Effective ways to bring up a child

@nicanorr (1789)
Philippines
March 16, 2013 7:02am CST
Parents and those in charge of rearing kids wish they grow up straighforward, obedient, thoughtful, helpful, kind, thrifty, respectful, studious, etc. You send them to school and give them all the support you can think of. Despite your effort to make them grow upright, you see them bend little by little like a tree, because of problems, temptations, like barkada, indulging in drinking and smoking and going out late nights with peers. What would you do if you were their parents?
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@loyhardy (50)
• Kenya
16 Mar 13
Raising kids is actually one of the most difficult tasks to do.In my country kids are brought up the hard way,i mean thorough beating.Though a child reaches a certain age where she or he gets curious of everything around,this is the moment they give a try.As a parent you cant always follow your kids everywhere all you need is give them good advice,listen to their problems and be of great support to them.
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@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Physical or corporal punishment may have its own uniques beneficial effects, but I think more humane ways must be administered towards erring kids.
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
16 Mar 13
we parents always want the best for our kids. we want them to grow perfect, have all the good things in life, etc.. etc... unfortunately, as we ourselves are not perfect, our kids will not be perfect either. i tried my best to give my child all the he needed when he was growing up and now that he's grown and has a family of his own, i still try my best to help him. whatever mistakes we may have made or make in our roles as parents, let us just be consoled by the fact that we did our best for our kids.
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@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Yes it's fact we've our strengths as well as weaknesses in the way we raise our kids but it's a consoling fact to know thst we never waiver in this particular function till there's still light in us. Good day!
@Mavic123456 (9869)
• Thailand
17 Mar 13
there is no effective ways to bring up a child. It is no just parents' roles to have wonderful children. I am sure no parents would want to have children as problematic to society. However, many factors are affecting good behaviors and character of a person. 1. Environmental factors. 2. Events or Experiences 3. exposure. however, Media play a vital role in the development of the child. Children are now more exposed to different things, ideologies (regardless right or wrong), fad and craze...
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
Given all factors good or bad affecting child development, parents role is first and foremost. It must not be relegated to the background even for a moment.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
17 Mar 13
there are more than one way to bring a child by honing them properly and also giving him proper vision alone
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
I do agree.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
As a parent, rearing our children the way we want them to be is really a sacrifice. It's not just giving them everything they needed but also to give them insights on what to see outside our homes. Temptations are everywhere so what they have learned inside our home could be different on the outside. Though in our hearts we knew we have done our best so that they will grew up to be a good man but sometimes outside influences affects also their decision making. Parents must not lose hope that when they turned matured enough, they will remember all the good values we have instilled to them when they were growing up.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
I would not hesitate to rate you best response for your wisdom in child rearing. Keep up!
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
17 Mar 13
Hello Nicanorr, I hope that you are fine. We have a say in my country "you raise with the example". Blessings Nicanorr... dainy
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
yes- teaching or raising kids by example is fine. Have a good day!
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
I do think that the best way is to always have an open communication with the kids. And also to be real role models to our kids. I am not saying that I am a perfect parent coz sometimes, out of desperation, I could do or say things that somehow makes my kids feel bad. But a parent should not tire in giving reminders to his/her children. Let them decide when they are in the right age, but explain to them well the consequences that might happen for whatever decision they make.
17 Mar 13
We can seriously talk to them. Let them understand right and wrong for them to make their mistake correct. We can also be a good model for them to follow.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 13
There are two schools of thoughts for bringing up children. The older generation is more onto disciplinary just like the Chinese school practice. The modern era are more lenient, more of an overall approach. Home schooling is one of the method used widely in many modern family. All in all, every parents want the best for their children. Hopefully with the strong and good moral foundation, they will be lead to the way of success in life. Any parent detect something is not right, they should solve the issues immediately so that it will not getting worse.
• United States
17 Mar 13
In as much as it is good to train up a child in the right way, it is also good to monitor the type of friends the child keeps as he grows up because mosttimes, a child's deviation from his normal character is mostly influenced by peers.
• India
17 Mar 13
Hi friend, It is not easy to grow up a children, parents must need a lot of patience and tolerance to grow up their kids. Parenting is also a great art and we will realize about it only by our own experience. I have two little sons and enjoying a lot in growing up them. My elder son is having 5 years and my younger one is 3 year old boy. It seems that they are born yesterday itself, but the days grown up very faster. As my kids are in their childhood days, it is the important stage as well as the right period to teach a lot of good things to them. Me and my wife teaching a lot of good things to them in simple manner. Below 5 year is the age to make a kid in a good way and guide them with lot of good things, as we know about it well and giving training to them in lot of ways. Kids always like toys and we can teach a lot of things using the toys, my wife bought the plastic vegetable, fruit and flower toys to my kids and teach about the colors, vegetable, shapes and designs using the toys. Also my kids having the world building set, which is very much useful to teach the words and letters to them. Also we use Rhymes CD and DVD and download rhymes and alphabets from online to teach them. We must spend a lot of time with our kids in their childhood days to teach a lot of good things to them. As a parents it is our duty too, If we guide our kids in their childhood days, surely they will become a good person while they are growing up.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 13
We do our best to give them the best. They need strong foundation and we pray that they mix with the right group of people. We wish them every success in their future endeavor. If they went the wrong way, we should become their friends and advise them to turn to the right path, prayed for the well being and if needed - send them for counselling. Early detection can helps a lot.