Not sure how I feel after this morning!

United States
March 10, 2013 10:47am CST
My boyfriend works overnights. He likes it if I lay next to him while he falls asleep; most of the time, it doesn't bother me. Sometimes I even laydown and take a nap with him for an hour or so. But about three years ago, he started the WORST habit ever-he allows his dog to sleep in the bed. This morning, he was angry because the dog was begging to go out. He's still dressed, except he's wearing slippers-I'm in my pajamas still, so after a while, he got made and dragged the dog out, telling him he could only pee. I rolled my eyes. Well, that's all he allowed the dog to do! After a short time, he sniffs and said, Oh my god, did that dog poop? Sure enough-I found it in the house. I cleaned it up, but didn't scold the dog. A short time later, my boyfriend decides to go to bed (which is fine), and the dog followed him into the bedroom. I followed about 15 minutes later. He's watching TV, so I laid down on my side, but was basically pushed out of the way by the dog. I'm playing a game when I start hearing a low growling. Yoda has already attacked me, biting my forearm through my sweatshirt, so as I'm crying and yelling at my boyfriend to wake up, Yoda DID attack me! He bit me in the nose and lip, and while he didn't break the skin, I ran crying from the room so quickly I barely noticed that my glasses had fallen off! Yoda didn't break the skin (thank goodness), but it did make me realize that I can't tolerate a dog that will attack me. When I finally came back into the bedroom, all my boyfriend did was whine about how I woke him up from a sound sleep. I spotted my glasses on the bed and as I was reaching for them, Yoda started to attack again! My former in-laws had a very old dog named Sam. Sam tolerated me in the beginning, was protective of me while I was pregnant, but bit and attacked me because he didn't understand that my daughter was MY child and not my MIL's! I refused to go there after that unless they locked him up in another room. I never thought I'd have this problem again. Yoda is a sweet, friendly little dog 99% of the time, but it's the 1% that is scaring the heck out of me! I'm usually not afraid of dogs, and know how to approach them, but this recent behavior (in the last two or three months) has me wondering how long this will go on before I DO end up being bit. I am speaking to my boyfriend about this when he wakes up, and he's got a serious decision to make here. I cannot live with a dog that attacks me-the next time could be more serious! He's got to make a decision here-I know it hurts him deeply, but if he decides to chose the dog over me, I'm leaving.
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5 responses
• Canada
10 Mar 13
Your b/f has (without realizing it) caused this problem by allowing the dog in his bed. The dog sees you as encroaching on his territory now. The dog CANNOT be allowed in the bed, or even the bedroom, unless he is on the floor......NO BED. This should solve the problem, as you have to take control, and the b/f has to help. And yes, if he doesn't resolve this IMMEDIATELY, he has obviously made his decision. Albeit a stupid one, to choose the dog over you. The dog needs to be disciplined by both of you. Use your growly voice, and order him OFF THE BED. This is YOUR territory NOT the dog's.
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• United States
10 Mar 13
He started the behavior after his wife left. Usually it isn't a problem, but when my boyfriend is home overnight, like the next two, I'm lying on the edge of the mattress. I have pointed out to him that it's a problem, and that he needs to fix it-he just laughs. I even took the dog to Petco, and he actually picked a bed that he wants to lay in; problem was that it cost $75! The boyfriend chose buying trains over the dog, and in essence, over me too! Right now, I've got to find a job. I'm half way out the door because there are many incidents like this one, and my boyfriend finds it a joke. He doesn't take me seriously, and frankly, I KNOW I deserve better than this. My boyfriend expects me to handle the dog, and when I'm teaching the dog a command, there needs to be consistency; he defeats the purpose by disrespecting me in front of the dog.
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• Canada
10 Mar 13
He is totally disrespecting you, so you need to get out of this relationship...ASAP. You DO deserve MUCH better than this. Just get a big box, and put a blanket in it for the dog....there...homemade bed. Fashion it to be similar to the one he liked at the pet store. And give him treats there and pet him in it when he goes there....positive reinforcement. NO! When he wants to jump on the bed. Best time to scold...is when you see him 'thinking about it'. Then, go over to his bed, and call him to it, and praise when he goes there...even treats if necessary. He'll get the just really quick. If not, SHUT the damn bedroom door....ZERO access to the bedroom! Just my 2 cents.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
10 Mar 13
lol. so, it's either the dog or the girl for him. i don't blame you for being scared if the dog constantly attacks you. maybe the dog doesn't like you. maybe it is jealous of you. does the dog do that to everyone or just you?
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• United States
10 Mar 13
It's not constantly, but it's happening more often. The last time, the dog attacked me, I was alone with the dog. Yoda does appear to be jealous of me, and unfortunately, my boyfriend sides with the dog each time. The dog will just hump others. He's never really been socialized; the only times he has, I usually have him on a leash when we're out. It'd be easier if my boyfriend took it seriously, but he laughs it off, like you did. Ever have a dog attack your face? It's scary as hell!
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@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Mar 13
hi as on e scorpio to another that dog could bite uu in the eye and sevferly damage you r site. tell the BNF that is not funny at all. ikt is serious. I would be really scared of a dog that has already attacked me several times.this is truly not a laughing matter at all.
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Mar 13
scorpiobabes you cannot let this go . You have got to have a stern heart to heart w ith the boyfriend some friend if he lets his dog bite you.so if he does not stop the dog at once, then you should leave cause no man is worth getting hurt by their blasted dog. Evidently the dog feel threatened by your being in bed with the two of them why does a grown man let a dog sleep with him?
• United States
10 Mar 13
I'm not letting this one go. He started allowing the dog to sleep with him after his last wife left him; she didn't allow the dog to sleep in the bed, and I prefer not to have the dog's nasty gas ruining my sleep! I'm halfway out the door as it is, as this is one of a number of issues we're having, but I can't go anywhere without a job or a car.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I can understand where your fear is coming from. I hope he would take into consideration what you have been through and that he should do something with the dog. A question, though....can't the dog be kept in a cage instead of roaming inside the house?
• United States
13 Mar 13
I don't think that Yoda was ever properly crate trained. If he begins to associate it with punishment, he'll never want to go in of his own accord ever. It's once again become my responsibility to train the dog, and while I don't mind, Yoda doesn't always respond to me.
• United States
11 Mar 13
It's normal for a lot of people to be afraid of a dog attacking you, but go look or watch some of Cesar Millan's video about dogs. It will be really helpful to you, hopefully.
• United States
17 Mar 13
I've been attacked by him before-and I really think that my boyfriend is the one who needs to be aware. This was the second time the dog bit me. Yoda needs behavior modification because he's never really been trained before-and that's beyond my scope of training skills. I've seen Cesar's shows-and have used some of his techniques with my own dogs years ago. My boyfriend has seen one or two of his shows, but that's it. He's the one that would benefit from watching him.