I don't talk to my neighbors!

United States
March 5, 2013 11:05am CST
Yes it is true and that is the way it always has been! I am just one of those people who likes to be left alone! Were I live most people move like ever 3 to 6 months! So in some ways it doesn't pay to get to know them! I have also some crappy ones in the past so I like to keep to myself! One sister-in-law heard this and was appaulled by it! Now my boss is pissed at me for that! Why because I refuse to try and find the one of then so I can back my car out and I get to work! I have cars on both sides of my car and no matter what I do I can not get out! I have just made it worse! Alot worse! I have come very close to hitting both cars! It doesn't help there is snow plies in front of my car and ice underneath! I can't get out unless one of them moves their car! So I am going to sit and wait for this. I rather be safe then sorry!
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21 responses
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
6 Mar 13
I have lived where we are for 13 years. Most our neighbors work and keep to themselves. When we first moved here our neighbors across the creek talked to us a little but when they learned we were not interested in going to their church they got hostile and mean. They shot our peacocks and guinea fowl have stolen things from us. Two other neighbors we talk to a bit but not much as they work or are weekender people A lot of the ones originally here when we moved here have sold and moved away. The new people never seem to be friendly. We are very remote, rural and isolated and cannot see any of our neighbors but they are not far away just gone, busy or choose to be hostile.
@miryanag (348)
• Bulgaria
6 Mar 13
I live in an apartment building so a meet my neighbours everyday. All I say is hi. And starting to greet them may give you the opurtunity to ask them to move their cars.No one says you should be friends with them jus be polite.
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• United States
6 Mar 13
I know that's right. If I couldn't get to work I'd at least ask nicely if they could move their car so I could get out. If that happened too often you could lose your job if you don't want to ask. I'm glad we have a house and our own driveway. Nothing like that would happen here. However, if I didn't have the gumption to ask someone to move their car my boss would have every right to fire me if he/she thought I didn't care.
• United States
13 Mar 13
I live in a two family house. I live in the upper apartment and I rarely have known the people I live above. Most move out in a year or less! Why I don't care to know. There are alot of other houses in the alley were I live and nt alot of people live in. I think some people say they can pay rent and in the long run can't. Then they either move to pull that crap on someone else or get kicked out in time. I am one of the few people who has not moved and I have been here going on 12 years. I can't afford I to move.
@Raine38 (9195)
• United States
5 Mar 13
I like to be friends with my neighbors, but I am not outgoing and most of the time I like to be left alone and just not in the mood for some small chats. I have been here for 2 months now and there is only 1 neighbor that I know and talk every time we chance to see each other outside or anywhere else. I do wave hi and say hello to some other neighbors but that's about it. I am not outgoing and it is hard for me to make friends so I guess I can take my sweet time. NO hurry!
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• United States
8 Mar 13
When I was young I was shy and quiet. So I didn't talk to many people! When I got older and on my own I got over this. When I feel uncomfortable with certain people and situations I aviod others and keep to myself. It is a way not to be taken advantage of and aviod bad situations. So not knowing my neighbors is a situation that I will continue to aviod!
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 13
I only talk to one of my neighbors, the others I just say hi to when I see them outside just to be polite... I live in a military town so people move a lot around here too. Not many people stay here for long either. I have a neighbor next to us that does not talk to anyone either, she stays in her house most of the time and if she comes out she won't say anything to anyone. I just figured she doesn't want to have friends or be polite. It is her choice, I don't mind it. She stays to herself and is quiet so that is okay with me! I don't see anything wrong with it, some people like to be alone... Everyone is different.
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• United States
8 Mar 13
Nice to know someone understand where I am coming from! I like to be alone and keep to myself! So many people just don't get it! Well I am not like eveyone else! I am an individual and that what matter the must to me!
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
7 Mar 13
Your situation might be referred to as cutting off your nose to spite your face. You refuse to ask your neighbor to move their vehicle so that you can get to work on time. You're just hurting yourself. In our city, it is illegal to block someone's driveway.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
14 Mar 13
I hope you are happy in your little world. Please don't ever move into our nneighborhood. Some of our friendliness might rub off on you.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
5 Mar 13
Our neighbors next door are very nice people and we talk over the fence many times. The man next door has even come over to help my hubby with car problems or generators problems. We shall our crops with them throughout the year and they do the same too. The other neighbors are usually just hello and how are you. We give them some of our crops too. Thankfully I have never had a problem with my neighbors in New York, New Mexico and now here in Puerto Rico. I can't imagine living somewhere where I don't get along with the neighbors. Both my sisters have lived like that and I just don't understand it. I sometimes think its my sisters who cause the problems.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
1 Apr 13
I truly understand neighbors like that I wouldn't want to communicate with either.
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
Although I don’t think your attitude to be left alone is wrong. But in your case you can try to contact your neighbor politely to move their cars. You can’t get out for work unless they move their car so your car can go out, right? Just try talking to them, I don’t think they’d get mad if you do ask them politely. Besides if they do get mad at you, that just show that they are the jerks, so it’s not your fault. But if you just try to wait and not talk to them, that situation won’t get better. And it will look like as if you don’t want to try.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
6 Mar 13
I do talk to my neighbors but pretty much only in passing. The ones who live close are all nice, but I live inbetween senior citizens. I don't consider my neighbors friends or people I go out of my way to spend time with. We don't do bbqs or swim parties or block parties. My neighbor across the street does keep an eye on our property for us though - I found out about that when I had a friend come by to get my mail when we were out of town. He gave her the tenth degree about 'who are you' and 'why are you taking my neighbor's mail' LOL! It was a little embarrassing when we returned home and she told me what happened. I would love eventually to live in a new housing development that had young families, maybe in a culdesac or something because then maybe I'd actually make friends with others on the street. I've never lived in an area that was mostly young families or in the same neighborhood as any of my close friends.
• United States
6 Mar 13
I really don't like living by unfriendly people. When we moved here not one person bothered to say hello to us. I have been here 8 months and I don't know one person. I'm a bit shy and don't want to push myself on others. I had a wheelchair accident at another place several years ago that caused me to go flying out of my chair. Not one person out and about cared to see if I was okay. Not one car stopped to help me get out of the ditch. I am sure not going outside with my wheelchair anywhere near the road because I just know that no one would care enough to see if I was hurt. I would like to know who lives beside us but if they didn't care enough to say hello in all these months, I guess they don't care to know me. I have saved the chihuahua from across the street from getting hit. The woman says thanks and turns around and leaves. Quite strange. Maybe I should just let the dog cross at his own risk since the owner doesn't seem to care if it gets hit.
• United States
13 Mar 13
I live by myself and I like keeping to myself. I am one of the few people who has not moved in almost 12 years. So many people move out in so often it is crazy! I live in a two family house in the upper apartment. I rarely have known the many neighbors who have lived below me. Why is the point? People come and go! So getting to myself is a good idea and will keep doing.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
I have been living in this community for the past 18 years. Within those years, my family and I have moved 3x within the area, all properties were owned by my in laws. My husband is very well known in our place coz he grow up in this place. There are only a few people that I talk to. From our street, there is one lady and her daughter where we but food and another family that rents their store from my in laws. I also don't want to be speaking with other people coz I know that there is also a tendency for them to gossip. So I try to keep away from them
@mei_bel (34)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
Whenever I pass by some of my neighbors, I smile and greet them. Sometimes a few would stop me to ask about my parents or have me relay a message or two to them since my dad's the president of the home owners' association in our area. However, as much as possible, I don't mingle with them too much. I'm not being rude, it's just that they're too nosy and such gossipmongers. I don't like their unsolicited advices and crude opinions. I just try to avoid those kind of people.
@celticeagle (119823)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Mar 13
I'm the same way. I don't like to be bothered. Plus most of our neighbors are foreigners now. From Iraq, Indonesia, Afganistan and such. Occasionally there is a hello but not much else. We used to have caucasion people and we were friendly with most that lived close by. The lady across from us has gone wacky. She is caucasion and used to be pretty nice. Now she makes weird comments to my daughter when she is out. Such things as 'If you don't quit watching me I going to contact the black mafia' or just today 'does someone pay you to come out here and watch me when I am out?' And she accused her of going up on her back porch. None of these statements make any sense or have any truth to them. She is paranoid and needs help.
@checkmail (2042)
• India
5 Mar 13
its good about mien neighbor he isn't that concerned to talk with me, he just keeps it to himself.I don't get any trouble form him, but yup earlier neighbor did made lot of mess as well as trouble just before leaving the room. Else mine neighbor is decent and good gentleman, with good behavior and good language. Hope somehow your neighbors too turn out to be good.
• United States
13 Mar 13
Most of my neighbors are not really friendly,keep to themselves and I am glad it is that way. I don't live in the greatest of neighbors and if I could afford it I would move to a better neighborhood. I think it is great that I keep to myself. I would probaly fear for my safety otherwise.
@cttolledo (5054)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
I am not close with my neighbors.. Just wre just like hi hello acquaintance .. we never share stories and personal live. I am a private person I dont want to mingle them openly , and same with me I respect their private lives also, I dont want to be involved in their issiues in life though sometimes I witnessed a not good behaviour from them but still I chose not to make any any comments.
• United States
13 Mar 13
I am like you. I like my privacy and being private. I do it because I don't want to be involved in other people's lives and in mine. I can get that at work thank you very much! Glad my neighbors leave me alone. I am very happy about it!
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
5 Mar 13
Well, in a situation like this, I would try and talk to them. Not because you should keep contact, but because if you act like this principle of yours id more important than getting your car out to work, that sounds really immature. You should call them, or knock on their door, and tell them firmly that they should park in a way that doesn't make it impossible for you to go to work. Okay, one day off from work is okay, but in the evening, you should talk. Btw I don't really keep contact with my neighbors... but if they greet me, I greet them, sometimes I make small talks... I think it's essential for having a stable relationship with the neighbors, because who knows what could happen (like your case). But otherwise, I'm not that kind of person who's going to be cheerful and all let's be friends with any neighbor... I'm more of an introvert and wouldn't like to act friends with people who are not my style.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
5 Mar 13
Hi Blue, I don't really know my neighbors either. The other day, I was blocked in by a car that was visiting a neighbor. I did just wait until the person came out and left as what I had to do was not all that important. I will say, though, that work would be important. I can't afford to miss it nor to lose my job. It is important to me that I be on time so you bet...I would be knocking on doors to find out whose car was preventing me from leaving.
• United States
9 Mar 13
Since I have lived where I have,it is going on 12 years,I have had alot happen! I have had my car blocked in and had to with like you did! I was late for work for that! I had to part on the street a few times because neighbors or friends of neighbors stoled my parking spot! There is 7 parking spots and when I first moved where I live,now, all the spots were taken! It was so frustrated losing my spot! A few times I stole someone else's spot when mine was taken! Over the years there has been so many differen people have come and gone. I have not had to worry about having other cars parked on the sides of my cars,until lately! So the other cars were so close to mine on tuesday,no matter what I tried I couldn't back out! I made the situation worse when I part a small dent in the car on the right on the passenger side,near the bottom. I just ignored it. My neighbor noticed,called the cops and reported the accident! I had a pink piece of paper on my car! I need to get hold of the cop who wrote it out report and give him my infromation! So far no luck! I hope that is all I need to do! I just want this to be over with!
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
5 Mar 13
I am glad I can talk to my neighbors...they all help each other out and like today we had a big snow storm and when I got home my sidewalk and driveway were all scooped out! I certainly wouldn't wait for someone to move their car...but if that's the way you have to do it so be it.
• United States
9 Mar 13
Before my nieghbor moved their car,I put a small dent in it! You see I park off the street inwbteen my house and another. There are 7 parking spots. For a long time it was three car parked in the parking area. So I had no cars parked next to me! Until lately! Now there are five cars! The other cars had parked to close to me. On tuesday I had to take a vacation day because could not get out and just made things worse! That is how I put a small dent in the car on the right on I went out to move my car. I found a pink slip on my car from the police department! The accident had been reported! So now I need to get hold of the cop who wrote out the rreport! Have not be able to yet! Don't know what will happen next,I hope not much! I just hope the cop only need my information and nothing more! If I don't have to deal with anything more I will be very happy!
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Mar 13
hi bglue 65 packer Nothing wrong in that as a lot of people just do not want to associate anyway so I guess a lot of people pay no never mind to their neighbors.But truth is if you ever really need a neighbors help it would have been nice if he or she knew you more than just a someone living next door.Sorry but I am ujsedto my home town's friendliness and sometimes I just want to see more of that yet people here are cold and distant so be it as if they come asking for help from me I will pretend I cannot hear them.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
5 Mar 13
Im the same way here. mine are drinkers, and very messy people. They make lots of racket all the time. And i have to clean up from the dogs here. I hate them. On both sides..
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I know that there are a lot of people that are like this and really don't talk to their neighbors and I have to admit that I'm like that to a certain extent as well. I am a person that will talk to my neighbors occasionally, but I'm not going to say that I'm particularly close to them. The reason that I don't talk to my neighbors on a regular basis is because of the fact that I really don't have a lot of things that are in common with my neighbors as they are in a totally different place in their lives than I am in mine.