he's confusing me, right? why? 0.0

Philippines
March 20, 2013 8:50am CST
it was my ex-lover... it's been a while since we had communication and now, he sort of open it again. I am not expecting or assuming anything, but the fact that he open such communication was really a bother for me since I am in the process of wee recovering from him. What's the matter with me? I can't say I am still affected by him, by his words - am I? And definitely, I don't love him anymore - do I? Blimey! But I don't want to be anymore! I don't want to be that idiot again, whom he can go to every time he's rejected by every girls he flirted with. What is done is done and what is enough is enough! And it's better for us to go our separate ways, and if he's planning to open up again with me with this communication thing or whatever - it's not possible. It's not yet the time.
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8 responses
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
I think you are not a martyr or a loser think wisely before going deeper. It will be your will to reform yourself and for your future. People like him are idiots and don't need a single respect if ever you want him back it wil be your desire of lust not of love and respect.
• South Africa
20 Mar 13
Yea that's true. Lust can be strong but we must be stronger/
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
21 Mar 13
what if he has realized his mistakes and he sincerely wanted her back... or win her back.. don't you believe the love is sweeter the second time around?
• India
26 Mar 13
well in my opinion what you have to do is ask yourself what you want...if you don't want him back anymore and if you're pretty sure about it,then tell him right in the face that you don't want him talking to you anymore...but if you want him back,i suggest you don't engage in conversations now..just keep the contact brief and move on...and once you reach a position where you arent affected by his actions anymore,then you can start thinkin about a second round..believe me..talkin from experience here...
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
Then, keep your distance from me. Let yourself be completely healed. He should be aware of what you have gone through.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
24 Mar 13
Sounds to me your ex is rejected again, needs someone again to take care of him. Since you Always took him back he shows up on your "doorstep" again. Knowing you are that idiot. So the only advice I can give you, since you say are still recovering from him, to not respond on his communication. Delete him out of your life. Build your own. Ex = exit. Only this way you will show him you are not that idiot again.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
20 Mar 13
When I hear stories like this, I always think... why don't people know what they want? Why can't they act "soberly" in a relationship? I wouldn't wwant a guy who broke up with me, broke my heart, and then came back saying "sorry, I was a fool then,. let's get together again"... that is so immature. And I'm pretty sure you're worth more than this guy (especially if he is that jerk you talked about in one of your earlier posts...).
• South Africa
20 Mar 13
There alot of other men with all sorts of interests. The sound differnet kiss differently and are different. Don't fall for something twice. Follow your gut.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Don't get confused. Just think of what he did to you, and ask yourself if you like the idea of being used, because he got rejected by the girls he flirted before. He's only using you and put that on your mind and don't get confused dear. Save your heart and this time think wisely. xx
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
20 Mar 13
You already said it. You don't want to be an idiot again whom he can just go to every time he's being rejected by every girl he flirts with. You already broke up and you made your decision "before", so why be bothered? If you really do not want him back then tell him straight and be frank. Let him feel that you really don't love him anymore. But your last sentence makes me think that maybe you are still into him, or maybe he has a chance. Not really sure.