What Stresses You Most?

March 25, 2013 6:17am CST
I just had a talk with my friend who had undergone surgeries, medications and radiation due to abnormal cell staging. It happened nearly two years ago and now she's cancer-free. When it happened she was wallowing in disbelief because she had a very healthy lifestyle and regular check-up with their family doctor. She didn't want to go back to that nightmare so she never missed follow ups and regular check up. While we were talking, she told me that she asked her doctor what foods to avoid so she would remain cancer-free. The doctor never mentioned any food that she should not eat. However, the doctor emphasized that she should avoid being stressed out. I think that being stress-free in this chaotic world we live in is not that easy. How about you? Can you consider yourself a happy person? Is it easy for you to avoid stressors? What stresses you most?
13 responses
@iamsittie (332)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
As a student, my stressors are my subjects especially Accounting subjects. Everyday I need to study my lessons and practice to solve Accounting problems. Read Accounting theories and answer Theory of accounts. What makes me more stressful is that when we had a short quiz then I still got a low score. Next is my parents. I have parents who are not that supportive. Whenever I make decisions they are always nagging me. They are the ones who chose my course actually and when I ask them that I want to shift to other course instead of supporting me and encouraging me they just nag and brag me.
27 Mar 13
Oh, I'm sorry to have learned of your situation. This definitely saddened me. I sympathize with you. I will pray that your parents support what you want for as long as what you want is obviously a good choice. I will pray that as you have respected them, they too will respect your thoughts and desires and ambition even if you are still very young. Pray for your parents also, and continue to love them.
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Actually I am already 22 but they seems so overprotective and so perfectionist. :( Thank you for your prayers. :) I am always praying for them that they will always be enlightened and be guided. I can't deny that during my teenage life, I was a stubborn daughter but now I am always having patience with them. Though they are not that supportive since then, I just understand them.
27 Mar 13
Haha! You're young. You're 22 and I'm almost 40! :D welcome to the world of adults. Your parents probably still finds it hard to accept that you're a grown up. But I'm sure they love you very much. And maybe at this point in time they dread the fact that someday, you may already decide to marry, and to most parents, that's kind of scary.
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
26 Mar 13
I say I am stressed out, which I often was, but I got to the point were I realised nothing is worth the stress so I quit doing it and now I am stress free, maybe they have far too many "S's" in their stress and that is what the real problem is.
27 Mar 13
That's good to know. I also believe that being stress-free is a choice. If we cannot do anything about a certain life's situation, then, let's face the other issues that we can solve at that particular time.
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
3 Apr 13
Yes life is about picking up from wherever we left off.
• Italy
25 Mar 13
eheh I believe we can all be stressed for some reason. We can be stressed by a frenetic lifestyle, we can be stressed because we don't obatin what we want, we can be stressed because somebody disappoint us and so on.. Personally, I can say I love my life and I feel a blessed person. I thank God for my family, for my job, for my friends.. For all I have.. But what sometimes make me feel a bit stressed recently is when I don't have enough time for my self.. I mean sometimes, I'm so much busy in all daily activities like working, helping people, doing my duties, that I feel like I don't have much time for me. I would love if days were made by more than 24 hours eheh. I think everybody need a time of the day to just relax, think a bit and enjoy a personal time.. So this is what stresses me the most :P
27 Mar 13
You have a good disposition ajd perspective on life and even on your own life. Your being thankful to God for your family and your other treasures is enough therapy whenever you get stressed. You are indeed blessed!
• Italy
27 Mar 13
Thank you, you are right adval. I'm blessed :)
@jenny1015 (13395)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
As a stay at home mom, it is hard not to get stresses everyday. Most especially that I do not have any helpers in the house to do things for me. So what I do is to manage my time well. And also have taught my kids to do small things that they can do so I can make other things in the house.
30 Mar 13
You'll do well each day, jenny, especially because you know how to manage your time. And seeing that your kids are also learning can be fun and can lessen your stress.
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
Stress is basically a response of the body to changes from its normal balanced state. There different theories on how stress affects the human body and several other theories on how to avoid it. As for me, I do believe that stress is something we can't avoid but we can adapt to it in order to achieve homeostasis or the steady state of the human body and physiologic mechanisms of the body. Avoiding stress in my job as an ESL teacher is never easy. It is just a matter of out look in life. One thing I have learned in my job is to find things that you can laugh about. Don't let a student who doesn't like doing his/her homework upset you or take away the balance you have worked so hard to achieve before coming to work. It's a waste of time. For me, avoiding stress is a stress in itself hence I don't avoid it. I ride it. Take everything in stride. Laugh. Find happiness in everything that you do and don't forget to pray to our Creator for guidance, patience and strength to go through life everyday.
30 Mar 13
You're absolutely right and I certainly agree with you. Laughter is still the best and cheapest medicine for all types of diseases brought about by stresses in life. Prayer is the best tool to gain wisdom in how to properly take care of our body which is actually a gift from our Lord. You face challenges everyday and you can be victorious when you allow God to guide you. Good point. Thank you.
@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
28 Mar 13
I'm actually kind of a low key person, but I wasn't always! I do have to say, life is much more enjoyable when one is at peace and not under a lot of stress. Not to say things around me are stress free, because they're not! But they are less stressful if I don't jump in with both feet!
30 Mar 13
Good for you. Staying stress free is a choice and with that choice comes your ticket to a healthier you. I always advice my friend who had just been healed of cancer to always find a reason to laugh each day. Her job is so complicated she could not but worry a lot. But these days, she took my advice to take everything lightly without compromising her effectivity at work. She has chosen to be happier and less stressful.
@dagami (1166)
• Rome, Italy
26 Mar 13
hi, adval. not being able to meet the deadlines stresses me most. this includes deadlines in work, in the payment of bills, etc. sometimes there are so many things to do at the same time that it seems time isn't always enough. regarding your friend, it is good to know that she overcame the battle with cancer. living a healthy lifestyle is not a guarantee that one is going to be cancer free. there are also the genetics and environmental factors. unless we walk around in masks, it is impossible to avoid inhaling the pollutants in the air. her family may have had a history of cancer too.
27 Mar 13
I agree with you, there are lots of factors that can contribute to a person's sickness especially these days that there seems to be no safe place to go anymore. The things that make you stressful are normal also to a lot of people. I hope you'll have more stress-free days.
• Singapore
26 Mar 13
Yes I am and I think it is because of my happy-go-lucky attitude. In fact my biggest sources of stress are people who are unhappy over my attitude, such as my mum asking me to find a girlfriend, or my brother telling me to work harder at my career.
27 Mar 13
Select people in our own circle can usually or normally make us stressful. Whatever makes you happy, pursue it..and I hope you'll be able to prove to your family that you just made the right decisions.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I think the doctor should have told her what food she should avoid. One of the most food that can cause cancer are can goods, and barbeque the burn part of the bbq contains nitrate which can cause cancer. Family issue/problems stress me the most. I can easily avoid the stress but you cannot run from it when its time to face them. xx
27 Mar 13
Correct. Those kind of food you just mentioned can make a person very sick. And family issues are the most common stressors to almost every person. I agree withyou that we need to face those things that causes our stress and deal with them with wisdom.
25 Mar 13
I think what I stress most is when I feel less confident. Then I more realize how important the existence of faith in the heart. And when your heart is in good condition, then you will feel the goodness in life.
27 Mar 13
You need to learn to love yourself believing that God loves you so much. If you learn to place your confidence in God, then you will have a greater measure of being correctly self-confident. The measure of faith you have in your heart will do you much good.
@kalav56 (11504)
• India
25 Mar 13
Nowadays there is a lot f stress in life and this is is even greater for youngsters than old people. Everyone will have problems ; some have such clarity of thought that they don't allow themselves to be stressed; there are others who isolate themselves from potentially stressful avenues.As far as I am concerned health issues of family need t o be addressed first; if not I get stressed out.
• Kenya
25 Mar 13
I would have to say the thing that stresses me most is trying to decide on a career path. When you are interested in more than two things, for example I'm very interested in Art and at the same time Animal Well being, it can be quite hard to decide. I however have decided not to make it about money but about passion as I heard someone say "Concentrating on money might just keep you doing things you don't like doing instead of things you love."
27 Mar 13
You're absolutely right in dealing with what stresses you the most -fulfilling your passion. What you are passionate about and following after that passion might actually bring you success and eventually money in the future. At least, you enjoy what you're doing, less stress, more happiness and you are healthier in the end.
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
Over thinking of matters hard to achieve stresses me much but today I practiced come what may and just do my best.
25 Mar 13
If you are a natural achiever, hard-to-achieve ideas can be quite stressful. But you're right, practicing a come-what-may attitude and just doing your best can lead to a more stress-free life. Good for you!