"Stuff" does not define who you are.

United States
March 13, 2013 11:31am CST
This morning I did my food shopping and there was a long line at the checkout. I was behind this lady who had taken her elderly mother food shopping. The lady asked her mother where she got her earrings and she touched them with her hand. Her mother answered "I bought them on sale at Target". The lady instantly pulled her hand away and very loudly says "EW, Mom how could you show your face in public wearing jewelry from Target?". Her mother didnt even answer and she looked very embarrassed.Everyone was giving this lady dirty looks and shaking their heads. I felt so sorry for the elderly woman. The whole time after that the lady kept going "ugh" over and over. I wanted to smack her. She was obviously one of those people who defines who they are by how much they spend of material things, meanwhile, their personalities are severly lacking. I then started thinking of the people in my life who are not nice people by any means but think they are a big deal just because they drive a Lexus, BMW, Mercedes, or shop at Neiman Marcus or the most expensive places. Everybody likes nice things but who you are on the inside means so much more than what designer label is on your handbag. I wonder why the people who can afford the most expensive of everything are usually so mean and nasty...do they really believe that designer everything makes them better than the rest of humanity? If they want to spend their money in that way, more power to them but don't treat other people like they are nobodies, especially your mother.
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13 responses
13 Mar 13
Ugh, I HATE people like this! Having alot of money or a fancy house or car does NOT make you a better human being. I always think, everybody has a story and you don't know what people are going through on the inside, so how can you judge them? My mother-in-laws husband and his children are this way, and I can't stand it. They think that because they have alot of money and drive fancy cars that makes them a terrific human being, when in all reality, they are a bunch of close-minded, stuck-up jerks who think the only thing that matters in life is status. I wish people would realize there is so much more to life than money and objects. They don't know how to take pleasure in the normal every day things, and really, that makes THEM sad and pathetic, not us! You have to be a pretty pathetic person to honestly think that material things make you better than people with less. They wouldn't know what TRUE happiness was if it smacked them in the face. I guess all we can do is laugh at them because while they think THEY have a good life, WE are the definition of a GREAT life that is full of meaning, family, and friends, not useless items. They'll realize the error of their ways when they end up all alone with nothing but their "things."
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• United States
13 Mar 13
Oh how I love your comment! You are ssoo right about what you said.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
Hi there ! So sad for this people who makes material things their god. The measure of success is not through the material things that we have but how we turned out to be . So sorry for this lady who got no respect to her mother , she is still nothing though she rides in her BMW. A rich person is not about having all the gold in this world but it is about having an overflowing beautiful heart and soul. We will be leaving all the material things but the values we show and left to our family , fellowman will lived forever in their hearts.
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@Arieles (2474)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Your character defines you. I don't wear a lot of jewelry myself, not that I don't like jewlry, I just don't feel comfortable with it on. I don't care where my jewlry comes from Target, Walmart, kmart or even the dollar store. If I think something is pretty, I will wear it no matter where it comes from. The kids and I were discussing something similar to this earlier today as we were listening to a Tony Robbins seminar (start them young..lol) and I was trying to impress upon them the importance of having a positive image of themselves and seeing themselves as they wish to be in their careers when they get older. We are not defined by material objects, but how we see ourselves as a person, a mentor, a parent, a sibling, a friend, etc..Material stuff comes and goes but how you feel about yourself (image) will last a lifetime, so you better make it a good one.
• United States
13 Mar 13
Me? I wear a jewelry, and really cheap because I made them. And just like you, I dont care where my jewelry comes from. As long as I love it, I will wear it. I am not a branded girl. I dont know why but its just me. Even if I wear cheap clothes, it still looks good on me and my friends love it.
• Pamplona, Spain
15 Mar 13
Hello ambull, Poor Mother she must have thought earth swallow me up I could never have done that to my Mother or any other person. Even if she did buy from there what on earth is the difference? She bought what she wanted to buy and it makes her feel happy to wear them as well so the Daughter should mind her own business at least in public anyway. I love flashy cars and luxury things but I cannot buy them and even if I did have the money I probably would buy the most ordinary things which I really like. Talking her own Mom down in public is not the done thing for anyone to do. I feel for the poor woman bless her I guess she has to rely on her daughter to be able to go food shopping or something like that.xxx
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
What a daughter she is how come she talk like that to her mother, in public! How silly! Even when I have money to buy something expensive I never require myslef to always shopping in expensive shop, branded store, etc. I am looking for the price, quality, and if it fits me or not. I dont care if it's something in flea market or from garage sale, if I like it I will buy it if I have the money. So stupid if people think that the more money they spent for something or where they buy it is a big issue for their existance in the world.
@cvodrey (227)
• United States
14 Mar 13
There is nothing wrong with Target earrings. I'm wondering if those people in line were shaking their heads because of what the daughter had said. That is just wrong for her to react that way. People like that make me angry a little also. Things do not define us. How we treat people, and how we make them feel about themselves, that is what defines us. Things are just things. Brand names? Who cares? Those who do, don't matter because their priorities are wrong. We can't live our lives trying to present ourselves in a certain way to the rest of the world; and if we think our things are what make us, we must not think much of what we are intrinsically as living beings. We are not born adorned with jewelry and brand named clothing. We are born as we are, and we should be loved that way. It doesn't matter what we wear.
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
The Bible in 1 Timothy 6:10 says, "for the LOVE OF MONEY is the root of all kinds of evil". So anyone who loves money, vanity, so much, is really blinded by it and is able to do all kinds of evil. Let us pity them, the Lord will bring them on their right places eventually.
• China
14 Mar 13
I totally agree with u. In my country, there becomes more and more incidents that a guy (both female and male)drived a luxurious car and hit somebody with very arrogant attitude, not feeling sorry for this horrible things they've done. And the aftermath is they use their dirty money to make the public silent. I think those kinda person is really really a slave of money, without money, they are nothing. I admit our female sometimes like vanity, but I really consider beauty inside most important. I hate people with only money so much. I think they r too pathetic.
@niki5510 (61)
• Bulgaria
13 Mar 13
In my country there is a proverb `People meet you by your clothes and part with you by your mind`.If your are smart and self confident,if you know your worth nobody can hurt you and treat you as nobody.labels can`t hide stupidity!
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
13 Mar 13
Oh how much I hate these people. Don't get me wrong, I like luxury as much as the other person, I like my high.-end stuff every once in a while... but looking down on people, your own mother, just because they wear cheaper (I mean, price-wise) stuff? That's trashy... not that piece of jewelry from Target. I would have told her to shut up and have manners. Also, if the jewelry or lipstick or jacket or I don't know what looks nice. no one (maybe except for the snobs) would be able to tell that it's from Target, not Marks&Spencer or any higher-end department store brands. I hate brand wh.res with a passion. I do like my Estée Lauder eye shadows and OPI nail polishes, but I am a conscious customer, and I am going to buy cheaper stuff if I like them... if I choose them with good taste, I'm going to look a thousand times better than that big-headed lady who is so full of herself.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I so hate people like her. I know some people, even have friends, who are really well off and can afford, but we all like to shop in Target, frequent thrift shops and go on sales. Oh sure, we can buy those expensive items but that doesn't make us any better than the next person. It's just stuff, we wouldn't be able to take it with us to our graves, and it definitely doesn't define who we are. I pity her mom, she doesn't deserve a daughter like her.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Mar 13
That is terrible that she treated her mother that way, especially in public. That lady sounds like an absolute waste! Not all people with money act this way but some do and I think it is silly to think they are more special or important just because they have more money than other people. I do know people in my own life who act this way as well. I don't like being around them too much because they do act like they are better than me. I think what is on the inside is much more important than the money we have or how much stuff we have. You know, it really doesn't matter what we have on Earth. When we die, none of it can go with us! I would rather focus on the important things in life like family and love.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I completely agree with what you are saying. I feel so bad for the mother who was embarrassed about where her mother got the earrings. It is ridiculous that people act that way. And unfortunately a lot of people do think they are better than others because they have the name brand everything. I'm sure the daughter the earrings where pretty and it if they had come from an expensive store she probably would have said that. It would be amazing at how people like that would act if jewelry like that just had the expensive name brand on it they more than likely wouldn't even know the difference. It is so disrespectful that others look down on people for how they use their own money. My in laws tend to make comments about name brand products concerning my daughter and that if they could they would buy her all types of name brand things. However I feel their are just as nice outfits at walmart as their is at abercrombie and old navy. And children grow to fast as it is too be spending $100 plus dollars on an outfit that they won't be able to wear next year.