Are you friends with someone with different interests?

@maximax8 (27049)
March 24, 2013 2:55pm CST
Imagine two people are friends together at primary school and then secondary school. During those years they have the same interests. Then in their thirties they meet up again and find that have very different backgrounds and interests. One likes horse back riding and works are a riding horses center in a rich area. The other is married and has five children in a poor area of town. Do you think the two can be friends still? Is it lovely for you to see old school friends in real life or on Face Book?
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@Frederick42 (2006)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
I have never been friends with somebody of different interests. My friends were all like-minded. I cannot say it is not possible to make friendship with someone of different interests; it is just that such friendships are not for me. Like-minded people are the ones with whom one can share everything and have a lot of fun. Yes, sometimes it happens that a friend was like-minded while in school or college, but later in adulthood, became a totally different person. In such a case, I would not be able to continue the friendship.
@judelen (429)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
Hello! For me friends is a friends no matter what different of interest they have. In my opinion i will defines friend as a person whom you can count on in times of sorrows, time of emptiness and in time of happiness too. I think the difference of interest of both person is not a hindrance of being a best friend in life. I have so many friends but i don't have a friends in which i could say that i can open my secret to him or her. I wish i could have a friend like it, in which i can simply open everything in life and trust too.
• Denmark
26 Mar 13
of course it's possible for you to be friends, differences is what makes us befriend other people. Just because a person might be a little bit poor doesn't make the person bad :)
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 13
People can change in such a small space of time my friend, life has a funny way of throwing us different options, different pathways, and we life changes us, who we are, who we once were. As you know I had a similar sort of thing happen today, after meeting a guy I worked with 18 years ago, back then I was totally different to the person I am now, ashamed to say back then I didn't know depression existed, I was more sociable, more happy, more confident, and certainly didn't have the anxiety issues I have now. Of course the other side is that when two different friends have different interests there's more to talk about! I for one certainly wouldn't want to see anyone from school again for the rest of my life!
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I think people become friends for different reasons, not just a common interest. It could be shared experience, or belonging to a certain group or liking their personality or a sense of responsibility even. It could be just one reason or a combination or no reason at all. I have friends of all kinds, but I'm sure it is different for other people. Anyway, I have found that some people with the same interests as me just don't make good friends and I am not very close to them. I am sort of close to people who are sincere and have a common approach to friendship as me, and we don't exactly have common interests but I enjoy when we share the variety in our lives.
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
25 Mar 13
I absolutely love to make friends with someone with different interest, may be a different country. It gives me a chance to exchange the thoughts, the cultural inputs and a do things that I wouldn't normally do with someone with similar interest.
• United States
25 Mar 13
I don't know, its hard I think to be friends with people of different interests, I do have an adverse group of friends, they all do something different.
• Romania
25 Mar 13
I have a friend that is the oposite of me and we always argue on every subject. And this is the reason that we are still friends. I always like to talk to him. I hate people that copy me just to be friend with me.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
25 Mar 13
I do have friends and some of them have different interests then me. I love to write and be on computers and many of my friends are not good at that and only get on the computer for email and fb. I am not good at sewing and I have friends who can sew up a storm. I love to cook but bad at cake making and decorating and one of my best friends is good at decorating cakes. So it is possible. I never really thought about that, because we get on well together.
• United States
25 Mar 13
Just the way we grow up with advancement in our sense, so do we grow with divergent views of life and what we want. Two old friends can still be friends not minding their interests. They can still have onething they hold in common for old time sake.
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
25 Mar 13
I would be really very nice to meet up old friends from our school esp. those with whom we shared interests. May be if the interests have changed, it may be due to the way life has turned different for them. But it is possible that they still nurture those same interests at the bottom of their heart but are not able to bring it forth.OK, let's say they have moved away from you, in terms of interests. You might still find common ground if you had some way back is what I feel. I have several of my childhood friends who have developed interests different from mine. They even expressed surprise that I am holding on to them. Yet we could find common ground.
@marguicha (78379)
• Chile
25 Mar 13
I have several friends and none of them have quite my same interests. With a couple I go to the movies, with another I speak of books and literature, I have a man friend who likes to cook as much as I do... The list goes on and on. If we can only be friends of people who are exactly identical as we are, we will not learn much.
@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I think it is quite hard to be with someone, friends or partner, or officemate that would have the very same interest as us. I have some friends that we usually like to do the same things, but i do have friends that are really different and we often do not have the same interests but we get along because we know we have to respect what she wants, or does not want.
25 Mar 13
Anyone can be friends as long as they can get along. Like, for instance, if they respect what you believe and you respect what they believe, then that is a friendship right there.
@ayeeesha (1134)
• Philippines
24 Mar 13
Yes. Being friends with someone is not confined on having the same interests. Each one of us is different and wants different things compared to others but that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. And I think it's better to be friends with someone who is not exactly like you because there's always something to share and talk about. Plus, you can always exchange views over certain matters.
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
24 Mar 13
I don't have friends whom I don't share ANY interests with. But. My best friend is a chemist, or at least she's probably gonna be one (as she's one of the most talented people in that field in the country, and she is just going to graduate this year), and she loves Chemistry, Physics, Mathematical equations and things about which I don't even know what they mean :D. She ENJOYS graphics and stuff like that... and I'm more of an artsy person, who doesn't have a clue about scientific stuff :D.
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
24 Mar 13
I think that some people would still be able to be friends in that situation and other people might discover that they don't have much in common anymore and don't really know what to talk about when they are together. I think that both options exist in that situation, and I think that it would be a good idea to spend some time together and see how things turn out. They could become close friends again or they could discover things don't work out at all, but I think that it would always be worth a try. Some time ago I started looking for some my old friends and old classmates and I managed to find some of them on Facebook. It was a lot of fun to chat to them and hear about the things that had happened since we met. On of the old friends that I got in touch with was a girl who used to be my neighbour. At that time we were close friends and spent almost every day together, but after some time we both moved away from the town where we used live. Today we chat on Facebook. We don't live in the same part of the country, but it could be great meet again one day
@Raine38 (8907)
• United States
24 Mar 13
I think so. There must be something in common between the two of them that they share, like something memorable that they have both experienced, or they know the persons that are close to each other, or even just because they always see each other every single day. Even if we are as different as night and day, we can be friends with them still. I do like getting in touch with old friends and acquaintances over Facebook. And I love to catch up with them. But there are some people whom I wished I hadn't because I have seen nothing but drama and fights on their wall that it makes me embarrassed just to be even associated with them. But just like you said, we always assume that they are still the same person we knew back then and if they change it wouldn't be too drastic. But sometimes, we can also be wrong.
@champan (513)
• Argentina
24 Mar 13
Nowadays Im getting to know more people with the same interests I have. Of course, its logical. You have more things in common, more to talk about, etc. But yes, I run to lots of people with different interesets at university too. And I find it really nice. Its always good to share things , to talk with people who have a different opinion and a different point of view. Its always better for yourself, because you learn a lot from that person, and its the same for him.
@kprofgames (3025)
• United States
24 Mar 13
I'm still friends with a person I knew in grade school. We were only in school till 6th grade, went to different middle schools and different high schools. We are still close yet have very different life styles. I think it's because we grew up together, know the ins and outs of our families and difficulties we been through that keeps us as friends. Where someone that lives next door to her might not understand the issues she has with her family, I was there first hand and saw it and vice versa. We don't talk all the time, we live 3-1/2 hours from each other, but everytime we do it's like just saw her yesterday.