Forgive the guy who made us heart-broken

@jricky1 (6809)
China
March 16, 2013 7:54am CST
I'll learn to forgive someone who did that cuz being hatred to anyone wouldn't relieve the pain and to be happy person and everything will be passed.It's such a big lesson teach us to be grown ups.Good for you and be back to great life.
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@cherigucchi (4034)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Time can heal all wounds, I believe in this. I have forgiven someone who had caused me heart break a very long time ago and it felt good to be released by that kind of feeling.
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
that is true. and we always learn from that. I just stick to my mind that there is a reason for everything and or there is a purpose why this thing happens. So i learn to accept it for I become more better person because of such heartache.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
17 Mar 13
Time heals all the wound and i like your sentence.Everything will become the past tense so i believe we will live in our own unique way to support the life.
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
For me, the important thing with forgiveness is to do it sincerely. If I force myself to do it even if I am not ready, I feel like I am just pretending and the hatred is still there. I fell the same way with moving on. Sometimes I insist that I am already over something when I am not yet truly recovered. So I just give myself a break and, although I am seeking relief, I still prefer what's real and not just wishful thinking.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
16 Mar 13
For me,to travel somewhere and it helps me to forgive and forget things that i'm unhappy with.Otherwise we can't change life even we still go through that period.So why not make it good one?Just move on and get rid of bad things.Hope you also good,friend.
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
I do that a lot too, travel. To be honest, in my case, I think it is just avoidance. You feel good for that little bit of time when you're away, but one can't travel forever, and when I come back I still feel bad about it. So since I am not really confrontational, I just try to deal with stuff as they come, not really avoiding them but also not really confronting them really.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Mar 13
Hatred is a bad feeling, a lonely stressful feeling.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
that is true, hatred only kills your own feelings and your own self. it drags you not the other person that has hurt you.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Mar 13
Exactly, when you feel too much anger, it's like it's eating you up and you won't recognize happiness at all.
• United States
16 Mar 13
This sounds good but,if your heart really bad it could be hard to do as well. I hope to never have that kind of pain again.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
17 Mar 13
There are things that we find hard to deal with and forget.But at least you tried and see what will happen,that's good for us,isn't it?lol,have great day ahead.
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
yous said it very well. that is the right decision that I myself too did or i may say is doing.for it is in teaching of God to forgive someone for He always forgive us too. if we don't Forgive someone God will also not forgive us in our sin.and it is also hard in feelings keeping anger with someone. so forgiving set us free. and give us peace of mind.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
17 Mar 13
If we still try to dwell in the past and it would cause a lot of pain.Not everyone can bear it and try to get rid of that.So why not choose new life and it's cool.Hope you also have your own great way to set you free,friend.
@loyhardy (50)
• Kenya
16 Mar 13
Jricky i agree it is a good thing to forgive,but how do you even face him/her?It hurts so much to see a guy you really loved walk by you putting a big smile on his face after breaking your hurt.I would rather hate the guy for good and forget about him
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
16 Mar 13
It hurt and it's indeed a hard process to go through.But we need to grow and be mature.That can help and enrich our life somehow.Thanks for telling yours and hope your life being more enjoyable with your lover.Everything is gonna be fine.Have a great day.
• United States
18 Mar 13
I agree forgiveness is hard but forgiving is the only way you can move past a situation. It takes time to both heal and forgive but the great thing is once you're over it, you're over it. To put it plainly, forgiveness is actually for yourself not for the other person. It aids in healing.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
I agree with you. Hatred is such a negative feeling and it will only drown you out if you would refuse to let it go. unlike those people who have been hurt and is able to forgive and let go, they would be able to face their lives better with so much hope. when one remains in the shadow of the hurt and the pain and hatred, they will only want revenge, and they would just be dragging themselves down even more.