How to teach my son to share?

Philippines
March 13, 2013 2:54am CST
My son is almost 1 year and 5 months now and lately I noticed that he is starting to become possessive. He doesn't like it when kids come over and touch his toys but when no kids are around, he doesn't even bother touching them. Whenever a kid touches his toy, he strikes and grabs his/her clothes and I always stop him and tell him to share BUT how do you make a 1 year old understand that? I always say share and show him examples. He does share with me and his dad, he offers us anything he eats. Last month, some kids went here to play and he doesn't even care while they borrow his toys and everything. All of a sudden, he acts like this. I'm worried, I don't want him hurting other kids. Any insights? Is it a passing trait? Will he get over it on his own? Thanks :)
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
The only way for hom toearn how to share is to be around kids. He will never learn how to let people use his toys if he is mostly playing by himself. Expose him more with his cozsins or children of your friends.
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
our place is quite far from the city and he don't get to see his cousins that much. He don't play with other kids often too, im also thinking that's one factor. so im planning to enrol him in a play group or something.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
That would surely help a lot. And you will just be amazed at what else could this experience do for him. I hope he'll enjoy it.
@ARIES1973 (9539)
• Legaspi, Philippines
14 Mar 13
At that young age, you son doesn't know what he is doing yet. It is also a bit early to send him to school. The only way of learning is through example. Maybe you can invite his friends more often so he will have something to play with and yes associating with other can really help him develop his personality. Have a great day!
• India
14 Mar 13
Well its depends on too many thing that how a child or even a adult react to a specific task. For one its depends on situation the kid is in for second if a kid is distracted or disturbed because of something or someone his/her behaviour get changed very quickly for three it also depends on some harmones in the body, specially in kids sometimes harmones get unstable and cause various changes in behaviour. A small change in harmones can cause big diffrence in their behaviour so its a very complicated question. U have to find it all to find the problem of your kid and then how to fix it.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
your son is still young to know what is right and wrong.. but at that age you can teach him slowly.. and don't worry too much because he is in the stage of discovering things and learning about himself.. there are lots of going with him so be patient to him.. there are days that he acts fine then there were days that you cant understand his temper.. he will get over it as soon as he comes to an age were he can understands..
@srisahara (4147)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
Yes, it is so hard make 1 year old child to learn about sharing. But, if I learn what you say about your child's behavior with his family that so different than with his friend, i can conclude that your son just comfort and believe with the people that close with him like you and hid dad, and does not want share to other kids or people out of his family. It is normal, 1 year old child loves people in around him and just believe them, because he can recognize that his family understand him and love him, in the other hand he cannot believe with other people that he can make sure that they love him. Don't worry it is normal, as he get older he will understands about sharing...
• Quezon, Philippines
14 Mar 13
some kids have different attitude, its normal for being possesive. because his only young to understand the good and bad things not to do. Maybe you can teach him, and it can help if you expose him to other kids.
13 Mar 13
You could not share stuff with him until he shares stuff with you back or you could take away his toys and tell him that if he doesn't share he doesn't get his toys back.
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Try to experiment... experiment is one way of discovering... try to go to the other kids house and let your kid experience as well... and lets just hope for changes hehehehe =)
• India
13 Mar 13
No worries. When my daughter ws 2 year old she used to share her toys and whatever she eats with me and her dad but not with other kids. She would share only when i tell her. When she was 2n half i sent her to nursery this brought many changes in her behaviour. Now she is 3 n half and enjoys playing with other kids. So your kid will also change when he grows up.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
13 Mar 13
You can send him in a play school or nursery if possible, another way is more interaction with other kids, you can take him to neighbors or relative's home who have kids of his age group, to parks etc. where he can play with other kids, also try to invite kids of his age group to your home, he will learn slowly. The more he will interact with other kids more he will learn..
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
13 Mar 13
I'm not sure about the possibilities in your country, but you could give him in to daycare or nursery (I don't mean the daycare stuff in Ikea, but the ones which are official, government-approved). They usually have professionally traiuned pedagogues and teachers there to take care about these kinds of behaviour, because it's not that rare...
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
13 Mar 13
it is just a time,you just show him real life hero and exemplary person and from whom he can learn a lot within short frame of time
13 Mar 13
at this time he is little small children why are you teach you your children at this time. minimum when he is five year old than you teach them. right now he can do any thing he is a childhood of them. he having a right to make enjoyable.
@mommaj (22861)
• United States
13 Mar 13
This is a passing stage, but unfortunately you do have to help it along. Continue to correct him and show him how to share while you are correcting him. When he acts out towards the other child tell him no, physically stop him obviously, tell him to be nice and help him hand the other child the toy. If it is a prize possession do not let him have the toy where other children can play with it. It may continue into the toddler years and be an "on and off" again thing so watch him so you can help teach him. The more you do that the quicker he will learn it is not behavior mommy likes and he will stop.
• India
13 Mar 13
Some kids are in this sort. They don't allow other persons apart from their family to use their things. I think your son is in this sort, so only he behave in this way. Don't worry he will change after grown up. Still he is in childhood days and don't know what is good and bad, so don't force him.
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Kids are growing up and starting to act in bad or good but they do not even know what they are doing since they are too young like that 1 to up year old.You can teach them ,if you know that the kids acting is not good or self will and do his/her own you can teach what is good.You will learn how to teach by the action of a child.