how does she handle his jealousy?
By pomwango
@pomwango (1353)
Kenya
March 7, 2013 10:03pm CST
my neighbour is a newly wed of less than six months.sadly after the first two months her husband has gotten over possessive and is now beating her up anytime he feels she is being unfaithful.she ofcourse is true to him but what he terms unfaithful is when she talks to a man or is seen near any man.if he picks her at work and she is seen saying bye to a man colleague that results in a beating or if any man calls her mobile phone its also time to get a beating.she loves him but this is really not good or healthy.she has gotten his parents to try talk to him but not too much changes he only changes for a few days and goes back to his jealous outburst.is there a way such people can change or is she fighting a loosing battle and if she stays is this going to be a physically abusivise life for her?
1 person likes this
5 responses
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
I would never tolerate someone who beats me, no matter how much I love them. Her husband is possessive. He does not love her. A man who loves a woman would never lift a hand on her.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
This is really bad! if she let's her husband continue on beating her up it'll get worse. If talking to her husband isn't changing anything, then I think it's time to seek the help of a women's group?
The help she can get depends on what country she is in. Some countries have extensive laws on the protection of women.
I think the husband needs to have anger management classes and therapy for his paranoia.
In the mean time, I think she should go live with her parents for a while until his husband sorts himself out.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
8 Mar 13
She will never be able to handle his jealousy because he can't control himself. If he is beating her over silly things like this then she needs to get out!
No spouse should have to be subjected to that kind of treatment (and yes there are women out there that are just as bad as men in this). They are newly married so hope the process of divorce is a simple process.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Mar 13
That is so very sad. She is being treated like an animal and it is horrible. I feel a person only changes if they truly WANT to. If they are being forced to try to change or their doing it for someone other than themselves it will not happen. If he goes to therapy or counseling and he wants to change his behavior it could change for the better, but only he can change it...
If he is not willing to change then she needs to get out of the marriage, no one deserves to be hit like that! She should be treated with respect and loved. If he has no trust for her then he does not belong in the relationship. There has to be trust to have love.
I truly hope things change for this poor woman! I hope he learns to change his behavior as well, it can be done but only if he wants it to change...
@joanamarienieva (160)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Leave him, the husband shouldn't hit his wife just because he is jealous.
If he doesn't trust his wife, why did he marry her?
Stupid husband, the wife should teach him a lesson.
