My aunt saw my grandpa bid goodbye in her dream
March 14, 2013 9:32pm CST
3 days ago, I posted about the stroke accident that happened to my grandfather. During that time, we were still hopeful that he can recover because he is still responding properly, and is awake for some time. Though he has not opened his eyes since he was admitted. But lately, he is almost always asleep. But he is not in comatose... And we found out that half of his body is now paralyzed. The doctor said that because of his status and the less development she is seeing now, our grandfather has less chances for recovery. And we got more worried because my aunt dreamed about our grandpa and she was told that he wants to leave because he is already very tired. And in her dream, he also saw our grand uncle. this grand uncle of ours is the closest of our grandpa. He is his business partner and the only brother he is with here in the Philippines. Because the rest of their family is in China. He died 4 years ago. In my aunt's dream, she saw him standing in our old business buidling. When she asked him, he answered "I am waiting for your father. I just came back here to fetch him" We really cried when she shared her dream. It was also my aunt who dreamed about my grandma when she died 6 years ago. I know we need to accept the fate of our grandfather. But it's just too sad to do it. He is a very good man and we are really not yet ready to lose him. We still have this hope, so we are still trying our best to revive him. But at the back of my mind, I know we also need to let go so he can already be out of pain...
15 Mar 13
I also had an experience that kind of dream. But in my dream my grandfather is waving goodbye to us and his other siblings who already passed away is there and they are waving goodbye with a smile. Then, when I woke up the next morning, they called us that our grandfather passed away. It was a bit scary experience for me to be honest.
15 Mar 13
I can not say that dream always reflect what will happen to us, but sometimes it does. When my grandma was sick, my aunty dream almost same like what your aunty's dream. My grandpa who had passed away come to my aunty's dream and he said that he wants to take his wife (my grandma) with him because he feels lonely. Well few days later my grandma passed away.
15 Mar 13
I also really do not rely that because of that dream, we should expect that in the coming days my grandpa will really be leaving us. But sometimes, there are unexplainable things about dreams. It sometimes warns us and help us prepare if that will really happen... But I know also that at his age, we should also really be ready...
• United States
15 Mar 13
I don't think this is to unusual for someone to be sensitive to the wishes of a dying person, this information is often given in a dream. Because we know how much we will miss them we often fight for their lives, even if it means they must continue to live in a body that is no longer healthy. This is normal and also selfish. I lost my brother after only ninety days of illness and he was still not old, I miss him very much, but I would not have asked for one more second of life for him, because he suffered and would not get better. So if you can let your Grandfather go in your mind and give the gift of release to him. Blessing to you and your family
19 Mar 13
yes i actually find it selfish... but it will also be a burden in our conscience if we just simply let him go. We actually see some big improvements in him. I visited him the other day. He was already out of ICU, and was actually told that he can already be discharged as long as the family is ready to take him home. He still cannot open his eyes, his half body is paralyzed. He is talking or we can say murmuring because we cannot understand what he is saying. He still cannot eat through the mouth, so we feed him through NGT (Nasogastric Tube Feeding). Though we find him more active because he moves a lot (only the right hand and leg), talks a lot, than we see him when he was still in the ICU as he is almost always asleep. But we are still not comfortable with his state when we see him just lying in bed. And especially that we cannot understand what he is saying because his speech was affected. But funny thing, there were words that my aunt understood. He is talking about the old times. He was like instructing somebody to close our bodega (warehouse). We have a business then, but was already closed more than 10 years ago. Maybe his brain is processing the stock memories which brought him to the old times...
15 Mar 13
Indeed it is a very sad time for everyone affected by your grandpa's condition. Your aunt's dream may seem as adding more sadness to the situation. Actually, it may also serve as a way to prepare and strengthen those who need it in facing what is happening now and beyond.