Should women stay at home these days?

@ayeeesha (1127)
Philippines
March 15, 2013 12:37am CST
Growing up in a patriarchal society, women are often viewed as the weaker one. Women are supposed to be the one who should stay at home and take care of the kids while men do all the hard work. But I think that doesn't hold true nowadays. Over the years, women are becoming powerful and influential, being at par with men. They are starting to create their name and build a career on their own, sometimes surpassing the achievements of their male counterparts. And with the increase in commodities and prices of goods, most women work to help supply the needs of the family. Do you think women should still stay at home while their husbands work? Or should women be given a chance to have a career and life of their own?
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@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
I think this not applicable nowadays. If the earnings of the husband is not suffice for the expenses and needs of a family, I guess the wife could help too if she could find a job. These days, it would be a good decision if the wife works too, in that way their earnings could cope with the high cost of living at present. Let's set aside this patriarchal mentality and face reality.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
I also think the fiance will be better if both husband and wife go to work. At least the husband will have less burden and pressure.
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
The issue here is about the finances needed by members of the family. So, if the husbands earnings will not suffice, the wife having a job will definitely helps.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
That's true. Families should also adapt to the changes and not force the whole stay-at-home thing, especially when the husband is having a hard time keeping up with the finances and expenses.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 13
It really depends on the type of woman. Most women would prefer to be just at home. Some women won't be contented to be just at home for a long time.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
Of course different women will have different choices.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Yes but sometimes, women don't have a choice because their husbands won't let them work.
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@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
15 Mar 13
I think that women should try and pursue their hopes and dreams as much as possible as should all people. It is true that in past generations women were not treated very fairly and still today they aren't treated as well as they should be in the workplace. An even worse part too this argument that I see though now a days is the fact that neither men or women in relationships really have the option of staying at home. I would love it if either the father or the mother were able to stay at home with their kids while the other partner was out working but the way the economy has been falling it's becoming more and more a necessity that both parents work. If things continue the way they've been then both parents are going to be forced to work two jobs leaving virtually no time at all to be with their children. I think that our children do deserve time with their parents and it's unfortunate the way the economy is looking. Psychological tests have proven that children develop much better when they are loved and nurtured and allowed the time with their parents that they need to grow up.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
It is easy to say than done in the reality.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
That's actually the main reason why women work as well -- the economy. With the increase in the prices of goods, the income of the husband is just enough, or sometimes not even, to sustain the family's needs. That's why women need to work in order to provide a better life for their children.
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• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I don't believe on this one anymore. But I do strongly agree on parents taking care of their children. Both parents should be active in raising a child. They should spend the same amount of time with them. Same at work, if men are able to become pilots, soldiers and drivers then women could as well. It is not a matter of competition between the two sexes. It is more of being equally active at home and at work.:)
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
But of course, we still can't help but put pressure on women to stay at home and tend to the family's needs. While some are open-minded, there are still those who thinks that women should still stay at home, especially when the husband can really provide.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
It will be a man to be a stay-at-home dad.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi ! Women are just too talented and brilliant to stay at home . It is no longer the case now , women are empowered ! Women should go out, show and share her talent and intelligence to the community. They are just too talented to stay four corners of the home . Women helps now in augmenting the income of the family. Life is hard , both couples should hand in hand work for the family's future. It is not only the obligation of the head of the family but it's the obligation of both parents.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
Perhaps a well educated housewife will be even qualified to take care of children at home.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
That's also true, especially these days where women are well-educated. Women nowadays are slowly making name for themselves and their husbands should be the one to support them. Unless the husband can provide enough to give the best for his family, then it's the wife's choice now whether she wants to go on with her career or be with the kids.
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• Canada
15 Mar 13
Hi ayeeesha I think this is a personal decision, after my son was born I wanted to stay home with him as I did not want him in daycare. I stayed with him till he was four years old these were for me were the "best days of my life". He is now thirty years old and we have always been close I did go out to work when he was four. My husband and I did without material things so I could stay home with him and I never regretted it. I think whatever is important to help with the relationship in the home.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
You are a great mom
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
That's good to hear. At least you were able to witness the milestones of your son and that's always important.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I think this no longer stands as an issue, well for most people of course. It has been years, and decades even that women has had a career for themselves. There are even businesses that are put up and made to grow by the matriarchs. If a woman wants to build a career for herself, Men should not be the ones that should put them down. Let us all support each other. So long as she (if with a family and children) are not forgetting her responsibilities and is still able to make her house be as it is as if she is there all the time, i'd say there is nothing wrong with it.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Yes, although there are still men, and I know some of them, who prefer that their wives should just stay at home and attend to their kids' needs.. Sad but true. But of course, women can still think of ways on how to earn money and help the husband while still be able to take are of the family.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Mar 13
Here it is common for the women to have jobs. However, some women will give up their careers because of their children, especially when they can't find someone who can look after their children when they go to work in the daytime. Somewhat it is a kind of sacrifice because today women also get well education. But their careers will be ended if they have children.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
It's hard on the part of a woman to choose between family life or career, especially when she's also well-educated. But certain sacrifices have to be made, including giving up of her career.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I do think that both men and women should have an equal share in everything. Women should not be kept in their houses to just take care of their children. I know that being a mother is a 24/7 job, but why limit the capabilities of a woman who also studied in College and knows that she can make a difference? Having a career doesn't really have to be made outside of the home. Wives can out up a small business even in their own homes so that they can also have time to end to their younger kids.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Exactly! Wives should not be just contented of doing the dishes or washing the laundry. There is still life beyond being a mother and a wife. And that should be recognized by all husbands.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Or consider getting an online job, like what most of us are doing! The pay may not be as big as the regular paying jobs but at least they're still earning for themselves.
• India
15 Mar 13
Hey ayeesha i think women should be given a chance to have a career because she cant totally depend upon her husband for everthing. She should be self-dependant. Because no one will give them importance until they have their own identity. But she should equally take responsibility of her family because no one can take better care of a family than a woman. Happy Mylotting
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
That's a tough choice to make - choosing between family and career. While women would want to stay at home and be with the kids, they have to consider first whether the income is sufficient enough to sustain their everyday needs.
• United States
15 Mar 13
Its not that women are weak. Its just that women are good on taking care of kids and stuff like that. Men aand women are really just equal. But for me, if the financial of the family is okay, I would rather stay in the house and take care of kids. But if not, of course I will work my butt of to support the needs of my family.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
Yes, women can handle the family work better.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Well of course, its different when the husband can provide more for the family. Women can opt to stay at home because financially, they're okay. But even so, women should still find ways to make money even while staying at home. No one knows what's going to happen in the future and its much better if women has her own money.
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• India
15 Mar 13
the world of today have became so much modern and advanced . and we want every single person to become the part of it and participate actively womens are most welcomed i dont think that they should sit at home and waste their precious time.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I agree with that. But sometimes, men would want their wives to just stay at home and be with the kids, saying he can provide a good life for them. Unfortunately, not all are capable of tht, leaving women no choice but to work.
• India
15 Mar 13
yeah even that is true, but if a women is good at work then she should do it and is she is good at households works and among children then she should take that. But the main thing is that everything depends on her and she is independent to take her own decisions.
• South Africa
23 Mar 13
Women have been prosecuted for a very long time. Women can be a mans equal or better but only if they want to.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 13
Perhaps they have to give up something at the end.
@iamsittie (327)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
For me, women should be given a chance to fulfill their career for self-satisfaction. We all know that one of the needs of human is self-esteem, so by doing this women are more confident of themselves.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
You have a point there :) Women shouldn't be confined at home since she has her own life as well. But then, self-satisfaction may still be achieved even when she's not working so it really depends on her as well.
• India
15 Mar 13
First of all women are not weak, about whether they need to work or not depends upon her choice and others in the family, i was in your country, i have seen many who are educated do work in offices; but getting a job there is not that easy, many leave for abroad, am i right? My daughter, daughter in law are highly educated but they don't do any job. Thanks for this discussion Welcome to mylot.
@elsino91 (440)
• Poland
15 Mar 13
Speaking as a man, I think woman should be given the chance to pursue their own careers and not stay at home. Maybe thats what happened in the olden days but not anymore. Woman have fought to achieve the rights they have now that are almost equal to those of men. Of course up until now we still see discrepancies between the rights of men and women but those differences are becoming smaller and smaller. I think people should be given the freedom to choose what they want to do with their life, if they want to stay at home and cook and clean and not have a career thats fine too but it needs to be their free choice. So if anyone, including women, wants to pursue a career of their own they should have that choice.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I wish all men are as open-minded as you are :) Some men still think otherwise and it's difficult for a woman to pursue what she wants, even if it'll help the family since she's being restricted by her husband.
• India
15 Mar 13
It depends, sometimes it happenes that men income is not soficient for the life and ladies work for more income. some men have more than enough and ladies has choice, to work or to not work outside. It all depends to choice of people. I would like to enjoy life, and have fun if my husband earn good, but I will make a career for myself, like having a beauty salon and enjoy my life. but not working hard for my husbnad. Men should work hard, we all ladies, can work, can earn, but a man never be able to do what a lady does, like giving birth of a child and suffering with pain and sleep less life, and caring a child, so it is good for us to follow our career but not to go under trouble for a man. if a man do not work outside then what he want to do? but if even we do not work outside still we have alot to do.
• China
15 Mar 13
Men and women are all equals.Different families have different needs.My father has retired and now take charge of housework at home, while my mother is in business.
@tehpau (340)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 13
I don't think it is so much about women being weaker. In today's society, the household income plays a bigger role. Most women work to help with finances. Of course there are plenty who are capable and have their own careers. If we are talking about a woman who earns a small salary, and the man can support the entire family, it is wise for her to stay home. Someone needs to take care of the home too. A parent is better than a maid. If I am given a choice to choose between my job or my home, I will choose my home.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
Times have changed that's why even families should adapt to it. You're right when you said that it's better for the woman to stay at home if the husband can provide for the whole family. But when the income is not enough, choices should be made.