is there a thing such as unconditional love?

Philippines
March 25, 2013 5:36am CST
We are not built the same way Christ was built. We love because we want to be loved in return. No matter how much we deny it, we have that little desire in our hearts to be appreciated. When our love is not reciprocated, we are so bitter about it that we look for someone else who can give us what we need like time, affection and all other things that we attached in loving relationship. Even a caring and nurturing mother feels the same way. We feel broken-hearted when our children fail us but in the end we still love them no matter what.
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@stringer321 (2851)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
25 Mar 13
I had a conversation with someone and he told me that everyone we love, we have an interest for love. Parents love their children so they will take care of them, they want the children to grow and continue the family. The love of the parents is somehow, more unconditional than other kinds of love. My father never stops making me food and buy stupid apartments and rents them for money. It makes us not loving him, but, he doesn't care. (buying the apartments made some arguments between him and my mother. She doesn't want to invest money every time they have some spare. My father doesn't think about anything else...) I don't like my dad, but, he always tells me he loves me and that he won't stop taking care about my economical future...All I want from him is a peace of mind. What can you say about that ? He loves us and doesn't get love back, but, he keeps go on and take care of us in his point of view, economically.
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Sorry but I have to disagree on you with that. He may not be so transparent about it but I know in his heart that he wants you to love him back that is why he never gives up showing you how much he cares. Fathers are quite different from mothers, they good at keeping their true feelings to their children. believe me, he wants it...longs for it...just never have the guts to admit it.
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• Kiryat Ata, Israel
25 Mar 13
I know, but, I just want him to start enjoying life, not everything is money money money. I don't want to have a lot of money to worry about all the time. I see how money corrupts souls. I need him to change his whole way of life and enjoy the peace we have in the house, not to see where everyone is wrong and judge everything. I just can't stand it.
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I always believe that fathers are one of the most stubborn human beings that ever walked on this planet! Being the head of the family they have this kind of notion that they know the best for their children. with your confession, now I believe that you also do love him though you said that you don't!!
@dagami (1163)
• Rome, Italy
25 Mar 13
i believe that the mother's love is the closest to unconditional love. all humans get hurt and even if we get hurt by our children, we still love them just the same. as you said, we still love them no matter what... no conditions...
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I like the way you respond..."a mother's love is the closest to unconditional love" That is true and I could not agree more.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 13
As for me, its not boxed to a mother's love but also a father's love. Ow by the way, I recall the term being used in our theology to depict unconditional love. It's called "Agape". Just a trivia though
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
25 Mar 13
I am quite sure nobody will ever love us the way our parents love us but in the same time I don't think their love is totally unconditional. Maybe it is unconditional in the sense that they will not stop loving us if we do something wrong but I am quite sure there aren't many people in this world who could say they felt that unconditional love from their parents while they were growing up. Parents are here to teach us and guide us but mostly they are imposing their set of rules on us and we try to meet their expectations because we want them to love us and to be proud of us. But sometimes we don't succeed in doing it and we feel tehir disappointment and we feel they would like us to be better. So maybe in their head their love is not conditioned but a child feels it is. I think all the relationships in our life are like that. people have expactations from their friends, parents, children, relatives, siblings, everybody. The set of minimal expectations is different for every person and for every role someone plays in our life. To our children we allow to fail us more than to anyone else, to our parents too, but still we can't say that we love unconditionally because we all want our love to be appreciated.
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
that is what exactly what I mean of unconditional love. I believe that one of the most desire of every human being is to be appreciated.
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• Philippines
30 Mar 13
Yes, I believe that there is a thing called unconditional love. The love of God for us is an example, He gave his only son, Jesus Christ to save us from our sins and to give us the promise of eternal life. We may not built the same way as Christ was built, but I know there are still people who expressed their unconditional love, such as our mothers, who gave us their unconditional love. Their love for their children lives on even beyond their own life spans. We should not become bitter, when the love we gave is not being reciprocated, we just have to remember that the love of God for us is the greatest love we can have. :)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I do believe that there is such a thing as unconditional love for human beings, however I don't feel that unconditional love in human beings is something that is able to exist with all of the people in the world. What I am saying here is that a person can love another person unconditionally, but the people that you will love unconditionally are most likely your own children or family members. You aren't going to develop a relationship with a stranger where you will really be able to love them unconditionally.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
26 Mar 13
I doubt that, even if we say there is we want sooner or later something in return. This can be a thanks or something else. But fact is, if we don't get something in return we will feel abused, used, taken for granted, etc. Which means we lose all our positive energy. Just giving and getting nothing in return will make us feel like an old, empty, used, bottle. We need positive energy to do good to others, we need the feeling to be loved to love someone else.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
26 Mar 13
In my opinion desire to get love can't be considered as pure love. Selfishness and possessiveness is working inside that passion. Persons with desire to give love without desire to get return love are very rare. Such great persons live for well being of mankind/ society as a whole and not for individual persons.
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
25 Mar 13
I belive that parent´s love is something immense and undestructuble like uncoditional love but i do belive the love of their sons to their parents it´s quite strong to even if we struggle and maybe show the hard mode we cnanot denny our love for them. My father tells me he would die do protect me and that I´m his world it´s something a bit heavy to say ot me I guess but maybe it his way of saying he loves me ? My mother isn´t so dramatic and more fun calling me stupid wierd names. The love of parents even if they are 238742 miles away from their blossoms never but never ends. And idon´t htink there´s anything that can break that bound of love so maybe it´s really unconditional love ?
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
25 Mar 13
I think there could be some people who love unconditionally, but most of us, even if we don't want to believe so, have conditions or stuff that we expect from the other person. We are disappointed when they do something we don't approve of...
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Unconditional exist , it is the pure love one has shared to her fellow. She is not loved back and that is sad but still same nothing happens she still loved that man. She knew nothing to expect from that man and here still she continue giving her unconditional love . It is one of a kind , very selfless and hard to be understood. Only she can understand what unconditional is all about .
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
We are all different. We love and I we are loved differently as well. But as you have said Christ lives is unconditionally. He asks nothing in return and we know as well that love of our parents are similar to that of christ. their love for us never changes and never waivers. They loved us even as a child and even if they do not know what we will become when we grow old.
• India
25 Mar 13
yes loving without any reason and caring for every day still loves after any problem has a sign of unconditional love.there are people who love their partner like mad.they not even care about the work,beauty ect.they just love each other truely.
• India
25 Mar 13
True love is always unconditional, it is love between two souls, 2 hearts, never of two bodies, so no strings attached.. but these days persons confuse love with lust, soul with body..
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
A mother's love for her children is unconditional. As a mother, as long as I can do it, I'll do everything for my children. I supported them in whatever they do and respect whatever decisions they make. I made sacrifices for them too.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
25 Mar 13
Hi, Love is like a treasure. It is very easy to say we love but it is difficult to demonstrate. It is said that if someone loves you, you love them back unconditionally not only because they love but also because they are teaching you to love.We only expect love from others in return of our love and nothing else. One sided love would not be successful.