The oppressed get oppressed more...

@vandana7 (68982)
India
March 20, 2013 1:35am CST
Its been my observation... People rarely trouble the rich even if they are wrong. People rarely trouble those who are influential fearing backlash in someway. People rarely trouble who are good in health fearing physical abuse. And people rarely trouble those who can fight back physically or verbally. That leaves those amongst us who cannot fight back...they become punching bags for others to vent their anger, frustration, irritation, what nots. The boss gets a burnt omellette, sure its going to be one of his employees who is going to hear something that day. Because compared to the boss the employee is financially weaker and less influential and less inclined to fight back. Moreover, in a situation where unemployment is high, employees are going to put up with a lot of nonsense. It is not necessary that the boss is a bully. Though bullies do it constantly. The boss is simply transformed into a bully for that brief period. At times I feel people turn into bullies to prevent being oppressed, you know...offence is the best defense kind. Any drawback makes people more inclined to such behavior. I had a colleague who couldnt bear a child. And she became quite offensive. Have you a different observation? Please share your experiences.
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@urbandekay (18312)
20 Mar 13
Nothing new there, twas ever such The law locks up the man or woman Who steals the goose off the common But leaves the greater villain loose Who steals the common from the goose The law demands that we atone When we take things we do not own But leaves the lords and ladies fine Who takes things that are yours and mine. The law, in its majestic equality, forbids the rich as well as the poor to sleep under bridges, to beg in the streets, and to steal bread. This could be heaven for everyone if it were not for the greedy All the best, urban
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@vandana7 (68982)
• India
20 Mar 13
You put it so well..:( I cant add anything..lol
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Mar 13
yes vandana your observation is correct. The stronger is always worshiped. Lion is the king of jungle. Because he is stronger than other animals. In our society also the weaker persons are oppressed by the stronger persons. In India Brahmins are the highest cast and the Harijans (sweepers,cobblers,butchers etc.)are lower casts in the society. They are always oppressed by the higher cast people. In office, factory or in other work places there are some higher class of people. They take the leading part to harass the lower section of employees. Only when the lower sections of people get united the higher section of people bow down.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
20 Mar 13
In which era are you living Bhanusb? Caste indeed!
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
21 Mar 13
Kala, it depends upon which pockets of the country you are in. Khap exists. There is no denying. And remember there was my father's friend. They were brahmins. They were ok with wanting dad to marry their sister, but the last time she visited me, she asked me my caste, yeah...after 50 years of friendship, our caste became important. Being a pervert to an extent, I said I am a shudra...lol though we are choudharies, more specifically, we are kshatriyas. One of the days, I spent time searching for our ancestry on wikipedia, and other sites, and learnt that we are the survivors from Kalinga. During Ashoka's attack, pregnant women, and children of few of the senior people were sent away along with soldiers to protect them. They were sent in different directions, so that even if one group gets caught, another group survives to tell about their kingdom and keep the culture alive. This means, if religion was followed by our ancestors, I would be a buddhist! They adopted local religions as they had to blend. They even married the local folks. :) Anyway...what I wanted to say is...about five years ago, a friend of 50 years asked us about our caste. She was a graduate, uncle is a gold medalist. Ok? Just to let you know that it was an educated person who dwelt on the subject. @bhanusb..I kind of agree with you. Lower sections of people do need to get united instead of getting scared. :)
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
21 Mar 13
Thanks vandana for supporting me. I can proudly say I'm a Buddhist. Buddhists were almost eliminated from India by the massacre which was committed under the leadership of Brahmins.
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@kalav56 (11502)
• India
20 Mar 13
People who allow themselves to be oppressed get more oppressed be they poorer or weaker,materially, psychologicaly or emotionally .Not all poor people allow themselves to be trampled upon. I agree that attack is the ebst form of defense and this is why some weaklings or empty vessels make much noise.
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
21 Mar 13
People who are weak in studies or other areas usually become bullies...because they cant shine in the expected route, and therefore, they prefer to be belligerant so that nobody dares to say anything against them.
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@vandana7 (68982)
• India
21 Mar 13
Kala caste system exists out here. Take for example our BJP woman. She does not allow any maid or watchman or other worker to travel along with her in the lift. That is bad...dont you think?
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@kalav56 (11502)
• India
21 Mar 13
It is definitely bad Vandana! My personal experience is that in educated upper middle class families there is not a great 'looking down 'upon lower castes.My father himself was an example; he used to be friends with a tailor or some similar villager though he was an affluent person.It is painful to note what you have written; However, in some pockets of Tamil NAdu, there is a lot of unwanted animosity against BRahmins though the majority of them are not as badly behaved as those 'superior' people of yesteryears.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Wives frequently catch their husbands displeasure when he does not feel well, his favorite program has been preempted for a political announcement, etc.
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
21 Mar 13
How I agree with that statement...and it is not only wife, men in any relationship...they cant leave their favorite programs, and games. lol
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
20 Mar 13
Well, I pause to discuss the issue of bullying. A question which, unfortunately, is a reality of our daily lives. I have suffered bullying, and such a thing I'm still suffering! In this circumstance, I'm very bad. Most of the people to whom I explain my situation, to tell me that I have to learn to react. But I am weak and I just can not do it, even in a verbal manner! I know, however, that these things happen in the world of work where the boss is the bully turn. But today we have to endure these conditions because, as you have rightly said, unemployment is high! I conclude with a phrase that I heard to say: "The best revenge is forgiveness"
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
21 Mar 13
Alberello - forgiveness in some situations I feel is a sin. When we forgive Nazis, it indicates our helplessness and inability rather than forgiveness. It encourages more people to be so. There is a limit to everybody's endurance, and "no" is not a bad word at all. If we let the bully get away with us, wont he be more confident of bullying another? And how do you know that this new victim is not worse off than you? Then is it not your duty to protect that helpless person? So notwithstanding whatever opinions people hold of me, I do defy bullies. It is my way of keeping myself safe from sin of torture that another person might have been subjected to.
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Well that's life too cruel but it is true for most people are plastic they always go with who is at the edge afraid to be part of the loser.
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
26 Mar 13
I agree. Perhaps I have been guilty of it too at times..
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Mar 13
hi Vandana Right. It happens that way. It is what I think and term it is lack of self-realization. I was a Boss for some years in my professional career and yes, I did had burnt omelets many days, but I never played hard on any of my subordinates - unless it was for the company's good. And many said, I wasnt fit for being a boss Never mind. I know what I am good for. And yes, I am weak and fragile looking, no doubts on that, and many people take me as their punching bag today. But as I said, I feel it is self realization, self consciousness that decides how you handle such things. As for the colleague who couldnt bear a child, it is psychology and it is good that she vents her frustrations, failed expectations that way (though they arent the best options, but maybe they are what comes naturally to her). Indian society is still evolving and people need to grow for good of all not just their own.
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
21 Mar 13
Actually, she had loads of issues. Her husband was involved in gang wars, and even imprisoned for a while as a gangster and all that. She was possibly just nervous that anybody would raise the topic and she would cry or something. So she opted for this form of defense. Yeah Indian society is awful. If she'd not been belligerant, chances are that people would have teased her. Her belligerant nature scared others and whatever it was in their minds, they refrained from expressing, which kept her mind free. It is sensitivity on such issues that forces people I think. sid, the other day when the lady said shame you are not married at 55, I felt nothing...absolutely nothing...but I did retaliate...cause within that fraction of second, I recalled some of my former colleagues who'd cry at their misfortune. I kind of felt, hey, had they heard this, they would be jumping off roof. One of the girls lost both her parents. She'd brought up her sister and brother working hard, and managing to study enough to get a job. And finally, when the brother got married, he threw her out of his home. The younger sister she got her married at a very late stage..there are people that helpless sid. Such old fashioned opinions should not be thrust on them.
@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
20 Mar 13
Law of gravity, dearheart...everything flows downhill, and it seems the only way to avoid being the catchment is to be at the top...even if you have to claw, and fight your way there, turning you from a nice, compliant individual to a miserable tyrant! Your choice, cause of the flow or the recipient!
@vandana7 (68982)
• India
20 Mar 13
I think to suffer is as much of sin as to be a tyrant. I mean, if you suffer continuously, you start getting some sort of pleasure that people pity you, and all you have to do is whine a wee bit, and other person would get condemned. Right? Your genuine effort to escape that situation is reduced considerably because of public support. Another reason suffering silently is wrong is, the oppressor may not know that he or she is being cruel. It might become a habit with him or her, and he might start oppressing others, in the process creating more chagrin and creating a greater chain of unhappiness? When the oppressor knows he or she is wrong and still does it, then we do need to take him or her to task, isn't it? This is the perverted individual. If he or she has to live in the society, he or she needs to conform to the society's rules.