Have you ever considered marrying a foreigner ??

@Mintlin (326)
China
March 13, 2013 2:28am CST
Hello there.When i was young,i have a dream that i can date and marry a foreigner ,I have several guy foreigner friends ,we get along well but we never fall into a relationship (i do not know why ). Finally,i met my husband,he is not a foreigner,i have a happy life with him. But to be honest, still ,i feel a little regret all the time (lol). I was wondering if i marry a foreigner,my life should be completely different,but of course,there are both advantages and disadvantages happens,such as language,habits and customs difference,culture and values and so on. how do you see ? have you ever considered marrying a foreigner and experience that kind of life ?
9 responses
• India
14 Mar 13
My husband is a foreigner as I had that dream to marry foreings, but now whenever I see my cousins and people who married in their country and have the same culture and understanding, I feel so alone and understand my mistake, I wish to marry with people of my same language and country, I got so many lessons from this marriage. so you are lucky that your husband is not a foreigner.
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@Mintlin (326)
• China
15 Mar 13
I'm sorry to hear this. yes,you are right,there is a big distance between dream and reality, things always has pro and con,do not be sad and regret,try to make friends more and contact your home family,friends often,you will fell warm,try to enjoy your life.
@cttolledo (4106)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Well, that's a bit unfair with your husband. So i think you should forget your regrets about marrying a foriegner and embrace what you have now...Be thankful that you have a happy life with your husband , that happiness is incomparable with wealth or fame. And take note that not all women with foriegner husband are happy. I never thought of marrying a foriegner. I don't know why... I'm thinking of marrying someday but whoever it is maybe only god knows.. It doesn't matter if he is a foreigner or not as long as we love each other I think that would enough.
@Mintlin (326)
• China
14 Mar 13
I love my husband so much ^^actually i told him this story when we first met,but after all,we all know it's just a dream,let's be practical,that's say now,if i have a chance to be closed to foreigner,i'm sure i will still choose my husband.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
I've had a foreigner boyfriend before but it didn't work. Cultures and traditions can be quite a hindrance in the relationship. Right now, I prefer to love and marry a guy of my same customs and culture.
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@Mintlin (326)
• China
14 Mar 13
hmmm.. i think so,if i had a relationship with foreigner before, maybe i will think the same as you,prefering the local partner
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
i think i have never considered marrying a foreigner. I have never been close to one - at least not like the kind of relationships i have with my friends right now. I know some but i never really have come to know someone to the extent of marrying them ( that i imagined to be really hard since you have to get to know them, and that they are way too different from me because of difference in culture, religions and beliefs.
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@Mintlin (326)
• China
14 Mar 13
yes,surroundings is important,if we don't have such kind of connection with foreigner,it's difficult to fall into the relationship.It's a challenge process to have foreigner as a mate
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 13
When I was young, I always imagine my prince charming is from the fairy tale. Therefore, he definitely a foreigner as most prince charming are from the Europe ... The castles are brilliant backdrop for my grand wedding! So, when I grow up there are no opportunity to meet one, so definitely no chance of marrying one too. I am married to a Malaysian Chinese, I settled for being loved. So far so good ... but lately happiness seems to slip away silently... Life could be different if I married a foreigner but will it be good or not is another story.
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@Mintlin (326)
• China
13 Mar 13
wow,such a romantic story.good marriage takes a lot of works not to mention transnational marriage.never give up and pay more attention to it,i'm sure you will have a richful and nice life.
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
yes.... sometimes I also dreamed of marrying a foreigner... I had a german boyfriend before but because of our differences we broke up... now that im married I don't regret it. because our relationship is less complicated because we talk the same language grew up in the same culture. so I guess you shouldn't regret your marriage with your husband... because God intended, him to be your husband.
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@Mintlin (326)
• China
13 Mar 13
yes,my husband is indeed a good man,I'm happy to live with him. you have a point there,language and culture are two big challenge for the transnational relationship.meanwhile,it's also the interesting part if we can adopt and learn from each other.
@Raine38 (9113)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I am married to one, and I honestly never even in my dreams thought about marrying a foreigner. W met, became friends, and fell in love. And the rest is history. I never really had any preferences as to who I will end up marrying but I do have some standards at the back of my head, like just some sort of guide for me.
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@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
13 Mar 13
I didn't actually contemplate getting married to a foreigner... but I think I would, if I fell in love with one... but only is there weren't too many cultural differences between us, so I wouldn't feel vulnerable if he took me to his home country. But now I'm in love with one of my fellow Hungarians, so it's not a topic that I now think about a lot.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I am curious about that too, though I am not very eager about the idea. I don't make different nationality a criteria for a future husband. I just consider what kind of person he is, how he treats me, if he really loves me, regardless of his ethnicity. Sure life would be very different and interesting if we married a foreigner. But that's not good enough reason to marry them.