Two-faced friend ...

@Dias14 (178)
Indonesia
March 24, 2013 8:26pm CST
Have you ever had a friend that if you are in front of him very well but when you are behind him talking about you? I have a friend like that, but I did not respond so great, because I know he's evil. What do you think? whether my attitude is correct?
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@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
25 Mar 13
Actually i have a cousin like that, i mean two faced.He is actually 9 years elder to me , i dont know why he used to trash talk about me to others, may be because i am younger and earn 4 times of what he earns but there are may friends and relative of mine who are more successful to me,so should i start defaming them like that,plain stupidity that would be.Anyways one day i took him head on and abused him for doing that, he actually denied and said that he as just joking casually never meant any disrespect.I dont know why people do that behind the back talking,you should have enough guts to express yourself if you have problem with someone.Behind back talking is like acting coward.
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• Indonesia
21 Aug 15
We can meet this typical person anywhere. Personally, if I have a friend like this, for me she/he is not friend anymore, because I believe friend should not doing like that behind us. I would rather keep distance
@Frederick42 (2002)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
If I had such a friend, I have not known about it. If I had known about it, I would have broken that friendship. A two-faced person is a dangerous one and cannot be trusted. Although we should forgive friends for their mistakes, being two-faced is too much. In my opinion, it does not deserve any forgiveness. In friendship, respect is of utmost importance. But a two-faced person is highly disrespectful.
@rivakwa (56)
27 Mar 13
I just laughed on reading this.You know why?Because the world is full of people like your friend.Please continue to maintain a calm attitude,your friend will lose out eventually.Watch carefully your friend is envious of you.You have what he or she does not have.Your keeping silence shows maturity,just pray that all the evil intentions he or she has by being double faced should not see light of day.Your friend is an unfriendly friend.Not less than an enemy.Be wise
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I have friends like that, i just don't hang out with them a lot. I would like to think that my close friends know me as I am, and if they have a problem with me they would say it to my face. I prefer brutal honesty, even if it hurts or makes me uncomfortable or angry, rather than false saccharine sweetness. I want to know my friends the way they really are too and am very frank with them. I get upset when I find out my friends don't really know me, or would assume something about me that's not true. I also get upset with friends who are nice to me but mean to other people that they disdain.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
25 Mar 13
first of all: a person like that is NOT a friend. Secondly: if someone is treating you badly you have to show them you don't accept that behaviour. There is no reason to respond great or forgive. If a child is misbehaving you are punishing him as well. This is what we call: raising someone well. So why accept this kind of behaviour from an adult. If you accept it, it will only be a sign he can go on with it. Since people only quit their behaviour or change it if they know it's wrong, if they understand it's wrong, if they are punished for it. There is no reason to reward them for it.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
25 Mar 13
You have to make the choice. I had a friend like this, there were four of us who hung together during high school. We all knew that one of us was two faced, but she had so many other sides to her personality that we put up with her. If you keep this person as a friend just enjoy the things you like about that person and make sure you never tell important secrets to that person. Or just dump him
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Having a two faced friend is so difficult you know? Because it is hard to decide which face to slap. LOL. xx
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
25 Mar 13
I had that experience some time ago. One of my friends had found a girlfriend and my friend, his girlfriend, my husband and I spent a lot of time together. We welcomed his girlfriend in our small group and I really liked her. We talked a lot and we got to know eachother quite well. I was happy that we were 4 people instead or 3 and I enjoyed the time that I spent with his girlfriend. She was always very friendly and very nice to me. One day I discovered that she has been talking about my husband and me behind our back. She had critized the things that she didn't like about us and talked to her other friends about that. I was hurt and angry when I discovered that she had been saying all those things about us. I think that she should have told us those things directly instead of complaining about those things behind our back.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 13
Hi Dias, as you know that he is evil, you should seek second opinion sometimes when you think a person is an evil, other person will see him as a good person don't hate someone too much it will killing you
@cherigucchi (3904)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
There are friends who are really like that. I also made some like that and I do not make friends with them anymore. I just try to be civil with them but I do not let them in my life anymore. It is okay that you stay away from friends like that because they will eventually drain your energy that might have you lose your patience.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Yeah! I did have a friend like that. And we separated ways as soon as I found out that she was talking ill behind my back. I just confronted her once and never dealt with her again.
@Alisatan (140)
• China
25 Mar 13
Ok, I had a friend who is not two-faced friend, but she hurts me as well. I try my best to recover our friendship, but she just use cold words to hurt me. Now I just feeling a little sad when thinking of her. I just think it is too pity this happened, as we know each other for about ten years. We are best friend all the time but ended this year. Anyway, I will alwayls hope her can be happy.
@bhelle76 (354)
• Canada
25 Mar 13
two-faced friend?...hmmm can we make it four-faced friend? I encountered so many since I was a teenage girl until now. When I was in high school I encountered those kind of people, so instead of making fights to the them, I just ignored. Then, it came back now, i met more again those kind however, i did the same thing.
@Raine38 (8907)
• United States
25 Mar 13
Nope, because those who prove to be like that are no longer my friends. I have no patience over people who are not true to me. I would be hurt, of course because all along I thought we are friends. But then I just console my friend by thinking that it is his lost and I know that I will be able to find another true friend. But in his case, no more especially if he will not change.
25 Mar 13
I don't like that two faced. But if you have already known about that, you don't have to think about him a lot, you better think about your family or honest friends.
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
25 Mar 13
Uhm. Let's think about it. I had a two-faced friend in a sense that she expected me to behave in a certain way, and she whined about every really petty little mistake (which some people don't even count as mistakes) I made, making me feel bad, and making me sound like a bad friend, but she herself was really selfish and conceited, and she committed all those mistakes, and even bigger than those, but she thought she could get away with it. As for the sense you described... I haven't had a close friend act like that, but my classmates. Most of them, more exactly. They were super sweet to me when they asked for my homework or my little summaries to coapy (which they used as cheat sheets), but behind my back, they were making fun of my coughing, my good grades, my allergies, my overprotective parents, my weight and my lack of style (which was because my parents didn't let me choose my own clothes)... at least I've learnt that not everyone who seems and acts nice is nice.