I Wouldn't Be Talking About It...I Would Be Gone!

I too find it so remarkably sad that the husband feels the need to flirt with other women, seems that marriage vows aren't so sacred any more, what happened to the real marriage constitution? Why do people get married if they aren't going to stick by it? He obviously has no loyalty, cannot be trusted and has a roving eye, yep agree with you, sad thing is that a lot of wives feel that they cannot live without their husbands so will turn a blind eye and hope that he will change the error of his ways, WRONG. Once a flirt, always a flirt.

Ouch! Well, really, reactions from wives who know that their husbands might be/is fooling around varies. Maybe it is because of reasons that involves the children or the wife is still in the "denial" stage or just the wife thinks of giving another chance for the husband hoping that it would be the last time that he would fool around.

You are right. You get dished out what you are willing to swallow. She allows him to get away with this behavior. I would not.

Exactly! Give them a inch and they will take a mile. In a relationship you have to be sure your communicating and that your partner knows where you stand on issues like this. You have it right.

Sounds like spouses need to monitor their spouses Facebook use like their kids! Men don't think it would be a big thing and no problem! To me doing stuff like this over the interent,on the phone and other ways is cheating! It shows no respect of the spouse and is not trust worthy! People never learn!

I want to say 'a man is a man is a man' but I know all men are not dogs. He may be living a fantasy right now, but my estimation he is looking to cheat. I would make HIM be gone. Yes it is sad if she tolerates it. She teaches him how to treat her with her complacency.

But he's only flirting lmb. You do that here with Lamby and there's nothing in it.

Or... she should start flirting with another guy. In any case it is clear he doesn't want her as much as he wants this new chick. So she should leave or better still kick him out!

i also would be gone. he wouldn't know what hit him. i would be gone so fast. this is probably not the first sign she got that he was a son of a b%$^&^

people are letting FB ruin their relationships. yes i guess its good to be able to check up on your partner, but sometimes its just people flirting and causing people trouble. anyway, if he really is seeing this woman, yes, she needs to do something about it. my daughter puts up with a lot of stuff like that also and he knows she wont leave. but they have fought over FB flirts and i think thats just silly as the person he was flirting with lives 3,000 miles away and she would know if they hooked up. its a lot of other things she should get rid of him for. plus they arent married and people should work harder on making their marriages work these days unless the other one is not making an effort. then get away!

Wow to do that with another woman is one thing....to do it on a social network for everyone to see is completely out of line. That she asked if it was 'suspicious' is saying she has no idea the blow she was dealt. To do it is one thing, to make a fool of your wife on social media like that is another.

It is easier said than done.How can one just pack up and go. Flirting is a way with most men even men who love their wives deeply. As long as there is nothing serious it is better to ignore or to intervene so that it ends there.

That's the sad thing about some marriages. The wife becomes too dependent on the husband so the husband can get away with murder. I always believe that even though we're already married and no matter how successful financially our husbands are, we should also have some ways and means to empower ourselves and have our own money. It is not only for ourselves when things like this happen, but also for our kids, if ever. If that's my husband, then he knows that he is in for some very nasty trouble. And that woman is also going to pay. If I can do things and take it up the legal way to make them pay, then I will do it. The message is very clear, there's nothing left to wonder or to explain.

People clearly have diffrent point of wiew where the line goes. I guess he thought it is ok, cos they didnt DO anything. On the other hand, I dont think that guy would enjoy his wife flriting with other guys. Some people think it is only ok if they do it, for some weird reason. In short, he is an idiot. She should confront him, give him ONE chance to stop. If it continues,then bye bye.

hi LovingMyBabies I would also pack up and leave cause once a cheater always a cheater. I would not want to stay with a man who thought so little of me that he would cheat on me as I have more self respect than that.I feel sorry for her that she will just take it thats just plain stupid .

And what sort of answer was she looking for? "No, it's perfectly harmless for your hubby to flirt with your friend" or, maybe, "He was just helping her self-esteem"? She needs to be confronting her husband with the situation--not looking for reasons to excuse his behavior.

I am the kind of person that would be willing to give my husband a second chance. For that reason alone, I have to admit that if I was to find something like this, I wouldn't immediately be gone, but I would certainly tell him that something like that is not acceptable in my books and if I were to ever find out that something like this was happening again, then I would be gone. Of course I also know that I would never find myself in that situation because of the fact that I don't get on my husband's facebook account and my husband doesn't get on my facebook account.

It is sad to hear those types of things. Hopefully she can make a good decision regarding her marriage and be able to take care of herself. It's sad that these types of things happen.

Like you I would be taking my kids and be out the door or throwing his stuff out of the house. I wouldn't be sticking around at all.

Good topic for people to weigh in on, Lovingmy babies. Anyone who does that to another person should be left immediately. No questions asked. Just go. If you decide to stay with a person that does this to you and you proceed to do nothing, they will just keep doing it and your self-esteem will diminish. Why would someone think that anybody that behaves that way is worth it? Pack up and don't look back!!!!!