What does 'busy' mean to you?

United Kingdom
March 11, 2013 9:23am CST
Reading a discussion today, I came across this: "...competitive busy-ness - why do some people seem to thrive on making out that their lives are far busier than yours?" I wondered why myself. I suggested that people have different ideas of what it means to be busy. So, why do people like to make out that their lives are busier than everyone else's? Sometimes it would be nice to have as little to do as certain people who claim to be busy! I'm not saying I do a huge amount of stuff (part time job, distance learning university course, 2 children with various needs/hobbies) but it often seems those who do the least are the ones who complain about how much they have to do and how little time they have it. I wonder if others have noticed this. Is how busy we are simply a matter of perspective?
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@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
12 Mar 13
It is an excuse used most of the time to cover up lies or for everyone to stop bothering you.
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• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
I don't know that I would say 'most' of the time but I do agree that this is sometimes the case. I know I have told people that I am busy so that they leave me alone (although I usually am doing something, just not necessarily something which I couldn't do at another time!) I do think that there are people who lie about being busy because they don't want to do something. Although I think there are also people who have a different idea of what 'busy' is rather than necessarily lying about it. :)
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
13 Mar 13
Most people lie about being busy and that's a fact. In the end, most people does not know what the word means.
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 13
As I have said before, I think it is a matter of perspective, not necessarily not knowing what the word means but having a different opinion of it. I don't think it's fair to say that it is a fact that most people like about being busy. If it is true (or you believe it to be true) of people you know, that doesn't make it true of most people in general. As being busy can be a matter of perspective, and it would be impossible to check whether everyone who says they are busy is lying about it, it can not be said to be a fact. I hope I've explained that clearly and you know what I mean. :)
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
12 Mar 13
Busy to me is having a all filled time table that I have to use all the time I have to do things one after another without thinking about other things. I do not like this kind of life. Usually I can have two hours with my family and two hours doing my own stuff. Working hour is 8 per day, while sometimes work over time.
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• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
Having a filled timetable and no time to do other things is certainly something which people would consider busy. You are lucky that you can have that time. There are many who can't!
@gkutti (111)
12 Mar 13
as far as i am concerned busy depends on how much you like to do the job. if you hate it it looks long and dreary. where as a two hour film passes away and still does not make you feel that you were 'busy' during that time. but these days it is the biggest excuse people use. come home late because you were busy in the office, or busy with your maths assingment. you do not pick up calls because you were busy on the net. so more or less its an excusable excuse... :p what say friends?
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• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
I understand what you mean. If we are preoccupied with other tasks, it may be physically impossible to do another at the same time. In that way, we might be too busy. For me, even though I enjoy my job, I still say that I am busy if I am at work and, in that case, I think it's acceptable to say it. As I said previously, I think it also depends on our perspective. Some people may leave the office on time regardless of whether there is work to do. Others may consider that they must complete all of their tasks. I guess, whether that is a matter of being 'busy' or not could be down to how important the work is.
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Busy in a sense that they are busy doing on something, whether it be their career, in their family life, love life etc. I would like to think that some people would have the time to relax but as what you said, it comes with a perspective. Whatever the reasons why they are busy, we just need to respect their time. When I ask a person, especially a friend, do you have a time to this and that, yes they have but I just cannot turn back the time the way we were before because things do change as time goes by. We have different responsibilities to do, career to take care of, family to cherish and such. I just miss those times that we were just students when the only thing we were busy about is when we have exams and projects to pass, nothing much to worry unlike today that we do have our own families.
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• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
For me, personally, visiting MyLot is part of my time to relax. That is when my children are at school and I take a break from housework and study. You are right, we should respect people's time and we should appreciate when they give up their free time. Unfortunately, there are people who always claim to be too busy to do things yet assume that others can just give up their time for them. For example, a person who has a full time job may assume that a SAHP can just drop everything while they couldn't possibly spare a minute of their important working day!
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 13
I would actually love to be 'busy' sure I keep myself occupied going to the gym three times a week and I spend time on Mylot and help around the house and in the garden when I can, but that to me is not being busy, it's just filling up the time. People have different perspectives when it comes to busy and many will use being busy as an excuse not to do things, I guess it makes them sound important, needed and relied on more when they say they are far busier.
• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
The things you do, to another person, might be seen as being busy but I agree that they are more about filling up time. You could do something else instead so you wouldn't be 'too busy' to meet up with a friend for example. To me, being busy is having deadlines and things to do at particular times so that, when you say you are too busy to do something, you really mean that you actually have to get something completed before being able to move on to another task. Today, I am not busy. I'm studying, doing some housework and catching up with emails. Apart from the deadlines for my assignments, these are all things which I do in my own time and can choose how to organise my time. Tomorrow, however, I will have fewer things to do but I will be busy because I shall be at work and then I will have to go straight to an interview. These are things for which a time is dictated and I will not be able to have a break in between nor will I be able to stop what I am doing at my own convenience. That is the difference, for me, between being busy and just doing a few things. :)
@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
11 Mar 13
I like being busy all the time, I spend a lot of time, here online earning my money, and some time to me, this takes all day for me, I take my breaks every now and then, but when I get back to my work here online, I am busy for the rest of the day, and it doesn't bother me to stay busy, this is how I earn my money, if I put nothing into, being busy online, I won't be able to earn my money, I have my own work schedule, my own work hours, I take my breaks, when I want to, I take my vacations, when I want to take them.
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• United Kingdom
11 Mar 13
I like to be busy too but I don't count my time online as busy! Perhaps that is because I don't rely on it to earn a living!
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@owlwings (39258)
• Cambridge, England
11 Mar 13
There was once an excellent story which involved a lecturer placing a large glass jar on the desk, filling it with pebbles and asking "Is it full?", to which the students replied "Yes". He then went on to tip nearly the same amount of sand into the 'full' jar and asked the same question. Sensing a catch, the students were a little less certain of their "Yes" answer. Finally, the lecturer took a jug of water and filled the jar for a third time. People who frequently complain that they are "too busy" to take on any more and cannot fit all they have to do into one day are nearly always concentrating on only the large tasks which may take a long time to complete but, nevertheless, don't actually require one's whole attention every minute of that time. Those spare, lost minutes (during which these busy people are usually sitting back to reflect on how busy they have just been and how busy they will be again in a few minutes) will usually be filled with other, less time consuming jobs by someone who is keener to do the work than to be seen to be doing it. The people who understand best how their time can best be spent are usually those who ALWAYS have the time to do something when asked and are always the best ones to go to if you want something done well, quickly and with a smile.
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• United Kingdom
11 Mar 13
That is a good story. One thing I keep hearing/reading is this: if you want something done, ask a busy person. I suppose that means that busy people are expected to actually get the tasks done. I now that I take on too much and have to learn to say no sometimes! But I very rarely say that I am too busy for anything and I am learning how to better manage my time. I find, though, that there are a lot of people the complete opposite of that. They do practically nothing all day yet can't find the time to do anything or make a fuss about how hard their day has been because they've had to go to the shops or something! I don't know why there is competition to be the busiest person either.
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@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
11 Mar 13
Well I would like to think that we all have different definitions of what's busy and what's not. And some people think that by being busy on their own terms they feel more important and like they're doing something more important than the next person. It is not actually bad in itself since if indeed there is a competition there will be no actual loser or winner. I thi k it all boils down to what were being busy about and what comes out of it.
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• United Kingdom
11 Mar 13
I think you are right. It does often depend on what we're doing and for what purpose. I mean, there is a difference between, say, a lunch date with a friend and a business dinner meeting. They both serve a purpose of course but, to me, the date with a friend isn't 'busy' whereas, the business meeting would be. If you see what I mean. :)
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@amuzien (91)
11 Mar 13
being busy means carrying out the plans step by step for me.it makes me feel satisfied and successful.especially a big goal.
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 13
That is good. It is often helpful to achieve big goals by facing them a step at a time. I find it is rather less overwhelming. It keeps you a little bit busy for a while rather than trying to complete it all at once and getting in a mess!
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@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
12 Mar 13
do you know why I am responding to this discussion now.. it is because I am not BUSY... otherwise I won't be able to open mylot and read your discussion. Although there are some people pretending to be busy almost all the time. I know one or two hahaha.. not really busy but looks like busy.
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• Malaysia
12 Mar 13
How about if we act like busy even we are not busy? Hehe.
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• Thailand
12 Mar 13
that's my point Aka.... looking busy as if really busy... are you one of those?
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• United Kingdom
13 Mar 13
:) I know a few people like that! I have the opposite problem: I I can be busy and look like I am doing nothing! Well, it seems that way as I'm always being asked to do other things while I'm doing something else!
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Yap being busy all the time is not good... i've watched a documentary about being busy... Its a country were everyone is busy, just for survival they have to be busy everyday and if possible even at night time... And if they want to have some more they have to have a two or more jobs... that's how busy they are... that's the problem with those modern countries, unlike the third world countries its more simpler to live on. Being busy sometimes will not appreciate how really life is. Were you relax, enjoy the God given nature, paying and getting together with families and friends. So find time not to be busy always... =)Give time...
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• United Kingdom
12 Mar 13
It can be a bad thing to be busy all the time. Although I think some people like to be! I don't think that some people who have two or more jobs are necessarily any more busy than other people. Again, I think it depends on perspective.
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Yes i believe on your word "perspective"... cause you're the one managing your time... and that depends on what life you wanted... =)to become busy that you may have more or less...
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
12 Mar 13
Busy means to me not having enough time to cook your own food, not having enough time to relax, and not having enough time to get as much sleep as you would like. I work two jobs that are both really close to full time when we are getting business and it keeps me pretty busy. I've also worked about sixty hours a week while going to college full time as well. Even with doing all of that though I still found time to relax and I didn't consider myself too busy to enjoy life or to make excuses for why I didn't get things done. I don't know why some people try to make it seem like they are doing more with their lives than others either. It's probably just a social status kind of thing or people like to seem like they are doing more than others.
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• United Kingdom
13 Mar 13
You seem busy to me! I think some people may want to seem like they are busy or popular. Maybe they don't want anyone to think that they actually sit around doing nothing all day so pretend to be busy! I must admit, I do feel like telling people what I'm doing if they say they're busy when they're not! But I don't make a point of telling people how busy I am (well, except with one or two people who don't seem to require that you give detailed reasons why you can't do something!)
@AkamaruKei (5220)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 13
I try to make myself busy but i still cannot. So i come here to spend a lot of my time. I'm to bored if i dont know what to do. That mean i am not a busy person right?
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@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
lot of this to do but some people telling their are busy but not for real as they only making that world as an excuse
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@gkutti (111)
12 Mar 13
as far as i am concerned it depends on how much you like the work. like you watch a movie for two hours and still do not feel stressed or busy. but you work busily for one whole hour. funny right? but to me busy is the word mostly used as a excuse for not coming home or for not picking up calls, the most excusable excuse.what say friends?
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• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Mar 13
I don't claim to be busier than I am but I do think it is a perspective. Some people say they are broke when they have $1,000 in their pockets, meanwhile to me being broke is having $1 in my pocket. Being busy is the same way. We all have our own thoughts of what busy is. I know I am not the busiest person in the world. I do have my fair share of things to do though... I have 3 kids-2 of which are home schooled, I have a Childcare Business, 2 dogs, house to take care of, my husband, and I am starting a wedding business as well. I am busy but not the busiest person out there. I know this...
@cherigucchi (4778)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Being busy in the real sense of the word is having no time to do the luxuries in life because your both hands and feet are tied up to some work loads that you even missed out doing your personal thing like eating, taking a nap or even short trips to the bath room. Another word for busy means that even if you are not doing anything, you bang the word to other people because you don't want to be disturbed in whatever you are doing like sleeping, blogging, participating in myLot and other websites...that's really very busy!!