Baby Daddy? Not Boyfriend or Son's Father?

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
March 17, 2013 8:11pm CST
I was watching the first 48, and I can't believe how much this is brought up. This one girl who was dating a man (who fathered her son), he was shot and killed. Now instead of saying the guys name, my boyfriend, or my son's father. All she kept saying my baby daddy. I heard this repeatedly. I just wanted to reach through the screen and slap the girl. It's like it's nothing, he's just my baby daddy. I would never refer to my boyfriend, or even ex who fathered my children like that. I was talking to an old coworker, and how that just irritates me every time they say it. She carried on how undereducated they must be. So I asked her how her baby daddy was (meaning her husband), she goes you better not saying that again.
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@Hatley (164755)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Mar 13
hi ricki That is an odd way of saying it instead of my boy friend or my son's father.I guess it is rather disrespectful but she might be raised i an area where thats the way they think too.I mean these people have such casual relationships that they have babies without marriage by different guys so it becomes just another daddy to another baby I guess and maybe she just does n t care anymore. I just ger so fed up with this kind of living.
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• United States
18 Mar 13
I think mostly its an ethnic saying. In relationships that only create babies and there are several baby daddies in one 'family' they just say baby daddy. I see it on Maury all the time. It's not just black people on there either, but a lot are. Trying to see who the latest baby daddy is they test 3 or 4 guys over time and its either one of them is the father or none of them are.
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• United States
18 Mar 13
Its widely used by dirt poor uneducated people with no no class . The people on that show are pathetic .
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
18 Mar 13
Personally I dislike the term but in my country it's widely used. A man will refer to a lady as his 'baby's mother'. This means exactly what it says. She is the mother of his child but he is not married to her. a man may have several baby mothers and the same with a female - she will use the same term - baby father.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
18 Mar 13
I guess in today society it's normally to have several kids all with different men. I kept hearing it thinking, I have never heard of it before.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 13
I have to tell you that it is common in a lower sociological group and those economically and educationally disadvantaged
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
20 Mar 13
You know, there have been a few times that I've used this term, but the only times that I've ever used this term is when I'm really, really upset with my husband. Other than that, I have to say that this term is something that I don't like at all and that sounds very offensive. I have to admit that the first time that I ever heard this term I thought that the woman that was using this term didn't have any kind of relationship with the father of her child and the child was a result of a one night stand.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Well yeah that sounds irritating. It could have been true that the man was her child's daddy. But to always just say that is inappropriate I suppose. She could have just referred to him by using his name and that probably was shorter. Hahaha The way this is the first time i have heard a about av woman calling baby daddy. It's usually the father of my child, my boyfriend, my husband... Maybe it's because it's not in our vocabulary and so I never really have encountered this. Not even those who were interviewed on television locally have never uttered or referred to men like this.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
18 Mar 13
Yeah it is odd to hear something like that said over and over again. Some people I guess just think of it that way especially if they aren't close to that person. If the relationship itself wasn't close then they just call that person their baby's daddy because he doesn't mean anything to them.
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@GardenGerty (96662)
• Marion, Kansas
18 Mar 13
You know, there is not much that I can say about this except that I agree with you about how empty this title is. It is depersonalizing, just as some names women get called. He does at least have a name. I guess some people think it is cute. I do not, it is disgusting.
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
18 Mar 13
I hate tat saying so bad , in my country you would hear that saying a lot it disgust me . Men would have more than one woman that have children for him and he would call all of them his baby mother since they are nothing more . Some people have no problem with it and they say it very proud
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@BarBaraPrz (19363)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
18 Mar 13
I guess your friend didn't like your attempt at humor. I don't like that phrase either. It's stupid.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
19 Mar 13
I suppose so. I thought it was pretty funny.