Me and my one of the BFF

India
March 14, 2013 3:06pm CST
hi friends. i will tell you about my friend gaurav who is one of my best friend forever.we became friends in november 2012 and yeah bonding between us was so strong that we became best friends within 1 month. we were getting more close to each other day by day in sharing our secrets and telling. i dont mean getting close in some other way. i am committed to another boy and i love him. i love gaurav as a friend. So today here started a discussion between both of us,,which was started by him that i should not take misunderstood him that he flirts with me or anything like that. i told him that i know this we are BFF and i know you will not flirt or try upon me. so this discussion grew but in bad way. So i just asked him to take swear of his mother that he dont take me more than as a friend. and if ever in future he will feel that there is some unusual feelings for me,then he will tell me immediately.i wanted this so that he does not get too attached to me or attracted towards me. because we know its natural and also he is single. but as soon as i asked him to do so. he sweared.but after that he stopped talking to me. he said that i had hurted him. i doubted his friendship. But i did nt doubted his friendship, i just wanted to make it clear. and now he is not talking to me :( m very upset. was i wrong? what should i say to him? cant we both be BFF again? :( plz friends suggest me..
5 responses
• India
15 Mar 13
Sad to hear about your worries. I wonder why your friend is not talking with you. If he is having only friendship with you and give importance to it, surely he will continue your friendship. Hope you both have a common friend use your commöm friend as an intermediate to you and solve your problem.
• India
15 Mar 13
Yeah thanx.. i am trying the same.. :)
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• Philippines
15 Mar 13
He must have taken it differently. I think that he sold have thought about it a bit more closer coz your intention was to make the relationship stronger and you were just being honest about all the possibilities that the both of you needs to avoid. Just give him time alone. Then talk to him after a week or so and try convincing him that you were not in doubt of his friendship and that you were just talking about things that you would like him to know.
• India
15 Mar 13
ohk thanx.. i think he will understand me soon. and i will surely tell him this. thank you so much.
• Indonesia
15 Mar 13
There are 2 possibility: 1. he has feeling for you more than a friend and when you made him to swear he feels like he has no chance at all because you close your heart for him. You are not wrong at all because you have right to choose whom you love more than a friend. And after you made him swear of his mother he back home and have a thought that he should make a distance with you. 2. He has no feeling but friendship with you. But may be it's the way you made him swear of her mother made him feel like you don't trust him as much as he trust you. May be it hurts him that you need a swear of her mother to make you believe that all he has for you is true friendship. To make everything clear, you should talk to him and don't wait till he start talk to you. If he does not want talk or ignoring you, let him be like that till he is ready to talk to you again or get lost from your life.
• India
15 Mar 13
yeah thank u so much. i hope the 2nd possibility is the case. and i have made him sweared that in future if he ever feel something like that then he will tell me. i am trying to talk to him. i hope soon everything gets fine. have a nice time.
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Why are you so bothered that he is not talking to you anymore? Maybe you have a thing for him too.
• India
15 Mar 13
i am bothered because he is one of my best friend i love friends and thats the thing that i am hurt when he is not talking to me.i just wanted to know was i wrong to ask him like that? heart gets hurt whenever someone close to it walks away from ur life.
• Canada
14 Mar 13
The boy obviously liked you more than just a friend. He may have plotted on sweeping you up off your feet and away fro the man that you are with, or just simply innocently fell for you. It happens all the time girl. If he's stopped all communication by now, then he was probably only after just one thing whether caring or not that you had a bf. Be careful. However I think it's safe to assume he;'s hurting only because he had hopes in getting together with you despite knowing that you were taken, and now that you let him know how you felt, he fled. Move on.