to change your routine and you will find your happiness.
• United States
4 Mar 13
I like that you call cooking a sport. oH wait I read it wrong, I gotcha though. Try something new. You're right and I will... maybe eventually...
@mariaperalta (19226)
• Mexico
3 Mar 13
This happens to many of us all the time I think. Need to make a change. Go for a walk and gather your thoughts. Take a step back, and regroup. Hope things get better fast for you. Love ya.
• United States
3 Mar 13
I think you're right. I'm trying to do a few things different today so we shall see.
• Mexico
3 Mar 13
Sounds like a change in routine would be good for you....
@Bluedoll (15914)
• Canada
3 Mar 13
It is called changing your state right?
@alberello (4758)
• Italy
3 Mar 13
Well, I must say that you have spoken of your "comfort zone", but did not explicitly say where it is. It is perhaps a "corner" in your house, or rather a place out in the open? You know I have my own bedroom as a comfort zone. Long time to be honest I spend sleeping (of this, I'm sorry, but I'd almost be ashamed!). However, my brother sometimes "breaks the spell" the quiet in my room going if he needs something! This means, however, that not even my personal bedroom is a "comfort zone" for me!
• United States
3 Mar 13
alberello - I think you misunderstand the term comfort zone. I don't mean a physical place but a feeling I am stuck in because of doing the same things daily. Its a term we use in english language. I see though you have a good place to go where you feel comfortable.
@Bluedoll (15914)
• Canada
3 Mar 13
Many people associate, I know I do, a place with comfort zone because I guess that is where we zone out the most because we can throw back our hair and just be ourselves. If we put ourselves into a strange enviroment physically it can be challenging?
• United States
3 Mar 13
Sometimes a challenge can help us though, as a lower comment said.
@jenny1015 (13398)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
I remember being in that state when I was younger. I had so little self-esteem. Although my friends really treat me well, I have good grades, still I felt sort of left out and so I would find myself sometimes just alone sitting in a corner and barely talks. People seeing me this way have thought that I was a snob. But in reality, I was just too timid to join every activity that my friends are involved with. I just feel awkward all the time. Good thing that I have real great friends that they never allowed me to be really left out. It was a hard habit to break in the beginning, but then I realized I need to be out and be part of the group if I don't want to lose my friends.
• United States
4 Mar 13
I know I have the same problem of low self esteem. I am not sure how to make that better either. Other than trying to do something I haven't, and suceeding, which is not always the case of course. I only feel that low self esteem when certain people try to correct me. Otherwise I am not so bad any more I think.
@jenny1015 (13398)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Then maybe, you should be around positive people that can inspire you to come out of your comfort zone. Try staying away from people who seem to be pushing themselves too hard in trying to believe that they are great or better than you. You do not people like them.
@MoonGypsy (4616)
• United States
4 Mar 13
don't hang out with people who are too high achieving and put pressure on themselves. being a high achiever may not be a bad thing, but people like that usually come with a lot of stress that could transfer on to you.
@allknowing (48964)
• India
4 Mar 13
We all are different personalities. Some are smug with their routines without budging. Some like me, need change every single day. Only I can provide that change and so I keep thinking of different ways to break the monotony of life. Nothing big but simple things. Today I decided to create folders for my main folder - camera where I have thousands of images stored. I already have folders. I only need to cut and paste the images in the respective folders. It is a huge job but I am doing little at a time and am enjoying too as I get to see those images that have been stored sometime back.
• Penrith, Australia
6 Mar 13
Little changes are good. It helps us adjust more easily and adapt a new way of doing things, i dont think there is any harm in trying things out, one step at a time,
• United States
6 Mar 13
that sounds nice, you have a lot of images to go through so if you get tired of it for awhle you can save more for later date when you want to finish it. Small c hanges are sometimes the best ones because if we stay active we can do a lot for ourselves in small ways.
@allknowing (48964)
• India
7 Mar 13
I just came across a nice picture which I chose to upload on Face Book!
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@inertia4 (25361)
• United States
4 Mar 13
I know exactly what you're talking about. I have been doing the same thing with myself. I let myself get into this awesome comfortable zone and I sometimes feel charged up about it. But when I have to do something it throws me off and I find it hard to accomplish anything else except being comfortable. It is hard to break out of. But we have to start by actually breaking the habit. Once we do that and continue to break that comfortable chain, we will be accustomed to it. One day at a time.
• United States
6 Mar 13
Its almost a conundrum or oxy moron at times. We're comfortable but at times, unhappy because we're too comfortable, or something. Its good to stretch those means to see what else we can accomplish for ourselves. We will feel proud of our accomplishments too.
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@inertia4 (25361)
• United States
7 Mar 13
It is an Oxymoron. We are comfortably uncomfortable. LOL. But yes, we do need to get more active and do more things. I know that. And like anything else, they can become habits in a sense. We humans can adapt to many things. So for us to just get more active should not be a stretch at all.
@Raine38 (8654)
• United States
3 Mar 13
Yes, it has happened to me a couple of times. It is boring and at the same time alarming because I don't want to stay that way for long. And I am also scared because I might not be able to snap out of it. I also do not like this to become my new normal. That is why I seek new challenges or new tasks that will make some difference in what I do even for a bit.
• United States
3 Mar 13
A challenge may do me well if I can think of one. Any suggestions?
@MoonGypsy (4616)
• United States
3 Mar 13
yes! don't rock the boat!
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
6 Mar 13
You'll really have t get out of your comfort zone if you want t experience something different. Get out there. Explore and see what life can offer you. Even though sometimes security is better than a lot of things, you're going to have to go out there every once in a while. :)
• United States
6 Mar 13
Yeah, unless I do something then I'm just going in circles. I'm tired of going in circles.
@mythociate (12715)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 Mar 13
Probably. Heck, I might even be in such a rut right now! But my focus is not on 'where I am'; it is on 'what I must do.' And right now, I 'suspect' (as I cannot 'know') that I must be fruitful while I wait for my knight-lady in shining silk-armor to come and save me from this state-of-deepest-red (Oklahoma). And myLot seems the best place to plant my verdant mind until that time, that I might calm the raging minds of my fellow ingenious-but-not-famous brothers & sisters. I approach a 'rut' as a hamster approaches his wheel: running in the wheel is usually the most-fruitful activity for the hamster (doesn't get him anywhere, but builds up his muscles), but--if the hamster wants to run somewhere OTHER THAN the wheel--he just needs to change directions
• United States
6 Mar 13
Yes and I think you and I are in a rut. I could use some saving myself or at least a change of some sort would do me good.
• India
4 Mar 13
same with me... after college, i am trying to find another field... boring must be annihilated. haha
• United States
6 Mar 13
At least, done away with, changed up so it isn't monotonous. Something !
• Poland
4 Mar 13
I think we all have times like that, I personally think it means that we're subconsciously wanting to change something in our lifes, even if we're not sure what exactly, but the fact that we feel the urge to get into such 'safety zone' has to mean something. Wouldn't it be some kind of defensive reflex, when we feel we need a change but we're scared of it, so we prefer to get away from thinking about it?
• United States
6 Mar 13
There is a lot that could be differnt in my life and I won't know if its better until or if that happens. I'm a little afraid of change to be honest but I know its usually better for me. Would you say I am being defensive... hmm, perhaps I am in a way. Putting up some walls.
@SIMPLYD (67784)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Well as long as that comfort zone is not doing you any harm, then go on with it, my friend, However, when it makes you neglect all other duties, then you should analyze yourself and try to break free from such comfort zone. I always would have a comfort zone for myself daily. And that is at night, watching my favorite soap or playing game on my phone, but that is only when i am relaxing after a day's work.
• United States
6 Mar 13
You have some nice things to do while you're at home after working. An important part of being healthy and happy is our hobbies! thanks for sharing yours.
• India
4 Mar 13
Every human being will have such feelings. But frankly telling you, My Indian Ancestors had found a simple solution before 4500 Years ago and this is still followed my most of the Europeans and americans right now. Which is nothing but Meditation. Meditation is to purify our mind and get attention and concentration power and some sort of positive cosmic energy. This is scientifically proven now. just half an hour of meditation before sleeping will cure several 1000s of problems in our life.... Actually i was not much interested about meditation before 1 year but when one of my US friend told me that he got really benefited by practicing meditation I got really shocked and shamed of myself that Foreigner is telling me about the benefits of meditation which was really originated in India but I was totally unaware of it :(
• United States
6 Mar 13
Oh wow, thanks for sharing your insight with me as well. I have heard about meditation too but I have not practiced it. I will do so tonight and try to keep this in mind as a practiced way of life. I hope it is as you say.
@offlimits (602)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Nothing wrong with that at all but for you to notice that you've become restricted to that comfort zone means that you yourself want to do something else aside from that. At least you're aware that it's time for you to break from that cycle. It wouldn't be easy considering that it has become a habit of yours but try to take a break once in a while by distracting yourself from it. Like you I'm pretty much in the internet for hours but I try to follow a list of things to do aside from surfing the net, like cleaning, exercising a little while listening to music, etc. Sometimes I even become lazy to go back to the computer once I do other things :)
• United States
6 Mar 13
I've come to realizes these things slowly yes and at least I know now that I do need to help myself somehow. The realization is of course the first step towards progress.
@Hatley (135217)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Mar 13
hi echoforever Sometimes I think being on the computer is my coomfort zone and i get stuck here to the point I do not go downstairs to play bingo or socialize or watch television as most all the stuff they watch is reruns or sit coms that make me feel nauseated just listening to them. I mean should I not get some exercise too not just mylot all d ay? I sure do not make much any more either.
• United States
3 Mar 13
My comfort zone is also being on the computer. I don't do some things at all when I'm on here and I get lazy I think... well... I have an excuse of "I'm making money here! " LOL