friend turned into lover
March 7, 2013 10:19am CST
A Person who has got best friend as a lover is really lucky.I am also lucky but not exactly because i was in love with her before we were friends. my friend is in love with her.she knows very well about his love on her.now the problem is she just need to be friend with him. The worst part of this story is, now the girl is in love with him but still she want to be a friend with him not to be lover. how to solve this problem?
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7 Mar 13
many friends have become lovers. and many say that it is a good path to become good lovers. the good thing about it is that friends are able to know each other first before entering a more serious relationship. the bond that was built in friendship is a good foundation for the next stage of relationship. although the two remain friends.
9 Mar 13
This happens all the time,i have a friend and she had know the guy for like many years,what makes me surprise is that they become lover last year and seems realy in love.So maybe one day i'll happen to have the same situation as them.Just do whatever you want and congrats to the lovers like that.
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7 Mar 13
Only she can tell what does she really want out of the relationship, to remain friends or to take it to the next level. Love is complicated, but it need not be if we choose. But since we are so cautious as to not hurt other people as well as to guard our feelings, it gets tricky. If I were her, I would give my feelings a chance. It might turn out to be good for us in the end, or it might ruin our friendship entirely. But then, that's the risk that she's got to take. At least she wouldn't end up wondering for the rest of her life, what if she tried? What if she confessed her feelings.
11 Mar 13
Such a complicated situation will arrive where the person is in double mind specially when they are in love, it may be girl or boy. So when you are loving someone you have to serious about your that relationship. Her act shows she not serious about her love.
8 Mar 13
Hi there, i think it is hard for the girl to just do this. of course the guy loves her more than a friend and if she decides to just be friends with him, she has to keep distance a bit because that is what will help the guy get over her, at least for the time being and just be friends afar. Being with her, and not being with her as a lover would be a painful experience for the guy especially if she should be seen with other guys, etc.
8 Mar 13
I see, why not just get it over with and confess her feelings to him too, I'm sure the two of them can get along. Also, I just want to share the my love is my best friend too. And I'm lucky we get along like that since most lovers forget that they have to be the best of friends too.
7 Mar 13
I think a decision should be made. What's more important? Love (which may not last forever) or friendship? Because if love fades away, or they break up (maybe because of an argument), they are not going to become that good friends again. I would kind estimate how they match each other in personality to have a harmonious romantic relationship, and after that, I would kind of contamplate the first question, and then decide.
7 Mar 13
Well, a problem with no easy solution. So if I understand it, there is an engaged couple. She is in love with him, but at the same time she wants to remain friends with another man. Right? Well, there would be no problem if there was the so-called "jealousy factor"! This could be done, "explode" the serenity of a couple. I believe that to resolve that question, it should be that between them they speak and clear, first of all. I see at least from this point of view.