She claims she's innocent!

Philippines
March 3, 2013 8:51pm CST
Whoah, I got irritated last night. My hubby's mistress sent me messages saying that she was sorry and that she was innocent about everything that happened. I can't believe it. How could she be innocent when in the first place, she knows that the guy she's dating is married and has one daughter. It would have been better for her to say she's sorry without adding the word, she's "innocent". We've talked before through the phone and I told her that I'm the wife of the guy and that we have one kid. But she didn't believe me. What's more? She said it's not her fault if she was taken by my husbands sweet talk. Oh my gosh. Saying sorry is nonsense if she doesn't know how to accept her mistakes. I'm not even asking my ex-husband to come back to me. All I ask is for us to talk like civilized people for our kid's sake. I don't like to live with someone who betrayed me over and over again.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
ew, the nerve of that mistress. They pretend to be the victim when they actually are scum. That's even more disgusting.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
you're right. She's acting like she's the victim but she's not actually doing anything to correct her mistake. I mean I don't like to take back my ex, but, if she says she's sorry then she might as well get out of his life right?
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
She is sorry she is being so selfish. What a sl#t. Make things clear with her that you she can take your cheating husband for all you care but make sure he helps out with your children. I think the mistress is a very pathetic woman.
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• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Totally agree!
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@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
The nerve of that mistress of your ex-husband! All mistresses will say "That they didn't know that the guy is already married". Why on the first place didn't they investigate. They can do that in many ways. It's a good thing that you separated from your husband. They deserve each other, cheaters. Just make sure that he regularly give his support to your kid.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I like the way you say things. hahaha. You are definitely correct. Yeah, I've just talked to my mom-in-law and she will be talking to his son if ever he shows himself to them.
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@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
That's because i hate those mistresses, and it seems that they are increasing in number and becoming common. It's good that you are in nice relation with your mother-in-law. She can at least help you in getting the support for your kid.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 13
yeah, that's really one thing I'm thankful of. My in-laws are very good to me and my baby.
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@squallming (1777)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 13
Most people, in order to make themselves feel better, they would just push away and deny all the fault they did. The same goes to your ex husband's mistress. She was trying to make herself feel better at the same time dreaming that you would not blame her for the affair. The fact is, no matter who started to flirt or sweet talk with the other, both your ex husband and the mistress are responsible for the affair. It's no use trying to deny that. I hope that things would get better for you soon and continue to walk your life for your daughter.
• Kenya
4 Mar 13
Well said squallming. Not just the mistress is to be blamed but the husband is the core culprit too. I feel sorry for what she is going through, i just do not understand where mistresses get the nerve to call a wife of somebody? She should be ignored because she is not worth at all. Now that there is a child involved, i think the children law could help ensure that the father offers support. For the lady, move forward, i believe that we should forgive people who are sincerely remorseful about their offense and willing to change; but the husband is not interested. we can only use our energy fighting for someone who is showing the same compassion, empathy and commitment; but if fighting alone, it is a lost battle. The mistress does not seem to care how hurtful this has been to the mom and her kid but then again, seems the husband did not give a damn about his wife's feelings and the well being of their child. I think the child will be happier in a healthy relationship and environment with the mom. And who knows, in future the lady may meet a guy who will love the child as his and be fully committed in marriage.
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Big thanks. Your points are right. Hushgal, you are right about forgiving people. It would be better to spend the rest of my life happy and contented rather than imprison myself with anger and regrets about what happened. I believe that by forgiving, I'll be happy. Though of course, we need to accept the fact that forgiveness needs time. I'm trying my best to forgive and forget in order to move forward.
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@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
there are really persons like her that wants to feel they are innocence. i guess, it is one way of evading of her fault and making herself free from conscience. she just making herself believe from that lie. and now, since both of you had talked, i guess she will stop having communication to your husband. there is no excuse for that because you already presenting yourself, you child and your life with you husband. i hope she will stop and that your husband will behave now. God bless :)
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
That is the ironic part because she continue living with him after all. Hahahaha. Sorry, i just can't stop myself from laughing. Its just like, you've known that its a trash but you still want to eat it. I don't understand why she's doing these things. I'm not even taking back my husband from her.
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@missjahn (4578)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
haist! really! so they are living in one roof, i presumed. that is odd. it is really hard to forgive like that. nah, you are right, they are trashes! maybe, there is something that may happened along the way for you. or maybe you can talk with your husband and decide things what to do pertaining to you marriage. maybe it can be settled down for your child and marriage. but if not, i guess, you deserve to be happy and forget and forgive. just pray :)
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@deazil (4556)
• United States
8 Mar 13
Such a piece of lying trash she is! OMG! And so much nerve. She is, of course, trying to make herself feel better and look innocent and make you feel sorry for her. After what she put you through wrecking your home. She is as guilty as your husband. I'm glad you're moving on with your life and trying to get through this. I know it's hard. I had to do the same thing when my son was small. But it was the best thing I ever did, getting away from a liar and a cheat. I think you're handling the situation very well. And she will get what she deserves. I believe in Karma. Good luck to you!
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Yeah, I believe in Karma too. I'm praying that God will continue to lead me since I really don't know what will happen in the future. I just trust His hands.
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• China
7 Mar 13
Wow,such a hard time the you are getting through it,and I think that this kind of affair what get the hurt the most is your kids,so pls do not let your daughter know about this,and really wish you two can deal with this affair.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 13
it's really hard so I continue praying because I believe that only God can help me go through this. I'm also praying that my child would understand me in the future for letting go of his dad.
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Being sorry for destroying a family is something I do not know if it deserves to be forgiven. But if she is sincere with here words, if I were in your place, I might forgive her, after all it wasn't all her fault. But saying that she was innocent when she knew all along that the guy is married, well, that is plain stupidity.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 13
That's my point jenny1015. If she is sincere, she wouldn't claim that she's innocent. How can you forgive someone who doesn't even know how to accept her mistakes? Anyhow, forgiveness anyway is my choice right? If I want to be affected by this things, then i won't forgive but if I want to get rid of all the hurts, then I'll give my forgiveness.
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• India
4 Mar 13
What is she expecting you to do after claiming that she is innocent? Dont trust her. What she did was knowingly then why cant she accept her mistakes she wants to show its all your husbands mistake. You dont bother about let her send messages. Some are like that.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Yeah, I didn't actually respond to her messages. She called and I just listened. She was crying but what could I tell her. I can't tell her that I agree of what she claims to be so I told her to just accept the fact because it was her choice of getting into this kind of relationship. It wasn't me who ruined her life, it was her.
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@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I am sorry to hear about what happened. I think that if she is serious asking for an apology for what she did, she should have come in person, and not through SMS only.
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
yes, and she should not make any excuses about being innocent.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Haha now this made me remember my ex boyfriend's other woman. She insisted that my bf (then) told her that she knew about me and c that he told her that I had a heart problem so he can't break up with me. Talk about stupid women who would easily believe these men's sweet talk. She just thinks she is innocent but she can just convince Herself perhaps and believe these lies. Tell her you don't care about her or her conscience she can go to he'll for all you care. Just stay out of your life. Let her be. She has got no values and that is she will always be no mayest what she says or no matter what her reasons are. A mistress.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I totally agree with you. She's just making excuses but its not me whom she's playing with, its her own conscience.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
4 Mar 13
First of all I can't believe she had the nerve to call you. Secondly, she is not at all sorry she is only sorry that they got caught. I wouldn't waste a minute of your time dealing with your ex. Only when it comes to your daughter. Once a man cheats he will cheat again and even if he promises never to do it again you will never be able to trust him 100 percent.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
you're right. When trust is broken, it can't be restored 100% because there will always be doubts. I don't want to live with someone whom I don't trust anymore.
• Jacksonville, Florida
4 Mar 13
We both know she is a liar-it takes two to tango! She was just as guilty as your husband was... That was a stupid thing for her to even say. I have no idea how she sleeps at night being a home wrecker. I would never want to be a mistress-second choice. I hope she enjoys being cheated on when he "sweet talks" someone new! I hope you have moved on and I am sorry you were betrayed like that!
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
True. I believe that "once a cheater is always a cheater, once a liar is always a liar". Thank you. I think I've conquered the pain and I'm moving on.
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@machatago (385)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Chances are, if your ex husband cheated on you, he will cheat again with her. So let her celebrate for now. In the end she'll be the one crying and will wish she wouldn't have let herself be in that situation. Karma will bring them down when the time comes.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Actually, she's already starting to cry.
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@choconut (298)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
let them be! let her have him because most probably if you take him back he's just going to do it again. Don't let it affect you anymore, she's going to have her karma soon
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
right! I think her karma is starting already.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
hahaa,,,, SHE IS TRASH,,,Spme girls are really like that, they want to be innocent so that the blame will not fall at her! SUCH A PATHETIC STRATEGY.. so LAME and yeah, I think your decision is REALLY good and you must be very brave to do it! I know it's hard but it's harder if you will stay to a NON sense relationship specially if your trust is GONE.. you can never be happy and satisfied if you don't trust someone you LOVE... YOU can still be civil and should talk even if your not as a couple just for the sake of the kid. JUST keep on praying and let GOD heal your wounds! GOD BLESS YOU!
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Thank you for the very nice idea. Yeah, I'm trying my best not to forget to pray because above all these things, I know and I believe that only GOD can help me go through it. Things are hard but God has His own way.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
All I can say is, let her have him.. once they cheat on you, you can never trust them again. Hit the road jack, and dont you come back no more....
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
right! I totally agree with you. It's not worthy living my life trying to fight for a family that can't be made whole again.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 13
If he lied to her, and she really believed he was single, then she's innocent. If she knew he was married, she's not. She's just making excuses for herself.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
4 Mar 13
I guess your ex-husband is a master manipulator then. If he's able to convince the mistress to think and believe that she is innocent. I think sometimes when people are caught up in a web of lies they are able to believe anything. To believe that they are innocent even when their very actions prove otherwise. Just take the high road, and dismiss her as she has dismissed your life and marriage.
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• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Hello raynejasper, I feel sad by this situation of yours, who would have thought you are going to experience this betrayal from your husband. she should have made herself tough to get, that would have really discourage him from getting to that girl.well, the trust is lost now and i think he doesn't want to go back to you either, that's really sad.
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@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
once is a cheater is always be a cheater
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