I Want To Hear About Your Babies!

@Janey1966 (24127)
Carlisle, England
March 25, 2013 8:50am CST
Primarily, I want to hear about what it was like giving birth to your babies. I've never given birth myself (and never intend to) but, from what I've heard in the real world, it can either be a wonderful, stress-less experience..or entirely the opposite. For example, when Mum had me (her first child) when she was only 19 she told me that the labor pains dragged on a bit..but when she had my brother Danny 14 months later (can't you tell it was the baby boom lol) she said it was like 'shelling peas.' Now, a friend of mine, who will be in her early 40s now, had her fifth child a couple of years ago. At the same time she had herself sterilized because (in her words), 'It's not like shelling peas, with me it was HARDER giving birth each time, not easier and the fifth baby took hours to come out. I was in agony..never again!' Oh dear. She's OK though..she just doesn't want any more, and who can blame her? So, what was it like for you giving birth? Can you describe the pain for me? I believe it's unlike anything else pain-wise. Did you give birth in hospital (like the people I mentioned above) or at home? Was the birth unusual in any way? Please share. I shall be midwife for the day lol.
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@mariaperalta (19225)
• Mexico
25 Mar 13
My son mIguel - Hes the pride and joy of my life here.
OMG !!! Id never go through that again. Im a small gal, just 119 lbs. I had a son 14 years ago. He was 10 lbs and a few ounces. I even heard the nurse say. " I cant believe this gal had a big baby". I was in so much pain. But.... it was well worth it. Look at my baby today !!!
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
What a lovely looking young man. How old is he? He was worth it, you're right.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
Sorry, he's 14..you said lol.
• Mexico
25 Mar 13
Yes, it was well worth it. Hes been a great kid. I love him with everything.
• United States
26 Mar 13
Hi Janey! For me it was scary. I knew nothing about giving birth. I was scared the whole pregnancy because all I heard were horror stories. When I started into my labor on January 20th 1970 I awakened with a wet bed. I thought my water broke. I called my dad and he came to my apartment and looked at my wet bed. He said I had just peed the bed that it wasn't from the bag if waters. He took me home with him and I lay on my parents' couch until 2 pm. Then they took me to the doctor and he sent me to the hospital. My husband was not allowed to be in the labor room with me. He was not allowed to witness the birth either. He was the father, yet he was shut out of that experience. To me it was scary because I had no support system. I was all alone and scared. My daughter is now 43.
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• United States
26 Mar 13
My daughter was born the next day at 9:13 am. It was a long time with no support.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
27 Mar 13
Was it a tad old-fashioned for a father to witness the birth? I know my Dad didn't witness me or my brother and that's how my Mum wanted it. He'd be like a spare part, worrying.
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• United States
27 Mar 13
Fathers are included in the birthing room now since they were part of it at conception. Most fathers want to cut the cord. My grandson's father didn't get to with each of my grandsons because they were premies. Back in 1970 it wasn't allowed for the father to be present. No family was allowed like they are now.
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@kprofgames (2906)
• United States
25 Mar 13
Welllll, I won't go into a lot of detail but my first two were rather quick. They were smaller though 8lbs and 7 lbs. Remember being up and walking around 10 minutes before my second one was born. Neither one of those two took more then 4 hours from start to finish. The last two however, took some time but they were both around 9 lbs. It wasn't days as some people have experienced but it took a good 8 hours or so. I don't remember much for pain though. Your adrenaline gets going and the pressure you feel has a numbing effect.
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
You're my first responder so to speak and I'm already getting an insight as to what it's like. So, I guess from what you're saying that if the baby is fairly big it takes longer to come out? Makes sense when you think about it. Oh yes, I can imagine the adrenaline kicking in as well. Do they still bother with 'gas and air?'
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• United States
25 Mar 13
With gas and air? Meaning anesthesia?
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
27 Mar 13
I think that's what it is although I've never given birth so I'm unsure.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I have had 2 pregnancies. With the first child, I had been to a fair, then came home and my husband went to work for the night shift. Not more than an hour after he left, I started having labor pains. I tried to call him, but he couldn't get to the phone. So, eventually, I called an ambulance and my doctor and went to the hospital. I was feeling proud of myself for handling it all alone until everyone who came into my room kept saying it was too bad I was alone, so I started to feel bad about it. I got to the hospital about 2 AM, and my daughter was born at 11AM. I had most of the pain in my lower back, and she took her sweet time in coming. I had a spinal block when things got bad, so after than, there was no pain at all. She was 6 weeks early. 14 months later, I gave birth to my son. During my pregnancy, I had fallen down the cellar steps, and often had false labor pains, so when I started having pain 4 weeks before the baby was due, I thought it was false labor again, but it wasn't. He was born 2 hours after getting to the hospital. Again, I had a spinal block. I can't tell you what the last month of being pregnant is like, cause I never went through it.
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
27 Mar 13
You're not the first person to mention a 'spinal block' which is something I'd not heard of before. What happens with the procedure? Is it an injection in the spine?
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
27 Mar 13
Yea...I guess you could call it a nerve block...you feel nothing from the mid-chest down. I remember it felt a little hard to breath for a while. I goes away fairly quickly after the birth with no after effects.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
28 Mar 13
Well, that's a relief.
@kalav56 (11504)
• India
26 Mar 13
Mine was a difficult pregnancy in every way. I was under a lot of emotional stress at that point of time on some other counts and the pregnancy was a bit peculiar. I was in a small town where there were no scans available and the experienced eighty year old doctor had mentioned that he had never seen a case like mine earlier; this was naturally scary for it was the first pregnancy too. I was pampered in my parents’ place after seven months. Apparently the doctors could feel multiple limbs but only one heartbeat.This gave rise to a lot of speculation and finally of course an X-RAY revealed that they were twins. Though my mother was worried about the difficulty in bringing up the two, I was not concerned about that. However, after undergoing through the usual labor process which was long drawn and gave rise to a lot of tension on the doctor’s part because one child was stillborn and the second took a long time to come out, the second one was born. He is my only child and God’s gift to me because one cannot ask for a better, cleverer or more sensitive child ever.
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@kalav56 (11504)
• India
27 Mar 13
After undergoing all the hardships of labour, she did not reap the benefit; it is so sad.I am lucky that at least one child survived.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
28 Mar 13
Very true.
@cherigucchi (3866)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
I had three childbirths and each was different from the other though all of them were delivered normally. My eldest was longest wait. i was in the hospital for 2 days before I finally gave birth. The two were quite quick but I had epidural anesthesia with the second because I chilled out of trauma of the first born. There was a short gap between them. So I had never recovered from the first experience of giving birth then I found out I was pregnant again after 9 months of delivering the first child! The third one made me decide to undergo ligation as advised by the OB.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
Is that the same as what I'm having done tomorrow? An endimetrial ablation? Sounds similar but I'm so naive about these things, I haven't really got a clue.
@MsTickle (24756)
• Australia
31 Mar 13
The ligation means she had her tubes tied.
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
There are two ways in which ligation is done. The first one is that thing you mentioned while the other one is being cut. The latter is more permanent than the first one because there is a tendency that the ties might loosen up.
• Jacksonville, Florida
25 Mar 13
Okay so my first labor was the hardest for me. It was the most painful labor I had. Let me mention as well that I did all 3 labors naturally, I had no epidural. I threw up a couple of times because my body was not used to the pain. But my labor only lasted for 2 hours which was my longest labor. With my second labor it lasted an hour and a half and it was no where near as difficult as my oldest. It was much easier probably because it was my second time and my body got used to the pain from the first time. With my third labor. I started to have my daughter at home. This one was the weirdest labor! I was eating dinner. I had just finished. I got up to throw my plate away and my legs went completely numb. I almost fell on the floor. I could not stand. No pain, just numb. Then it felt like something dropped. I was freaking out, lol. Thank God at the time I lived with my parents, my husband was at work but at least I had someone there with me. So, we drove to the hospital. The doctors thought I was faking my entire pregnancy because I only gained 11 pounds with her, so I was really small! So, after 20 minutes of trying to make me use the bathroom-which didn't happen, they finally checked me and I was 10 centimeters dialated. When they checked me they could see her. Two pushes and there she was! She was most definitely the easiest labor I have ever been through! =) Even my first labor was not that bad, I had all back pain with my first two labors. My lower back felt like someone was punching me in it or stabbing me in it at different times. But it was not something I could not handle again because I know I could. Labor for some people might be really hard but for me it wasn't. I was very lucky, I had easy and quick labors and I lost all of the weight within a week after having my kids. I am thinner after having kids than before I had them... I am weird I know. Lol.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
25 Mar 13
My kids weighed 6lbs 13 ounces, 6lbs 14 ounces and 6lbs 15 ounces! Lol. They were all around the same weight and the same length!
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
Wow! Were they all on time as well? None of them were premature I take it? You're so lucky that you didn't gain much weight either. Mum was the same. She had a thing about eating plums lol. Big bags of them. My Dad had to go out specially to buy her some!
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
I was in labor for 18 and half hours with my one and only kid. She turning 5 next month. But to this day, I can still remember and feel the agony of that afternoon-night-morning experience. I was 35 then. They tried to get her out of me via normal delivery at first. I tried, I really did. But she wouldn't come out. I was given epidural for the pain, twice. Then finally succumbed to getting a C-section by the last hour. I was getting really tired. But overwhelming relief and joy filled me as soon as she came out and was handed to me. She wailed like crazy. But soon stopped as she heard my voice. It was like she was telling me how the doctors and nurses were hurting her or something. Caught it all on video. You're asking how the birthing process felt? Well, it felt like a combination of extreme menstrual cramps and going to the bathroom for deed number 2 (the really bad kind). Not pretty, huh?
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
8 Apr 13
Oh my, no it isn't..but I'm glad it was worth it.
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@jazel_juan (15768)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I had my first daughter when i was 19, the labor was that hard, but i got through it and yes it was worth it, i had my second baby 2 and a half year after and that time it was faster, it only lasted for an hour and he came out! lol it was that fast! while my third one was the most painful of all..it was all pain and blood..which made me really say enough
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
26 Mar 13
You're not the first person to say the third or fourth child was the most painful. Strange that, isn't it? I would've expected it to be the opposite. Glad you're ok though..and I'm not surprised you don't want anymore!
• Canada
25 Mar 13
Hi Janey I had my baby 30 years ago, I was young and I also had natural child birth (no medications) because I was so young I was scared as well. Yes it is a pain a woman never forgets. On the other hand it is so worth the pain when you see what you get. My son and I have always been close and he now has his first baby my first grandchild. I did have my son in the hospital, but I think more women now a days give birth at home which I think is a good idea as long as their are no complications.
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
The mother of my nephew once told me that when you're giving birth you're not seeing all the blood and gore as I mentioned the fact that I fainted in class once when we were shown a film of a woman giving birth in hospital. I guess she's right isn't she as you can't see what's going on and after all the pain a baby is plonked into your outstretched arms.
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@chikapet (47)
25 Mar 13
Was in labor pain for two days, the pain was a little bit more like mp pains. It turned out i had obstructed labor and i had an emergency cs. Its been three years and i am still scared of normal delivery from what i saw other women go through. From what i learnt the pain gets really bad when you are close deliver, say like twenty minutes.
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
It's still dangerous isn't it? Childbirth. No-one truly knows what's going to happen until it does happen, if you see what I mean. Everyone is different.
@dagami (1166)
• Rome, Italy
25 Mar 13
i only have one child so there's no point of comparison for me. the pain started early in the morning and my baby came out at 8pm. it's not always there, the pain. it comes in intervals. the pain during the contractions was the most painful in all my life. experts also say that childbirth is one of the most painful experiences but the reward is great. becoming a mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
Yes, I guess the baby at the end of it all is the best tonic for the pain isn't it?
@bingskee (5239)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
for some normal deliveries, labor pain is indescribable, and it was to me. therefore, i can't describe it. kidding aside, there are normal deliveries that can go painless now. one has an option to have it done that way. some labor pains last more than a day. mine last for only four (4) hours but i think i would not wish to undergo that process again (having to experience pain during labor). i had a C-section with the second child but my situation was delicate that time because my case was placenta previa. i was bleeding that time (there was no pain but lots of blood) that it's need a bag to transfuse during the process.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Mar 13
Wow, you had to go through a lot there my friend. It's fascinating (to me at least) that each delivery is unique.