who do you talk to?

United States
March 13, 2013 6:50pm CST
that is a general question i guess so to be more specific...everyone has that 1 special person they choose to talk to about anything. it might be a friend, a close relative, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, social media (facebook/twitter), a local site like this, chatroom even, ect. ect. the list can go on forever on who people talk to. when i was in school i would talk to a sergant of mine. i was in JROTC and he helped me overcome the high school girl drama. he taught me a lot and he guided me and i always knew his door was open no matter how small or even stupid problem it was. then i had one friend i turned to every time i needed a shoulder. we were like sisters. now it is just my husband and a neighbor across the street. people change and the people we are close to change. i am just curious as to who it is that you pick to talk to about anything? is there reasons why you chose that person?
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13 responses
• India
8 Apr 13
before marriage I used to talk to my mother and my close friend that I have from my childhood, but now , nobody except God, so I just pray and share my heart with him only .
• United States
8 Apr 13
i am sorry that you only have god to talk to because everyone needs someone to talk to face to face but i am glad that you have god and that you put your trust in him. there is nothing wrong with that and i hope that makes you feel better when you do :)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 13
The person I really can talk about anything is my mother. Why I choose my mother? Simply because she can guide me and the person that I know wouldn't tell my secret to anyone. I have a bad experience when I talk about my secret to the person I consider my best friend, but then she told someone about it. We had a fight about that. Even if she apologized to me and I have forgiven her but, our relationship can't become same like before...
• United States
8 Apr 13
that is really good that you are able to talk to your mother. it is great that you have that connection with you mother. i have had many experiances also where i told someone something in complete silence and they told. yes it puts a very big damper on the relationship friends would have after that. i am glad that you have your mother to talk to you and you know all your secrets will be safe :)
@cttolledo (4106)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
This time I don't have any but my boyfriend since i am living away from my family and my friends are working at the other town.
• United States
16 Mar 13
it is good that you atleast have your boyfriend. everyone needs someone :) do you get to talk to your family and friends at all atleast?
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
Hi ! I have experienced that some people really are so beautiful to talk with , you don't plan it , when you see each other , you talk anything under the sun .You shared opinions , argued , approved and you laugh out hard. There are really people whom we jive and we feel so comfortable with their presence such as my dear friend. There are also some people that we never wish to talk with them though nothing they have done to us , just one look at them then our blood boils .Not our intention to get mad but seeing their face already breaks our mood. It's bad but sometimes we really experienced this.
• United States
16 Mar 13
you never plan when you meet someone that they will be th closest person you have or that you will tell all our secrets to. but it is always nice when that does happen. it is always good when you have someone you can talk to. and i do underatand what you mean there. there are a few people out thre that you can even look at them from a distance or from the firs words the say to you that there is something about them you just dont like. sometimes even you yourself do not know why you do not like them t all or what it is about them ut you cant help that feeling we areall human...
• United States
14 Mar 13
I have all of you here on my lot and I also have adrain who listens like crazy and then I have a few good friends..
• United States
16 Mar 13
mylot is a great place with people who are always willing to listen :) it is always good to have some friends you trust enough like that and specially adrian :) my husband is a great listener and i always know he will listen if i need to talk about something :)
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
14 Mar 13
it all depends on the person whom you trust so much and also about the satisfying factor in life and whom you feel comfortable with for sure
• United States
16 Mar 13
yes that is exactly right!!! no one is going to want to tell everything to someone they can not trust! i choose that as my husband my neighbor and sometimes my grandma and 1 friend i talk to online. other than that i do not trust others enough. how about you who do you choose to trust the most....family, friends....?
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
When regarding to work i usually talk anything to my boss, but regarding things like the happenings in my daily life, my love life, my secrets included my dark secrets, i talk to my aunt, because she is the only one who can understand me about my whole being, and aside from that she a good adviser and always support me on good and bad times, i treat her as my mother and she treats my like her son, she treats me like that because maybe she don't have a son, she bear only one child and that child is a girl. i so lucky with her around me.
• United States
16 Mar 13
i do not work right now but when i was working i would tell most things to my boss but i uually had atleast 1 co-worker that i got pretty close with and would tell a lot of things to but still not everything. it is great that you are that close to your aunt. it is always nice when you hae a family member that you can tlalk to and get advice from. i tell a lot to my grandma and she does the same for me i am lucky to hve her in my life. i may not tell her everything but i always know who to turn to if i need somone to talk to.
@ayeeesha (1134)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
It's usually my husband whom I talk to about anything. I always share everything to him -- my thoughts, how my day went, new experiences, things I want to try on. I'm more comfortable talking to him because he understands me and doesn't judge me, although there are times when he contradicts me or challenges my opinion. But we don't really fight about it. But when I'm having problems with him and I just want to let it out, I always talk to my best girlfriend. She just listens and gives me advice when I ask for one. I don't believe in ranting in public because it won't solve anything. Plus, I don't want other people buzzing around, meddling with out issues.
• United States
16 Mar 13
i can understand and relate to that because i am more comfortable around my husband than i am around anyone else. my husband may disagree with what i say and he may have to put his comments in but he does always listen to me and he is always there. if me and my husband are having problems i talk to my neighbor but still i dont always do that. i do have a friend on facebook ican tell anything to buti dont do that much anymore either. i talk some but mostly keep it to myself. i see so mny people put thing on facebook that really shouldnt be there bout their relationships...to me that is asking for things to be started and sometimes it makes the sitation worse...not something i would do myself!
@cherigucchi (4354)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
I talk to a lot of people I love to talk. I feel like I have a lot of things and story to tell. But when it comes to some personal matters, I choose people I talk to. Even if they are my friends or family, I look for a perfect timing before I open up. I am quite a secretive person when it comes to opening up my feelings towards someone.I wanna make sure that I would be listened before I start revealing my thoughts.
• United States
14 Mar 13
i love to talk also. i agree with you...i may not be that old but i do have stories to tell and sometimes my stories really help people or aleast give them a new way to look at things so i try to pass them along as i can. a good reason why i love mylot so much i get to learn new things, meet new people, give advice, and talk lol. i am a very private person to and itll take me a while before i just open my heart to people. i have trust issues so it makes it harder but i do a have my husband and 1 really good friend i tel everthing to. i have a few other friends that i might tell somethings to but not the real important things...it is always nice to have someone to listen to so i try to listen to others as much as i can but your right no point in lettng your feelings show if your just going to be ignored.
• Germany
14 Mar 13
If you see the best attitude in him and good character with genie advise.
• United States
14 Mar 13
sometimes that is really really hard to find tho.... and sometimes you realize that the people you thought were like that and were your friends really were not...i had to learn that the hard way.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Mar 13
I talk mostly to my husband. If it is something that I have not been able to get through to him about then I come here and talk about it. =) I am glad I have here when I need it! There are tons of people here that I can talk to.
• United States
14 Mar 13
i talk to my huband a lot of the times to. if it something about him (which is barely ever) then of couse i find someone esle to talk to. i agree i use mylot the same way to. it is nice that when you have no one around you to talk to that you can come here and there are plenty f people to talk to and help you thro things and give you advice definately one of the great things about this site!!
@wolfie34 (26816)
• United Kingdom
14 Mar 13
In all honesty, the only two people that I have that I can talk to and confide in is my mother, although we have to make sure that father isn't around, as we don't want him to hear what we are talking about. I feel I can be honest with my mum and tell her things. Then there is my therapist, who I see on a weekly basis, who probably knows me far better than I know myself, I have long term counseling, and have been seeing her since 2009, although I have been in and out of therapy since 2002. She has had a positive influence on my life and there's nothing I cannot talk to her about.
• United States
14 Mar 13
it is great that you and your mom are that close. many parents and children are not tht close! it is also good that you can tell you theropist anything. even better they are a good influence in your life and they can guide you thro your life. nothing wrong with a theropist they can be very helpful at times!
@cvodrey (227)
• United States
14 Mar 13
There are actually several people that I tell everything to. They are people closest to me, have nothing to gain from me, and don't judge. I feel lucky to have them.
• United States
14 Mar 13
you are very lucky to have them!! the people closest to you are the ones you can usually trust the most! that is the best people to talk to are the ones who will never judge you