an unwritten law in peoples minds ?

@Hatley (164506)
Garden Grove, California
March 23, 2013 12:28pm CST
hi I just read a discussion about the user getting flamed with harsh words but not one mylotter but my self suggested using the exclamation point symbol and reporting insults to the admins. I know this is written someplace in all the my lot information so maybe its not too often read. My opinion is that we should report insulting or rude words to the admins as this is not how mylot wants us to treat each other. Your take fellow mylotters?
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@alpha9180 (301)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 13
That's what someone told me about people here are nice and friendly. This is the reason why I would like to join here to experience it myself. I hope I get to enjoy here as much as I can and make more friends. I do agree with you that it is not good to be rude and using insulting words to others.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi alpha yes as a whole I do think we are all a pretty nice group of people here so I hope we can all keep it like that.There's never any need to be abusive or insulting to anyone. If someone now insults me I just report it to the admins hitting the exclamation point to report them.
• Malaysia
25 Mar 13
Oh! Thank you so much Hatley for I learn something new from you today that I could hit exclamation point to report those who are abusive...hehe. But I hope I do not need to do that and I want to enjoy with everyone here so to make it a fun and interesting site for me to stay [em]cool[/.em]. Hatley, I had sent a friend request to you. Would you mind be my friend? I like your kind respond and with wisdom. I see that you surely enjoy very much here as I could see from your numbers beside your username. Wow! you must be very senior here [em]thumbup[/.em]
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
23 Mar 13
I really hate it when people are rude and abusive. I did politley and gently chastise someone recently (just a little) as they made disparaging remarks re my age. I am not forcing anyone to respond to anything I may say so what is the big deal? However, she did apologise so all is well. The comment was rude and not funny. No we must show respect to each other and anhyone who has been very rude - well - then I would report them. No need to do so at present
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
23 Mar 13
I suppose you can't help it if you're not old enough to be taken seriously.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
i cynthiann yes there's just no need to be abusive or insulting at all John you just made me laugh. most insults are just mean and not funny and should be reported as this user I just read was hurt by being called some bad names and told he or she was not a Christian.,?Even in the religious interest they should all keep civil tong
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
23 Mar 13
More important than the civil tongue and something we can do nothing about are those trolls who give negative ratings to people in discussions about religion. And it's the people I disagree with who seem to suffer this sort of thing the most. People who call yourselves Christians, please behave like Christians (but perhaps that's too much to ask of you if you're self-deceived hypocrites on your way to you-know-where)!
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@urbandekay (18312)
23 Mar 13
When we find someone rude we feel bad because we feel devalued; that in that persons eyes we are worthless. But if we are secure in our value then no one can diminish it. The greatest good manners is not to never give offence but never to take it all the best, urban
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
urbandekay as usual you make really good sense., I think this particular user who apparently is fairly new here was insulted and should have reported it to the admins as he or she was in the religious interest and truly I feel that those Christians should keep civil tongues in their heads and practice what they preach in responding to anyone not insulting anyone for a different belief at all.
@GreenMoo (11842)
23 Mar 13
Personal insults, yes. Differences of opinion, no.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hi Greenmoo yes it was personal insults from what I gathered from his or her discussion as this user had made a religious discussion and got called bad insulting names and told he or she was not a real Christian,. I felt it insulted the user and should have been reported to the admins.
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
23 Mar 13
You are preaching to the choir here my dear Hatley. That point has been made over and over, particularly by our good friends mysd and the lamb. Unfortunately I don't think anyone else cares. Sometimes I think people just like to argue. I can't figure it myself.
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
23 Mar 13
Woo hoo! I made here first.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hik savak my little jumpy mouse friend glad to see you got here first. I always get a charge when I finally can come in first. lol., Yes I imagine I am preaching to the choir here indeed but I know I really disliked getting flamed as when I first came here I did not know anything abut my loo and I gave back as good as I got which mylot rightfully deleted for flaming, I learned to read the guidelines and to follow them closely.
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
23 Mar 13
So you have, you *!£$^&! (press exclamation mark) Actually, in a church it may be the choir that needs to be preached to, because they may only be there for the singing, rather than genuine worship; even more so if it's somewhere they're getting paid. You know the difference between an organist and a terrorist?
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
23 Mar 13
Yeah, but I wouldn't like to feel that I can't trade the odd light-hearted insult with you without some third party interfering and pressing the eps.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
but john you do not really insult me as much as tease the heck out of me so there.I admit that there are insults and there are worse insults b ut the ones that hurt I think should be reported like calling someone a stupid idiot as my lot admins woud not like that.
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@urbandekay (18312)
23 Mar 13
Clearly, you are not trying hard enough John all the best, urban
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
23 Mar 13
You're accusing me of half-heartedness? Don't you realise that stupid idiots who do that get reported?
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@celticeagle (119336)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 13
I have only had to report(with the !)an abusive Mylotter one time. And that was years ago. I would not want to be a member of a group whose members are rude and/or abusive to me. These things need to be nipped in the bud! And I hope that Admin. does something that befits the abuse.
@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
okay lost my comment copy I have not reported anyone for being insulting for a long time. But this person us a fairly new user and was upset over being called a bad name Christian. Under the circumstances I felt he or she should have reported the insult to the admins.I know he or she was in the religious interest but still they should keep civil tongues in their heads even there.
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
24 Mar 13
I think they should keep a civil tongue in there heads especially there.
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@celticeagle (119336)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Mar 13
Yes, they should
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@STOUTjodee (3474)
• United States
23 Mar 13
Hi Hatley, I would say it should be the " golden rule" whether on the internet or face to face, don't be name calling! If you have a disagreement , that's fine, we are all not going to agree. However, when it comes to name calling to get a point across, that's stepping over the boundaries. On another writing site I reported it in for some one calling me a name. When people come to writing sites, they don't want to see immature people calling other people names! If you want to call me a name then pm me don't post naughty names to some thing I have wrote for all the world to see. By calling people names where other people can see is just showing other people how rude you are!! How the problem is resolved.
@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hiistout jodee when I first came to mylot there were a number of of trolls who were insulting and alsi just negging everyone to see their stars go down but the admins has really done a great job of clearing upothings and banning wrong doers. I do report if someone is really really rude and insulting but I have not had to do that much.I think those are people who have problems with self esteem and insecurity. Any way they have no excuse for being insulting ,.WE can often disagree b t do it with respect for the other person and his or her own opinions too.
@bunnybon7 (37205)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Mar 13
people like that, trolls, are just bullys and need to be banned
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi again bunnybon I sure do agree there and hop;e that myulot had some ways to catch those trolls as they need to be banned
@bunnybon7 (37205)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Mar 13
never get here first. not even on first page . dont know why i try anyway, i often dont report people until im sure its not just a misunderstanding. couldnt tell you how many times ive been wrong about a persons meaning and btw, i never find the contrivercial discussions you all talk about here. which means i guess i still dont spend enough time here.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hi bunnybon I think according to the users discussion he or she had posted a different discussion in the religious interest and was called some really bad names and told he or she was not a real Christian.I did not see that discussion as I do not venture into the religious interest at all.But I do think Christians in there should really keep a civil tongue in their heads and not insult anyone who posts there. there.
@bunnybon7 (37205)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Mar 13
you are absolutely right. no one should say things like that anyway as they should respect others religious choice even if it goes away from theirs. we arent here to judge. just to talk / discuss with people of our own interests , etc. they shouldnt even bother. as like mom used to say, if you cant say nothing nice, dont say anything at all
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi bunnybon yes my mom said the same thing to me and I do try to practice what I preach too as even in the guidelines it tells us not to insult or flame others as its just not fun to have that happen to to you.
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Mar 13
Some people love to fight and argued to some other members to get attraction and be recognize by others. Hope I can first hit that ! next time I found rude people around here
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi julyteen the person who was insulted was called bad names and told he or she was not a real Christina, This was in the religious interest but real Christians should not be insulting anyone or calling anyone bad names at all.Being a Christian does not excuse any one from being mean or insulting,
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Mar 13
That's the thoughts of a christian person but if you encounter unbelievers or and atheist, you are unlucky granny
@Pegasus72 (1901)
24 Mar 13
I guess if it is really bad, but we are here to discuss and some people are bound to not agree with how we see things.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi pegasus I am not really talking about someone just disagreeing with another user but about one user insulting and calling the other person bad names then telling them they were not real Christians, that is way different as we can disagree but with respect to the other person and his or her opinions but to abuse and insult another person to me is flaming and should be reported to the admins.
@Pegasus72 (1901)
24 Mar 13
Everyone has a different walk with God, so saying someone is not a real Christian, or any other religious belief could be abuse I suppose.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
24 Mar 13
that is true and they always seem to think and push the limit by using unharshable words and beyond control which affects people mindset
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hiu natliegleb Yes we just need to remember we all come from all over the world and we are welcomed here by mylot but they do insist we all be kind and friendly to each other. It makes mylot a haven for us all to come here relax and just gave fun. WE are as a whole really good kind people.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 13
People are generally good but when they landed themselves in the cyberworld their behavioral attitude changed to something beyond comprehension. They can be rude and overly sarcastic but in reality they are not that bad. I think so. Unfortunately mylot could not accommodate such people who doesn't respect the friendly community here. We are duty bound in helping to report such unwarranted behavior so we can all co-exist happily. So far I have not encountered any rude people in mylot.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi zandi I have also been very lucky to meet only kind friendly people here.There was a time when somone came in here with a chip on her or his shoulder just asking to have someone get angry. I lost it a few times, got my posts deleted so learned to hit report and tell it to the admins let them decide what to do with the insulter. then I kept my discussions as I no longer rose to the bait. I can see no reason to abuse or insult anyone here. r..
• India
24 Mar 13
yes, we must report it to mylot admin, so we can make mylot better... I think not all people here talk rude at the others, but maybe some people do it by coincidence and it is just like explosive emotion moment... About unwritten law, I think it is like polite manner, or something like that...
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hikrahmabaegood yes we can make myloit a better place and not scare off newcomers if we report the very few who do do the insulting and let mlot deal with them instead of getting into fights over it. Fighting with the insulter r does no good and just ends up with one getting his or her discussions deleted
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
I have done that on several occasions which resulted to either the deletion of the discussion or the member being banned. We do have difference in opinion, but in relaying our side, we should not make it too personal to the point of really "bullying" a member.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi jenny thats it we can agree or agree to disagree buj calling someone bad names and insulting them is flaming and should be reported to the admins, Getting nto a fight does no good at all so best just report the person doing the insulting instead.
@toniganzon (53293)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
I read that discussion. There were three that was made about that. The first was the one were the harsh word was thrown and the second and third were discussing about that. I think the person who said the word was the one who used the exclamation point. He reported it. If it happened to me, I would be offended but I would not discuss it any further. OH, i just remembered that it happened to me here and I reported it.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi toniganzon I used to give in to the insulter and give back as good as I got but all that did was get my discussions deleted so I learned to hit the exclamation point and report the person who insulated me instead.I also did not discuss it here as that would not help any but I just reported it and let mylot admins handle the person. they are the best judges of whats insulting.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
24 Mar 13
When I was a new memember I was swore at,insulted and called nasty things. I had no idea back then I could of reported the person or person's. I know I can be alittle nasty at times here when I sometimes answer discussions. When I get insulted I get angry snd give it back! I don't appreciate being insulted by anyone! Enough said!
@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 13
hi bluey65packer I used to do that till I got deleted several times and I realized I should have just reported the person who would not quit insulting me, so I did learn to report her and that stopped the insults for good,
@JohnRok1 (2051)
23 Mar 13
Is a flame that's been posted before thereby an old flame?
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• United States
23 Mar 13
Flaming should be reported for sure. Any kind of abuse. It takes a lot for me to report, but if I see someone flaming someone on a discussion in on I will report it. I don't see it often. I guess I don't get around very much.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
hi pointlessquestioms I think perhaps we both travel in the circle of friends who respect us and each other.I know I have been a longt time since I reported someone for being insulting but I will do it if I see someone flaming a user here. theres no need to insult anyone here.
@GardenGerty (101845)
• United States
23 Mar 13
Many people do not want to report abuse. They feel like they are tattling. Others think it is just the job of the admin to police discussions. They forget that we are all a part of the same team. One other thing is that many have become desensitized and believe that rudeness is just a part of life and it does not raise warning flags for them.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 13
GardenGerty You know thats just what I was thinkig reading all the responses the user got that people here are so used to insulting they have almost forgotten what is insulting or they think it makes them out as badies to report insulting. That is a crying darned shame too.