Family problems... What to do? Mom greedy, Dad don't call, brother don't care...

United States
March 14, 2013 12:47am CST
So i just moved out almost 9 months ago for the first time. From my parents house that is. And at first my stepmom, Well mom if you will, would call all the time to check up on me. And she would always make sure i was doing the right thing... You know parent stuff. Well in the past few months she has been acting more and more uh rude if you will. well I'll start from the beginning... Almost two months ago she asked me to watch my parents house... Well my dad did. I said yes. And then after i did. She asked me for more and more things from me. Well last month my grandfather passed away. Her fatehr. And she got upset which is fine. And she got upset when i couldn't make it to see him before he passed on. Well after a while of him passing. Supposedly she's about to get forclosed and blames me for not paying my phone bill to them... They pay for my phone sorta. I am under their contract with att. And I have been trying to pay rent instead of that. Well somewhere along the lines of calling and seeing how i am it's gone to just say," hey have you got your income tax yet? We really need the money." and stuff like that. SO i think to myself and say what happen to hi how are you. Or how whats up. No it's where's my money. Oh and by the way your brother goes into surgery tomorrow. Is that greedy, rude Or what? I mean I understand I need to pay for my phone. But the forclosure guilt trip thing i know has to been a while of not paying. And she likes to spend money where no money is... I don't know... I just feel like she has lost it. And on top of that my dad don't call my brother don't call noone in my family calls me and checks up anymore... I mean I don't either so i understand that but in order to get some you have to give some... I used to always do stuff for my entire family and now none of them have the guts just to check in on me... Sorry for ranting.. But what should I do? I mean my stepmom just asks for money, dad doesn't call unless it's been a while, and brother just don't care....
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
Family issues. I understand she is your stepmom but still she is your mom (especially is she took care of you since you were young) Maybe you can talk this matter with her- by heart. We cannot avoid family issues no matter how close we are to each other (that happens beyond control) Hope everything will be settled soon
• United States
14 Mar 13
Yeah family is family. Thicker than blood. LOL but I have tried talking to her. She just counters it with I used to and you always say your too busy... I mean I work two jobs... Yeah ones the national gaurd so I only go once a month to drills and two weeks out of the summer but still. I usually work doubles at my other job and i do other things to. I have alot to do and she just thinks I don't do anything.... Wow sorry i just reread that and realized I sound like a million other people.. I'm sorry but i will try one more time. Hopefully she gets it this time. That its a two way street and not just me do all the work.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
No sorry then That's fine :) At least you were able to vent out your feelings (and that helps a lot)
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@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
14 Mar 13
Hi Pika I´m so sad to read about all this. I had to cope with my family issues just with silent braveness. I can´t talk too much, I just do what has to be done, I ask God my beloved understand me. You have to be strong and wise. Good luck! Blessings Pikapals... dainy
• United States
14 Mar 13
Thank You for the blessings. I think that she will come around to it eventually. She just has a hard time not being in control of something or someone. Sounds crazy right? But she was the sole reason i moved out. I wanted to work with her. but everytime i tried she pushed away or pushed me into a "corner" persay. But as for my dad he has always been distant with me ever since i was little. And my brother we fight all the time. except for rare occassions of not seeing each other. I know he will always be there for me though. Its my stepmom who i worry won't see what she's doing til last minute.
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