stop reminding me that I'm so fat

@hotsummer (10449)
Philippines
March 6, 2013 4:59pm CST
And that I'll need to do this and that. Yesterday my mom reminded me again that I should exercise and when she is concern she doesn't say it nicely. This isn't the kind of concern I wanna see or receive. I want something said in more gentle and understanding way and not trying to force on me what I'll do next. It's like there's so much wrong in my life that I'll do need to do every thing what she thinks is right for me. I've been taking care of m my health already and I don't any one following my each step and make or voice their opinion each time.
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@blackrusty (3530)
• Mexico
6 Mar 13
well I don't know you and I won't judge you but if your mom say you needs to work out more then tell her go with me make her do the same thing as she is asking of you we all take care of our health in our own way and unless she is on your heels 24 hours a day she should be told to back off a little but in a nice way and when your ready you will do what you need but in a nice way if your over weight or have medical issues please take care of your self you do have one life and every one wants to have you around for a while
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
Yeah she has said thing so many times the way we see mother talks or portrayed on movies. The kind of annoying and try to babbling all the time.
• Mexico
6 Mar 13
I do understand but if she cares so much she would if nothing else go with you after dinner time for a walk in the fresh air yes i know bad time of year with it being cold and winter and wet but no reason for her not to put her foot where her mouth is so to say and if she cares so much she would not be putting you down and giving you all the support that you need
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
7 Mar 13
Tell your mom what you just posted here in this discussion. Tell her how you feel and that she is hurting your feelings and upsetting you but do it nicely. Show her that your taking care of your health. Be nice about it tho. She is your mother and she just worries about you because you are still her kid and she loves you. She may be overdoing it but you need to tell her that in as nice a way as possible and not be too upset with her because she means well and is watching you because she worries about you and you are still her child.
@hotsummer (10449)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
she knows it already but she would get offended and just say that she is just saying it for my best.
• United States
7 Mar 13
I've got a friend with a Mom like that on her back about her weight. I guess the best thing to do is to try to take it with a grain of salt and learn the art of changing the subject to one you are more comfortable with. I have half sisters when I was young who bought me all sorts of diet aids thinking they were helping instead it made me into an even more angry teenager.
@cvodrey (227)
• United States
7 Mar 13
Mothers do have a tendency to become overly involved in their children's lives; but look at it this say, at least she cares about you. Some people would love to have an involved mother, even if it is sometimes hurtful and annoying. Just respond with something like, "Mom, I know you care, and I love you for that. But trust that you raised me to make good choices, and I am trying my best to be responsible about my health." And sometimes we have to learn things on our own. Ya know? I have grown children. I respect their choices, but sometimes I will voice what is on my mind.
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
hi hs, Well Mom reminds me also that I am gaining weight I know she is concern but I can't help not to eat my life style is not healthy like others but I make sure that it will not cause any troubles to them. Well Mom kinda support me in my eating habit like buying me some foods that I really love happy mylotting
@rsa101 (14924)
• Quezon City, Philippines
7 Mar 13
Mothers are like that I guess they are just concerned that they forgot that they are over acting and annoying already which is not helping their child anymore. I think your mother just needs to be reminded from time to time that she has gone overboard and is not helping or encouraging you anymore to do what you need to do to yourself.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
I do understand how you feel. I would also tell my son sometimes that I want to lose weight. And instead of him telling me something positive, he would say, that I would never get slimmer coz of my age.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
7 Mar 13
Sorry to hear that your mother doesn't say things in the kindest way. It can be hard to handle things when people aren't considerate of our feelings. Sometimes my husband can be that way. I'm trying to lose weight and when I told my husband how much I weighed when I first started dieting he laughed at me. Some people who are suppose to be close to us can really hurt our feelings.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
7 Mar 13
Just make yourself be comfortable with yourself.There are always people reminding us to be thiner but i suppose when a person looks like perfect can be his or her best size.So ignore the voice and be a confident you.
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
well, what i always respond to people, be it family, friends or just acquaintance, ... speak for yourself..lol..
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
I think it depends on how old you are. How old are you, anyway? It seems to me that your mom is treating you like a kid or something. Also, there are people who has weird ways of showing how they care about someone. I have a friend who punches someone he misses, so that's one thing. Not a solid punch, though. Anyway, I used to have that nagging before from my mom. I just tell her that "I'm on it" with a neutral tone, and it works every time. You should try it.
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
I think it depends on how old you are. How old are you, anyway? It seems to me that your mom is treating you like a kid or something. Also, there are people who has weird ways of showing how they care about someone. I have a friend who punches someone he misses, so that's one thing. Not a solid punch, though. Anyway, I used to have that nagging before from my mom. I just tell her that "I'm on it" with a neutral tone, and it works every time. You should try it.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
6 Mar 13
Well, I can perfectly understand your discomfort when people around you, remember you every time you are fat. Infuse you know that already! So it is a reminder useless! Perhaps, in order to do you good, they would like to see you do something to remedy your being overweight. In every way, turn it as you see fit, but it's still annoying! But perhaps, hold a line beginning with the nutrition etc., perhaps would be good for your health, I think. Perhaps more than anything else is why the people you would like to suggest that you lose weight.
• United States
6 Mar 13
I know all about that feeling from when I was married to the loser. they would say all the time how fat I was and needed to lose weight. when I lost the freaking weight I was now too small and did not look healthy. screw people do you.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
6 Mar 13
I am have a little more than I had when I was growing but thank\ God my mother never call me nor my siblings fat...and even right today I can't stand when someone approaches me with "you have put on weight"..and my instant reply is"if you can see I can certainlly see it as well"..I think its just darn RUDE!!!!
• Canada
6 Mar 13
Hi hotsummer, I am so sorry you are feeling this way I am sure it is because your mom loves you and is concerned. I understand how you feel as my mother her whole life had a weight problem and her mother used to get after her, it always made my mom feel bad. My father on the other hand would tell her he loved her no matter what her size was. I am not sure if it is a weight problem you have or if your mom just wants you to get exercise,if you are able to communicate with your mom just let her know how you feel. It sounds to me like you have been taking care of your health keep up the good work.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
6 Mar 13
Tell them, its your life and your business... You need to do what you need to do. Not be told what to do. Good luck there.