What would you do if you discovered something about your friend's guy?
By celleDJ406
@celleDJ406 (196)
Philippines
March 10, 2013 8:08pm CST
I just discovered that my very close friend's new boyfriend had a history of being homosexual. I tried to pry if my friend already knew about it and if maybe they have settled on this issue already. But I think she still doesn't have an idea.
I wouldn't want this to be an issue that would mar their relationship but I'm thinking that if they would require openness between each other, especially that they are already considering marriage, this has to be brought up.
The guy is also close to me, so maybe confront him instead? What do you think,, friends?
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6 responses
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Honestly.. that thoughts scares me co's all my friends and their guys are my close friends too, but I know that one thing is for sure I will definitely call the attention of the guy as if telling him I know what's he's hiding and I am not tolerating him.
I may tell my girlfriend later or probably would not when I see the guy changes for the benefit of the girl.
@celleDJ406 (196)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
It really is scary! :)
Oh! I really need to tell her right away!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Mar 13
I think this is something that needs to be talked about, either you telling her, him telling her or you talking with him about it. That is something serious and a major issue. I would definitely want to know if it was me! If someone else knew this about my husband and they didn't tell me and I found out I would not think they were a very good friend to me.
@celleDJ406 (196)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Yes, before they even get too serious about getting married, she has to know.
I mean, if the guy has overcome this stage in his life and has truly changed, he has to tell her because this is the true test of their love and sincerity and openness to each other. Knowing my friend, she'd still accept him, as long as he has truly changed and has been honest about it.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
11 Mar 13
I wouldn't know what to say exactly if I was in your shoes either. Perhaps ask him how "Jim"(previous BF) was doing and maybe casually bring it up what did your friend think about his previous relationships? And if he is offended perhaps say if marriage was being discussed such things must of been discussed already.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
12 Mar 13
oh my. You need to tell one of them. But since the guy is also close to you, I think it's better to disclose this information first to him since I think there is a reason why he kept this part of his life a secret to the woman he loves. Maybe he has changed and changing. Be a friend to him and advise him to be the one to tell her about this instead of you. Good luck and did you hire a private I? 
@paperdolls28 (222)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Because I care about them since they are my close friends, I will confront the guy first. When he confessed and I found out that my girl friend still don't know about it, then I will ask him to tell her.
@borgieboy7 (72)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
In my own opinion, I don't think this must not be an issue to their relationship after all. You stated in your thread that your close friend's boyfriend had a history of being homosexual, so I don't think this must be open to them. If you think that person really loves your friend, then, that would matter. Instead, they have to focus on their current (or even future) relationship, and not the past anymore.
