friend turned into lover

friend and lover - friend turns lover
India
March 7, 2013 10:19am CST
A Person who has got best friend as a lover is really lucky.I am also lucky but not exactly because i was in love with her before we were friends. my friend is in love with her.she knows very well about his love on her.now the problem is she just need to be friend with him. The worst part of this story is, now the girl is in love with him but still she want to be a friend with him not to be lover. how to solve this problem?
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@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
many friends have become lovers. and many say that it is a good path to become good lovers. the good thing about it is that friends are able to know each other first before entering a more serious relationship. the bond that was built in friendship is a good foundation for the next stage of relationship. although the two remain friends.
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• India
8 Mar 13
yes your are right.By being as a friend first we can easily able to understand each other.
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@jricky1 (6808)
• China
9 Mar 13
This happens all the time,i have a friend and she had know the guy for like many years,what makes me surprise is that they become lover last year and seems realy in love.So maybe one day i'll happen to have the same situation as them.Just do whatever you want and congrats to the lovers like that.
• India
9 Mar 13
yes one day she will realize his on love him.my friend is waiting for such a moment in his life
@Raine38 (9195)
• United States
7 Mar 13
Only she can tell what does she really want out of the relationship, to remain friends or to take it to the next level. Love is complicated, but it need not be if we choose. But since we are so cautious as to not hurt other people as well as to guard our feelings, it gets tricky. If I were her, I would give my feelings a chance. It might turn out to be good for us in the end, or it might ruin our friendship entirely. But then, that's the risk that she's got to take. At least she wouldn't end up wondering for the rest of her life, what if she tried? What if she confessed her feelings.
• India
8 Mar 13
only she can act like a friend with him. after she felled in love its difficult to act as a friend.Any way she eyes shows that she has love with him.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
It happen always to best friend and friends become lover at the end. Now the feelings is so confusing. Tell them to clear their mind first before to jump into conclusion. Ask themselves if really feel inlove or just friends, then go for it.
• India
8 Mar 13
i thing she need some time to realize her love with him.she is so confused like you said.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
16 Apr 13
Hello Gowtham I´m glad to read you again. Maybe she doesn´t want to become lover because she is affraid of getting inlove or being hurted. Blessings Gow... dainy
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
There is nothing wrong if you still want your lover to be your friend coz I think that being best friends would make your relationship stronger. And I do think that friends that became lovers have the most perfect relationship ever.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
11 Mar 13
Such a complicated situation will arrive where the person is in double mind specially when they are in love, it may be girl or boy. So when you are loving someone you have to serious about your that relationship. Her act shows she not serious about her love.
• India
8 Mar 13
Thanks for this discussion. Many who were good friends become lover and beloved, it ends up in love marriage.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Hi there, i think it is hard for the girl to just do this. of course the guy loves her more than a friend and if she decides to just be friends with him, she has to keep distance a bit because that is what will help the guy get over her, at least for the time being and just be friends afar. Being with her, and not being with her as a lover would be a painful experience for the guy especially if she should be seen with other guys, etc.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
I see, why not just get it over with and confess her feelings to him too, I'm sure the two of them can get along. Also, I just want to share the my love is my best friend too. And I'm lucky we get along like that since most lovers forget that they have to be the best of friends too.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
7 Mar 13
it really is a great news and you must cherish it all the way with cool gifts and fabulous party time,so lucky ,enjoy the moment
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
7 Mar 13
I think a decision should be made. What's more important? Love (which may not last forever) or friendship? Because if love fades away, or they break up (maybe because of an argument), they are not going to become that good friends again. I would kind estimate how they match each other in personality to have a harmonious romantic relationship, and after that, I would kind of contamplate the first question, and then decide.
@jgirap (210)
• India
7 Mar 13
the girl is little bit confuse ,don't do anything just give her time of her ,she will soon ready to be in relation with him
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
7 Mar 13
Well, a problem with no easy solution. So if I understand it, there is an engaged couple. She is in love with him, but at the same time she wants to remain friends with another man. Right? Well, there would be no problem if there was the so-called "jealousy factor"! This could be done, "explode" the serenity of a couple. I believe that to resolve that question, it should be that between them they speak and clear, first of all. I see at least from this point of view.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
7 Mar 13
Your lover should always be your best friend. I see it that way. Thats a big part of a great relationship.