are your kids the same?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14879)
Philippines
March 8, 2013 9:03pm CST
Having more than one child in the family does not necessarily mean that they will be alike in many ways. You carried them all in that one big tummy, they grow up together, enrolled in the same school, live in the same house or environment and even share most of their things but still you will always find out that you cannot apply the same discipline, understanding or one strategy of parenting to each of them. They have individual differences and this is one of the best challenges a parent has to handle for sure. Individual differences take us all to the different understanding of every individual especially our very own children.There are no persons who are alike in everything. each persons have different needs.
5 responses
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
I know some identical twin men. They may look the same however they are different in personality. I have got a 3 year old daughter, a 5 year old son and a 17 year old soon to be aged 18 years old son. My middle son is disabled and he is in a wheelchair.
My oldest son has got higher functioning autism and he is very academic plus clever. He grew up loving history and then he didn't like the AS level topic which was women through the ages. This let him get a poor grade and put him off continuing that subject. Even though he got a grade A in Psychology he dropped that subject. He is studying Maths, Government and Politics plus Religious Studies at A Level. He is hoping to go to university.
My younger son is very different to my oldest son. He has a full time assistant at a mainstream school. He has a quiet personality and playing with toys is his favorite activity. I don't think he is going to be anywhere near as academic as my oldest son. My daughter has a louder personality and she is keen on friendships with certain other little girls. she is very emotional. I love all 3 of my kids dearly.
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
That's why i say that they are to be treated differently but we have to be careful as not to show favoritism to any of them because it might cause conflict among them.
@danix1982 (593)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
yes it is true,kids are really different in manners and personality. even the twins can have different attitude also, it is really a big task to a parent to understand the needs and wants of their child from newborn until their children will have their own family. i salute all the parents that raise, love and support their kids well even they are many. thank you for this discussion! 
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Parenting is really such a huge task. I even more give salute to those single parents who are able to raise their kids on their own because it is not very easy to become both a father and a mother at the same time.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
I agree. My siblings and I may have something in common but definitely, we all different people with many differences. But my parents used only one technique in raising us that is why my youngest brother is such a headache. He maybe needing more attention during his adolescent stage but like the four of us who grew up with minimal supervision 
my parents did the same with him. So he did everything that pleases him and sooner chose friends that has greatly influences his lifestyle.
my parents did the same with him. So he did everything that pleases him and sooner chose friends that has greatly influences his lifestyle. @cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Thats true, really. I have three kids, 2 girls and a boy. It is not that difficult to make girls obey but my little boy seems to be wanting to get more attention. The eldest is independent while my middle seems to be wanting appreciation for every little thing she does.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
9 Mar 13
ya at their childhood age,they are same no matter what like we used to be and it all depends on ideal parenting and childhood memories which are sweet for sure
